i live in chennai(india), where most of the girls are dark complexion. Initially I had a kind of uncomfortable feeling with them because I was new to chennai, but now I am OK with black girls, I can even find good qualities in them, me and my friend comment on those girls like "today you look good" they like it and they appreciate. its true that men want their girl to look beautiful and fair, but if a black girl behavior is so impressive even we start liking those girls. And at last I want to say that all white mens are not good looking.
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this is a very interesting post. I can totally relate to what you're saying. Eff the people who just don't understand where this stems from and are going to judge you and call you a hater. They don't understand. It's so easy to judge somebody when you don't know from first hand how much it deeply hurts to feel what has made them think the way they do in the first place.
I really don't have too much to say other than I am struggling to embrace my features without them looking more white and it's really hard getting racism from everywhere :(
I only date black women and I only date black women from the Caribbean or Africa. 90% of African American women are undatable. 48% have herpes. Huge percentage are promiscuous and have never heard of birth control. Illegitimate kids by multiple men. Huge percentage are absolutely STUPID with money and spend the equivalent of a car payment each month on their hair and nails. I wonder how many Asian kids went to college on money from black women's weave addiction. Thats before we even get into attitude. 3/4th of AA women I have dated have asked me for money at some point in our relationship.
I'm black American, have never worn weave in my life, Im 27 and not promiscuous waiting till marriage and only been in one relationship which was serious and lasted 3 years. Its not fair to judge and hate based on skin color.
You do realize that they get those STDs and pregnancies from black men. Black men also have quite the attitude against black women. This “blame black women for everything wrong in the black community” needs to stop and doesn’t take away black men’s faults. Black men are the only race of men that have such an irrational and persistent dislike of their own race of women. Black men are also the most absent fathers. Black men kill other black men often. Quit blaming black women and white people for black male irresponsibility.
I actually find black women more attractive than all others, but I don't go around shouting it or anything its just not the done thing I guess, oh and I may be biased in my love of darker skin, I've had sun stroke :(
I actually think they're really cool, both black men and women got a very funny and hilarious accent which I really like. I'm not against black women or anything, I have 3 black girls in my class and they're all good friends of mine. They tend to be very sarcastic, which seems to insult some people, but it's fine with me.
hmm coming from the north central plains (SD & IA)...was never around black females much (RARELY) and I never got the idea that they liked me or had any interest in me...but GAG has been changing my mind...I am friended with at least 20 black females on here and a few of them have become good friends..but most white males that I know don't think that black females would be interested in dating them...
This is true. My head would yank left and right checking out a beautiful black woman but all I could do was look because I did not know whether they would like me or not or if they were going to go off on me or something, but when I get a smile or a wink or a certain look...woow! Not too mention those big, sexy gorgeous botox-free lips oooohhhh! Yeah, I've got Chocolate fever and I don't want the cure :). Now, I am with one black woman and if it continues to go like it has been it's wifey!
YOu should be super proud to be a black women. Tbh we are the most beautiful and diverse women alive. I am a black women as well and though it does get hard, I try no to let it effect me. White men to me are tricky because some will genuinely care about you while others are experimental and want to be able to say they dated a black girl or they also could be fetishizing you. I date within my race because thats what i prefer. We as black women dont get love from other people but as long as we support and love one another as black women and have strong black women around us, what these people say shouldn't effect us.
Once I saw this, I had to shake my head because I'm african American, and American italian & german, I don't see how people can be so discriminant. We are all human, with different color skin. Lets put it this way, crayons are all different colors, but they are still crayons right?, you don't see them discriminating each other. Why can't this world be more like a crayon box? Lol sheesh.
Way to long to read. But for real, I love black woman. Nice tight pink vagina. I'm not racist at all, I don't like that black pple with no grammer and talk like morons "wutz going down dog, we be chilin tomorrow" why don't you talk regular and use proper grammer, same goes to wiggers.
Yeah you are right TWins16! I love my girl's tight, pink vagina! She can move it and gives me a squeeze when I've been good, OMG, black women are hot! Let the brothas' leave them behind, guys like me will take them in our arms and take them to the king's table and when those same once rich brothas' lose their rap, acting, sports money and end up broke they'll be alone because only a black woman would stand by her man, for the most part. As for bad grammar? Hate it and I'm not talking about those 1s
You were never a slave, nor victimized from any perceived historical injustices done against your race; so, just leave that out. Secondly, black women can be attractive, but they're not my preference. IF you're white acting and respectable, even go so far as to be soft spoken you'll attract white guys.
Because y’all are stupid and are led by sheep have baby daddy’s and spend what little welfare money y’all have on nails and feed your kids garbage. Vote democrat and all they do is keep y’all on welfare so they’ll have a secured Vote. You see how little Obama spent on Black campaigning? Because LBJ bought yalls asses with the great society. Think for yourself and quit worrying about dumb shit like who likes you. Would you want to like an entitled uneducated person that went around blaming their problems on everyone else?
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I just can't stand black people that think I owe him or her something because their black I mean wasn't involved with slavery and you wasn't either so why should I owe you something and the N word really if your gunna use it when you talk to you black friends no matter if its nigga or what ever it means the same and if you use it hell yea I am
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I've met maybe one white guy who looks down on black women the way you described, and it was some drunk racist f*** I ran into at a gas station. I'm a white guy, and I'm normally not attracted to most black girls, but it's not because I think they're "inhuman." It's just a matter of attraction. Sorry you're running into problems.
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well I'm in the south so I don't know maybe its different around here.
but I can't help but to feel a little bad because if we were friends you would think I was ugly.
I'm from Alabama, and none of my black female friends have told me they have those sort of problems. It's possible that they don't share that sort of stuff with me, though. It's also possible that I've just lived in the right places, or that we've managed to surround ourselves with the right kinds of people. I also work with several black girls/women, and we all get along just fine.
Finally, why would I think you're ugly? That's just putting words in my mouth.
I realize that I wouldn't be as aware of racist things that go on as somebody who experiences them, and I'm sorry that things have happened to you. Don't walk around assuming people look at you a certain way, though. I've had a pretty low opinion of myself before, so I sort of know what it's like to walk around wondering what people are thinking about you. Even if it was for a different reason, I eventually had to realize that a lot of it was in my head, and that even if somebody WAS looking
down on me, it didn't matter. Sure, there could be a lot more love out there, but I think most people are just indifferent. There might not be as much hate as you think. I hope things get better for you.
you said you are not attracted to most black girls which is fine...
im just upset that people are grill'n me for having the same thoughts as other black women. know one has even answered my question they are just focused on the statement I made.
Not being attracted DOES NOT mean that I think somebody is ugly - it just might not be my thing. I think a few black girls I know are pretty cute, but they don't seem to be interested in white guys.
And sorry I couldn't answer your question - I don't know why people would hate on black women. It doesn't seem like many of the people you're referring to use this site. Hopefully America will be completely colorblind in a couple of generations. We can't get there unless everybody tries, though.
It is nice to hear your honest perspective, though. I hope this doesn't get taken down. The admins on here seem to take down all the questions I spend the most time answering, so I might have jinxed it.
Why are you proud to be black? I don't get that stuff. I'm not proud to be white. I mean, you know who else was proud to be the race they were? Aryans. And look what they did
There is also a Mexican gang in Texas who pride them selves on the fact that they are Mexican, and also really violent. I think the whole proud black thing is a way to help end the years of being being ashamed to be black even in the past century.
Though I see this more as a vent, and less of a question, as a black female my self, I do understand where you are coming from but took it to an extreme.
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i don't think I took it to the extreme. but PHLove really did.
She dose make a great point, I feel your pain, but I don't agree that every problem within the black community is the fault of past white oppression. I don't totally agree with you, but do understand why you are saying what you are saying.
what are you talking about? I'm not in pain. I was just thinking about something and I decided to find a place to talk about it. I never said that white people are 100% of the problem with our black community but I do think they are a great deal of it.
I still disagree with that. Yes white people from hundreds of years ago and 400 years of opression have left a big impact but its not all white people, and every issue is not the foult of even past white people.
you are in pain. it is obvious to all of us. statements from you-"we were never treated like women or even humans for that matter" "i think I would feel better if white women would have a harder life but it looks like that's not happening anytime soon. I feel most of the hate from white men" those are statements from someone in pain.
and I think you need to go f*** yourself. because I know for a fact that there is some sort of animosity towards black women. you didn't even answer the question.
that's only a few people that hate black women for no reason only except they're because black, it's terrible I know, but that's what they think about in the depth of their mind... just because they're different... :(
Sixstring, you are correct. Browns have a hard tow coming their way in the next little bit. This might be why so many of their woman don't want brown men, perhaps.
I think this is a public service message. I dunno. On that note! I LOVE black girls because they are just awesome. They know how to have fun. You have those occasional different ones, but in general they know how to keep it real.
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i live in chennai(india), where most of the girls are dark complexion. Initially I had a kind of uncomfortable feeling with them because I was new to chennai, but now I am OK with black girls, I can even find good qualities in them, me and my friend comment on those girls like "today you look good" they like it and they appreciate. its true that men want their girl to look beautiful and fair, but if a black girl behavior is so impressive even we start liking those girls. And at last I want to say that all white mens are not good looking.
this is a very interesting post. I can totally relate to what you're saying. Eff the people who just don't understand where this stems from and are going to judge you and call you a hater. They don't understand. It's so easy to judge somebody when you don't know from first hand how much it deeply hurts to feel what has made them think the way they do in the first place.
I really don't have too much to say other than I am struggling to embrace my features without them looking more white and it's really hard getting racism from everywhere :(
I only date black women and I only date black women from the Caribbean or Africa. 90% of African American women are undatable. 48% have herpes. Huge percentage are promiscuous and have never heard of birth control. Illegitimate kids by multiple men. Huge percentage are absolutely STUPID with money and spend the equivalent of a car payment each month on their hair and nails. I wonder how many Asian kids went to college on money from black women's weave addiction. Thats before we even get into attitude. 3/4th of AA women I have dated have asked me for money at some point in our relationship.
I'm black American, have never worn weave in my life, Im 27 and not promiscuous waiting till marriage and only been in one relationship which was serious and lasted 3 years. Its not fair to judge and hate based on skin color.
You do realize that they get those STDs and pregnancies from black men. Black men also have quite the attitude against black women. This “blame black women for everything wrong in the black community” needs to stop and doesn’t take away black men’s faults. Black men are the only race of men that have such an irrational and persistent dislike of their own race of women. Black men are also the most absent fathers. Black men kill other black men often. Quit blaming black women and white people for black male irresponsibility.
I actually find black women more attractive than all others, but I don't go around shouting it or anything its just not the done thing I guess, oh and I may be biased in my love of darker skin, I've had sun stroke :(
:) *thumbs up*
I actually think they're really cool, both black men and women got a very funny and hilarious accent which I really like. I'm not against black women or anything, I have 3 black girls in my class and they're all good friends of mine. They tend to be very sarcastic, which seems to insult some people, but it's fine with me.
hmm coming from the north central plains (SD & IA)...was never around black females much (RARELY) and I never got the idea that they liked me or had any interest in me...but GAG has been changing my mind...I am friended with at least 20 black females on here and a few of them have become good friends..but most white males that I know don't think that black females would be interested in dating them...
more black girls like white guys then you think
I am becoming more aware
This is true. My head would yank left and right checking out a beautiful black woman but all I could do was look because I did not know whether they would like me or not or if they were going to go off on me or something, but when I get a smile or a wink or a certain look...woow! Not too mention those big, sexy gorgeous botox-free lips oooohhhh! Yeah, I've got Chocolate fever and I don't want the cure :). Now, I am with one black woman and if it continues to go like it has been it's wifey!
YOu should be super proud to be a black women. Tbh we are the most beautiful and diverse women alive. I am a black women as well and though it does get hard, I try no to let it effect me. White men to me are tricky because some will genuinely care about you while others are experimental and want to be able to say they dated a black girl or they also could be fetishizing you. I date within my race because thats what i prefer. We as black women dont get love from other people but as long as we support and love one another as black women and have strong black women around us, what these people say shouldn't effect us.
Once I saw this, I had to shake my head because I'm african American, and American italian & german, I don't see how people can be so discriminant. We are all human, with different color skin. Lets put it this way, crayons are all different colors, but they are still crayons right?, you don't see them discriminating each other. Why can't this world be more like a crayon box? Lol sheesh.
Way to long to read. But for real, I love black woman. Nice tight pink vagina. I'm not racist at all, I don't like that black pple with no grammer and talk like morons "wutz going down dog, we be chilin tomorrow" why don't you talk regular and use proper grammer, same goes to wiggers.
I hope you were trying to be ironic. I really do.
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Yeah you are right TWins16! I love my girl's tight, pink vagina! She can move it and gives me a squeeze when I've been good, OMG, black women are hot! Let the brothas' leave them behind, guys like me will take them in our arms and take them to the king's table and when those same once rich brothas' lose their rap, acting, sports money and end up broke they'll be alone because only a black woman would stand by her man, for the most part. As for bad grammar? Hate it and I'm not talking about those 1s
You were never a slave, nor victimized from any perceived historical injustices done against your race; so, just leave that out.
Secondly, black women can be attractive, but they're not my preference. IF you're white acting and respectable, even go so far as to be soft spoken you'll attract white guys.
Because y’all are stupid and are led by sheep have baby daddy’s and spend what little welfare money y’all have on nails and feed your kids garbage. Vote democrat and all they do is keep y’all on welfare so they’ll have a secured Vote. You see how little Obama spent on Black campaigning? Because LBJ bought yalls asses with the great society. Think for yourself and quit worrying about dumb shit like who likes you. Would you want to like an entitled uneducated person that went around blaming their problems on everyone else?
I just can't stand black people that think I owe him or her something because their black I mean wasn't involved with slavery and you wasn't either so why should I owe you something and the N word really if your gunna use it when you talk to you black friends no matter if its nigga or what ever it means the same and if you use it hell yea I am
I've met maybe one white guy who looks down on black women the way you described, and it was some drunk racist f*** I ran into at a gas station. I'm a white guy, and I'm normally not attracted to most black girls, but it's not because I think they're "inhuman." It's just a matter of attraction. Sorry you're running into problems.
well I'm in the south so I don't know maybe its different around here.
but I can't help but to feel a little bad because if we were friends you would think I was ugly.
I'm from Alabama, and none of my black female friends have told me they have those sort of problems. It's possible that they don't share that sort of stuff with me, though. It's also possible that I've just lived in the right places, or that we've managed to surround ourselves with the right kinds of people. I also work with several black girls/women, and we all get along just fine.
Finally, why would I think you're ugly? That's just putting words in my mouth.
I realize that I wouldn't be as aware of racist things that go on as somebody who experiences them, and I'm sorry that things have happened to you. Don't walk around assuming people look at you a certain way, though. I've had a pretty low opinion of myself before, so I sort of know what it's like to walk around wondering what people are thinking about you. Even if it was for a different reason, I eventually had to realize that a lot of it was in my head, and that even if somebody WAS looking
down on me, it didn't matter. Sure, there could be a lot more love out there, but I think most people are just indifferent. There might not be as much hate as you think. I hope things get better for you.
you said you are not attracted to most black girls which is fine...
im just upset that people are grill'n me for having the same thoughts as other black women. know one has even answered my question they are just focused on the statement I made.
Not being attracted DOES NOT mean that I think somebody is ugly - it just might not be my thing. I think a few black girls I know are pretty cute, but they don't seem to be interested in white guys.
And sorry I couldn't answer your question - I don't know why people would hate on black women. It doesn't seem like many of the people you're referring to use this site. Hopefully America will be completely colorblind in a couple of generations. We can't get there unless everybody tries, though.
It is nice to hear your honest perspective, though. I hope this doesn't get taken down. The admins on here seem to take down all the questions I spend the most time answering, so I might have jinxed it.
I hate racists... Someone who says they are proud to be a race identifies their self as a racist.
I'm white, but not proud to be white. I was simply born this way. Get over it and be a human.
Why are you proud to be black? I don't get that stuff. I'm not proud to be white. I mean, you know who else was proud to be the race they were? Aryans. And look what they did
There is also a Mexican gang in Texas who pride them selves on the fact that they are Mexican, and also really violent. I think the whole proud black thing is a way to help end the years of being being ashamed to be black even in the past century.
I know, I was just making a racist comment.
Well don't do that.
i was saying I don't have a problem being black but if I had a choice I wouldn't have chosen to be black. why would I chose to have a harder life?
I'm white and I'm f***ing proud. Sorry. Lol
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Our country is still recovering from slavery. I f you think of it that way lots of answers for lots of questions are answered
Though I see this more as a vent, and less of a question, as a black female my self, I do understand where you are coming from but took it to an extreme.
i don't think I took it to the extreme. but PHLove really did.
She dose make a great point, I feel your pain, but I don't agree that every problem within the black community is the fault of past white oppression. I don't totally agree with you, but do understand why you are saying what you are saying.
what are you talking about? I'm not in pain. I was just thinking about something and I decided to find a place to talk about it. I never said that white people are 100% of the problem with our black community but I do think they are a great deal of it.
I still disagree with that. Yes white people from hundreds of years ago and 400 years of opression have left a big impact but its not all white people, and every issue is not the foult of even past white people.
you are in pain. it is obvious to all of us. statements from you-"we were never treated like women or even humans for that matter" "i think I would feel better if white women would have a harder life but it looks like that's not happening anytime soon. I feel most of the hate from white men" those are statements from someone in pain.
those are statements of truth...not pain. and black women have not bee treated like women for centuries. its to much to explain. just google it.
I think you need to see a counselor because you have some major scars.
and I think you need to go f*** yourself. because I know for a fact that there is some sort of animosity towards black women. you didn't even answer the question.
that's only a few people that hate black women for no reason only except they're because black, it's terrible I know, but that's what they think about in the depth of their mind... just because they're different... :(
I'm white, so yeah I can't talk out of my own experience. But you really can't deny it's better to be black than brown in the US right now.
Yes and no, it all depends where you are living and the people there, so its hard to make a blanket statement like that.
Sixstring, you are correct. Browns have a hard tow coming their way in the next little bit. This might be why so many of their woman don't want brown men, perhaps.
I think this is a public service message. I dunno. On that note! I LOVE black girls because they are just awesome. They know how to have fun. You have those occasional different ones, but in general they know how to keep it real.
oh no you dudanttttt :P
nah I think black girls are cute as hell <3 gimmie a message/add me, lets talk :) I'm bored as hell lol!
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