When a girl rejects me I won't ever talk to her again, a woman friend of mine thinks that I'm being stupid and taking rejection too personally by doing that. But I have to disagree, why should I put time and effort into someone who isn't interested in me?
Is ignoring a girl after she rejects you acceptable?
What Girls Said 17
Acceptable? Well, technically you can do whatever you want to do. But is it rude and unnecessary? Yes. Unless she was mean to you and acted rude, I don't see any point in ignoring a person completely. So what, if she comes up to you afterwards and wants to talk to you like a normal person, you'd just look away and pretend that she's not there? Yeah, that's rude. And kinda pathetic, honestly. You're putting in just as much effort into ignoring her as you would if you'd just talk to her like a decent person.
Also, girls are more than just potential love interests. Newsflash: you can have ACTUAL conversations with us even though we're not interested in dating you! Wow!
Seems to me like you're just taking rejection way too personally. You're overreacting.0
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Depends. If it's a girl yuo hardly know or you don't see her often I don't see any problem with it. If it is someone you HAVE to interact with (e. g. a coworker) its kinda rude because you are just giving her a hard time. If it's a friend and you ignore her for not beeing attrackted to you, then your a shitty friend.1
because just dropping someone out of your life completely, especially if they were once a friend, just because they didn't want to date you is an asshole move.0
i am not a fan of the silent treatment at all, so i'd say no but it happens all the time so i guess its acceptable
i personally would just go on with my life and do my thing but i'd say hi or something if i saw them, i am not that rude0
You are right, you shouldn't0
Yes, I think it's totally fine. I'd ignore someone who rejected me, too.0
It's understandable but personally I think it's very childish. You've taken the time to get to know each other, maybe it was just a bad time, maybe she isn't over her ex, whatever the reason it's a bit of a toddler thing to do to stamp your little food and turn around because a girl said no.
Girls can be more than a walking pussy you know.0
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Not really. if she rejected you, she probably doesn't want to speak to you anyway.. I wish more guys would do this, actually.. it's so awkward having to talk to guys who I've rejected.. and it's annoying too because they're still holding onto a glimmer of hope that they can somehow get out of the friendzone2
Well, it depends. If it helps you move on, then yes I believe it is okay. However, don't be rude if she rejects you. I'd say ignoring is okay, if it makes you feel better. But if she tries talking to you, make sure you don't ignore her, pretend she isn't there, etc. But you're right. There is no reason to put time in effort for someone who won't do the same.0
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What Guys Said 13
I think that if she's unbelievably rude in the way she says "no" then yes, I think it's ok to ignore her.
I usually don't take a rejection personally, and I figure that just because she said "No" to a date doesn't mean I can't say "Hello."
I never got the whole "It's girlfriend, family, or nothing!" idea. If you DO have women friends, then aren't you putting in time and effort into someone who isn't interested in you?
I don't even look at a first (and only) date as a "waste of my time," even if I never see her again. I had coffee, it was good; I learned we weren't compatible, and I wish her the best. I put a small amount of time into something that... probably wouldn't pan out. I get not groveling, or putting energy into someone who is going to be toxic, but I don't get the idea of "Why bother putting in the time if it isn't going to immediately work out the way I want?"
I've got a "friend" who barely speaks with me these days. She basically puts me off. It's disappointing, but I don't look at knowing her (years ago) as a waste of my time. It may be disappointing, and I may not get why it happened, but... oh well. Even if the friendship has fizzled, and I never see her again, she's never been a waste of my time.
I am barely friends with most of the guys I hung out with 6 years ago. We'd spend hours playing Halo. I don't get to play Halo much, and I can't say I'm any better (or worse) for putting in the time. I don't speak with most of these guys... but I don't see any of that time as a "waste." It was a lot of time spent. It's one of my happiest memories - one I wouldn't trade.
It takes a big betrayal for me to look at friendship (or getting to know someone) as not worth putting in the time.1
Perfectly acceptable. She wasn't obligated to date you, and you're not obligated to continue talking to whom you don't want to.2
I agree with you, when you asked her out and she said no, it told you she wasn't interested so why bother being interested in her anymore when you know for certain she's not into you. Its a waste of time and energy to give her anymore thought after that. Besides what would your friend propose to do instead? try to befriend her? keep crushing on her? nope when you get rejected you move on. Its as simple as that.0
Oh, it's totally acceptable. Why keep a reminder around that you've been rejected? just next her and move on.1
If you're mad or hurt that they rejected you so you ignore them for a little while, that's natural and understandable.
You don't have to go out of your way to socialize with them, but if you refuse to say another word to then ever again, you're probably being passive-aggressive and spiteful (like you're trying to punish them for rejecting you).0
I agree. Ignore anyone who says otherwise.1
You can still be friends with someone who doesn't fancy you! If you get on well then it's still possible to remain friends0
NO!!! You have got to show that girl that you are perfectly fine without her. Dont show weakness! It is also pretty childish if u do that and im 16 bro just sayin.0
You are right my friend.
You are not obligated to be friends with her.
She is acting bitch.0
Do whatever you want bro it's your life. Ignore her and make her feel shitty about herself.0
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