How will a girl react if you sometimes tell her her flaws?

[Galaxy21]

I'm a college student (guy) and i have this girl that i try to get a reaction from time to time by telling her flaws she has, i would like to know how she's thinking when i tell her that stuff considering that NO ONE else tells her this kind of thing. for the record i'm not annoying with her or anything, we have pleasant convos and she initiates convo often, so i'm not being annoying that's not my style. Also, i asked this question before and had shitty answers like "no girl wants to hear that" - "don't tell her her flaws" - so please just help me understand what she may think when i do this? thank you

[CR3AMS0DA]

Depends what "flaws" you are pointing out.. And why? To get a reaction out of her? Seems cruel.

I mean if you're saying "wow. Your skinny arms are weird looking" that is means for a kind "fuck off dude"

But if you're saying "hey sometimes you don't listen very well and tend to direct the conversation towards yourself" type of flaw, maybe she needs to hear it.

Be more specific, but in general, pointing out someone's flaws is no way to attract them or get them to like you.

The only way that would work is if you did it enough to generate some insecurity power over her which is no basis for a good relationship anyway.

[CR3AMS0DA]

And I guess to answer your question. She would think "wow I am embarrassed. This guy doesn't make me feel very good"

[Galaxy21]

toi be more specific, i mean flaws like "you're too fragile" - "you're childish" - "you guve up too easily"

[Rocket_Queen]

I have met one person like that before who would tell me my flaws and it always left me with the "I don't know if I should be offended or if I'm more intrigued" thought. Honestly at times I was offended and would fire back, and he took it like a champ. He was very interesting to say the least, but also knew he was ridiculously charming so I always kept him at arms length.

I don't think most women want to hear their flaws, maybe ask her what she thinks they are. Let it be her idea. People are more open that way.

That's all I got.

[Galaxy21]

So, i understand that it's a good thing to do?

[Galaxy21]

considerung that if i point her flaws i'll be different fromwhat she hears everyday

[Rocket_Queen]

I think it just depends on her. And I think your blue anon said it best. I liked his answer.

[alaysatlorp]

No girl wants to hear her flaws that's just uncool. Don't do it unless they really bother her. And yes girls can point out their flaws but they don't want to hear them. For example I think I'm fat but I don't like hearing others saying I'm fat.

[Galaxy21]

Not physical, i mean personality flaws, and when you say no girl wants to hear that, i know but if no one tells her that, How is it ever going to be corrected? besides if girls don't want to hear it it just means they don't want to face the truth.

[alaysatlorp]

Most girls are like that but you need to understand that what to you may be flaw or truth to someone else may be good. So you shouldn't measure everything on yourself. What do you want to tell her?

[Galaxy21]

actually i'm pretty much done ! i told her every flaw she has, but what i don't understand is that she never tells me my own flaws. I tell her her flaws to get a reaction but nothing happens

[alaysatlorp]

Because she thinks it's not cool to do that. But in healthy relationship you should do that. Just don't go overboard and tell her that that is one of her flaws.

[Galaxy21]

thank you for answering

[Anonymous]

She's not going to be a happy bunny.

But if you're trying to get with the girl, you're also basically saying that you don't care if you get her or not. You're not changing your opinions just to get with her. You're genuine and being yourself. That smacks of a certain confidence which can sometimes work in your favour.

[Galaxy21]

So good or bad?

[Opinion Owner]

Depends. I said "if".

[Galaxy21]

well, thank you, your answer is pretty lgical compared to others. thanks

[serious]

That will depend on the girl basically. I think most women will appreciate the guy's honesty and will take it in a good sense.

However the way the guy points out the flaws is also important, like if he points it out in a honest, yet positive and a polite way then I am sure no woman will have a problem with that.

[Galaxy21]

same opinion

[serious]

Thanks for the MHO

[Galaxy21]

welcome

[jason15300]

If she loves you or understanding, she will be happy that you've opened up to her and will be accepting

[jason15300]

Shit I read that wrong

[jason15300]

I thought it was if tell her my flaws 😂

[rgb008]

"I'm not being annoying, that's not my style"
Lmfaooooo sure, op

[Galaxy21]

If you don't understand my behaviour it doesn't make it wrong

[bobbyxx]

Women can't handle criticism. They have been taught by feminists they are always right and perfect. If a man points out a flaw in a woman he gets accused of being a misogynist.

[ClumsyAngel]

That depends on the person. Some take critic better than others