I feel like I'm losing my girlfriend

[Anonymous]

To make a long story short, I took my girlfriend for granted and now she's slipping away. I'm not talking give her some space and she'll come back slipping away, but possibly slipping away for good. I realize that I'm a jerk and I have been selfish. What can I do to get a second chance?

[margieb80]

The good thing is you woke up before is too late... I'd say you need to SHOW her you're sorry, that you really care for her... If you're saying she's slipping away then things can still be fixed, she's not completely gone.

You need to start little and get to big gestures, but don't take too much time... don't start big or she'll think your apologizing for something worst like cheating on her.

You could start by calling her out of nowhere and asking how are things, what's she doing. Text her. Actually keep a conversation about her, her problems and so. You need to court her back, flirt with her, ask her out, do fun things together, specially things you know she likes, but don't be too obvious. Touch her, little touches that show her you enjoy being together.

If there is something in particular that is getting in between you two, you need to find the way to remove it and let her know is not an issue anymore.

Try, put your best effort in it, but do it from your heart, and good luck!

[confused415]

You need to prove to her that she means more to you than you have been showing thus far. Perhaps show that you listen by doing things for her that only you would know. Maybe buy her what she has always wanted (within reason) or take her to see that particular movie or restaurant. You need to treat her as though you would want to be treated. Nothing could help more than to go with your heart and be honest with her and your relationship. Tell her why you love her and why you never want to go back to that person you once were. Explain how losing her would be your greatest regret.

The best quote I've read is this: "Be that person you want to date"

It is as simple as that. Treat her with respect and everything will fall into place. Best of luck!

[Anonymous]

It's good to admit you were wrong and that you took her for granted.

If she doesn't take your calls/texts, try to write a letter/mail with an explanation/apology. Let her know that you're sorry and willing to change.