Why would you tell a girl you found her weakness (tickling)?

[Idonthaveausername]

I'm extremely ticklish, so I jump and scream when people tickle me, especially if I don't see it coming. A guy at work (who flirts with everyone) tickled me and said "Now I know your weakness." What does that mean? My ex said the same exact thing about me being ticklish

[Anonymous]

It's meant to be banter, a natural way to flirt, give you a shit test, and tease you. Putting you on edge without doing something "threatening" is a perfect way to see how you'll react.

With banter in general, seeing that the other person can be witty, can defend her/himself, and can spar without letting the conversation escalate to a serious argument, without getting personal, and without being a asshole/bitch… it shows that the other person is not a moody crybaby, has a good measure of self esteem, can be self-deprecating, and has a bit of maturity. He is trying to create a spark of attraction that goes beyond the physical.

But tickling is shitty and extremely cheap way to instigate this type of conflict. It's like the person doing it lacks the wits to put you on edge in any other way.

I'm also very ticklish and I *hate* being tickled. For anyone who ignores my serious warnings to stop immediately, they will find themselves on the receiving end of a half-involuntary violent reaction to make it stop at nearly any cost. It may be my weakness but, if you proceed, you do so at your own risk. It's the one thing that makes me absolutely, wildly insane.

[Idonthaveausername]

Alright, that makes sense. But both straight girls and guys tickle me because everyone thinks my reaction is funny, so I know it isn't always flirting. I guess it's just a coincidence that I've had more than one guy tell me "I know your weakness" when they tickle me

I absolutely loathe being tickled and have developed an involuntary reaction to kick and hit people when they do so because my siblings used to pin me down and tickle me so much as a kid

[Opinion Owner]

I hear you about the reaction… mine was born out of sixth grade bullies who never left me alone until I used the natural spastic reactions and flailing to disguise serious punches to get them to quit.

I guess I see your point… it's not necessarily "foreplay" since anyone who wants to get a reaction out of you thinks it's hilarious. I also have a close friend who tries it on me every time he's had too much to drink and his wife yells at him to stop because I've clocked him before.

But if it's seriously the only way a guy can think of to build rapport with you, it's a really unimaginative way to do it. In your place, I would meet a smug claim of "I know your secret" with freezing contempt. It's harassment.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you for MHO.

[martyfellow]

Anything about your body is a form of fitting. talking about being ticklish is 'safe', though, hard to accuse him of harassment just for kidding about that. So he will readily talk about it at work.

[Idonthaveausername]

Lol. We work in a factory, so we can talk about whatever because there aren't any customers to report us. Sometimes the guys joke about sexual stuff and I like to joke that I'm calling HR on everybody, so I guess he's just getting back at me for that. There's no harassment, just a bunch of hooligans goofing off. Honestly I love the atmosphere because everyone is so relaxed, honest, and not trying to compete for sales or having to deal with bitchy customers

[emerald77]

It doesn't mean anything.

[Idonthaveausername]

I've just heard it more than once, so I was wondering if it was a coincidence or if it actually means something

[Omar5881]

Well it's fun I don't know if you're mad about it
Unless someone is violating your personal space ofc

[Idonthaveausername]

I don't mind it too much the first couple of times, but after that it gets annoying if they do it too often

It made my coworker jump because I screamed so loud the whole factory could hear me

[Omar5881]

Well yea that way is annoying well tell that person that you srsly are aganist him doing it

[Idonthaveausername]

He's cool and doesn't do it since I told him to stop. I just wondered if it's more than just a coincidence that both him and my ex said "I know your weakness" when they found out I'm ticklish

[Omar5881]

It's just a word not really a weakness it's cool

[MattD678]

my weakness is tickling as well but I assume you never pass out from it like me

[Idonthaveausername]

Lol I've gotten pretty lightheaded before from it. My siblings used to try and make me pee my pants all the time, so now I have an iron bladder

[MattD678]

when I was younger I would get tickled so much I'd pass out and find myself in the first aid room not a nice feeling

[Idonthaveausername]

Bunch of assholes. Some people don't know when to quit

[MattD678]

I'm not as ticklish well maybe if a girl tickled me maybe something different

[ADFSDF1996]

He's probably playing around.

[Reddwolf]

just trying to play with you