What would make a woman a failure in life?

[chris_987]

[Ms_Facesitter]

Giving up on doing what she wants to do, or not learning from the mistakes.

[chris_987]

What if she did something she didn't plan on doing like becoming a single mother, or a stripper.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Life's just unpredictable like that, what you do from that point on is what matters to me more.

[chris_987]

I ask the question because I think we're at a point we're girls don't have standards anymore, so they don't know if they failed at life, only a society that doesn't have standards on women would say being a single mother is out of her control.

[Ms_Facesitter]

To be honest I think it's just being reckless. Pregnancy, taking that risk, is a choice. You see my username, needless to say, I don't believe in no sex before marriage, but you can do it safely, you can both protect yourselves and just have fun without intercourse. But I'm sure that there are single mothers or strippers out there who live a happier life than some of the people here.

[chris_987]

No there's is no dignity in selling you body for money, but it's hard concept to grasp on society that uses sex to sell everything.

[Ms_Facesitter]

But if that's something that they want to do, I'm not going to judge. in MY eyes it's just a dance, a form of expression, art. I sure can't do what they do, I'd fall right on my head.

[chris_987]

Why would you judge the same sex? It wouldn't make sense for you to set standards for people you only see as friends instead of wives. I'm sure you judge men who cheat and kill people.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Why not? Why would gender matter here? Gender doesn't matter when people judge. When judging you can go by what one looks like, what they say what they do.

[chris_987]

I think girls do judge girls tho especially if your fighting for the same guy.

[Ms_Facesitter]

No, just think logically here... forget gender, "what are the things people can judge You on?" Just this. You can judge on basically anything, you should know this.
I'll give examples from this site.

Judging on what someone says:

What do you all think of possessive guys? ↗

This is a random question I picked out here. My mind could wander and go "Is she just curious of how they are perceived? Has she met possessive guys? What's her stance on possessive guys? Is she in a relationship with one? Does she like possessive guys? Does she think it's healthy or unhealthy for the relationship? etc...

Judging on what someone does:
There is this guy named Apodog or something. He is obsessed with wanting to know what people think of him. He keeps asking that question. It makes me wonder. "Where is that coming from? If he hungry for attention? Is he that insecure that none of our opinions matter because he'll ask it again in notime? Does he get off on it?" Why does he do this etc

Judging on what someone looks like. You mentioned that sex sells, beauty sells, unfortunately that's the world we live in. In some cases beautiful people get the job they are less qualified for just because of their looks. I've seen people here who judge the beautiful people. Think they expect others to kiss their feet. But I've met someone here who in my opinion is very handsome, but he's very friendly and down to earth. So "beautiful people are assholes?" thrown out of the window by this man.

[chris_987]

The exception doesn't make the rule, but being a good judge is sign of intelligence, you probably don't believe I'm the Bible a good example was Soloman, god have him wisdom to judge Israel. So when two women came to him saying that one stole the others child. Solomon made a wise decision to tell them he was gonna split the baby in two so that way they could each have a child, and obviously the real mother cried out and so no just let her have the baby and the women who stole the child agree two have the baby cut in two. See that what having a good judge of character can do.
All the time I hear women say that we shouldn't judge or that they don't judge, to me it just means that your ignorant and not smart enough to navigate the world using wisdom. So yeah you definitly should exercise some judgement so that way can think critically and not appear foolish when they answer to your issues are obvious.

[Ms_Facesitter]

I think it's okay to judge, but not okay to jump to conclusions. I think that's where people get confused.

[chris_987]

Sometime you have to shit or get off the pot, if a shady guy is walking towards you in the middle of the night I wouldn't judge you for jumping to conclusions so you don't get raped.

[Beela]

If she failed to raise a good man.

[chris_987]

Then many women are losers

[Beela]

Because men are disappointments。

[chris_987]

What makes them disappointed