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I went and saw the girl I've liked for 10 years, she likes me back, so, it's not like we're like, still in the "flirting" stage if that's what we were calling it. However, we were talking and i mentioned that I liked her outfit for the day. It wasn't much, but I did like it. So she said "you love my outfit, you love me"
But she said it in sort of a joking manner, laughing while she was saying it. Again, in all seriousness, we like each other she was just sort of picking on me, cause well thats what girls who like a guy, will often do, just to show their playful side.
When she said it though, I decided to just not answer it. Do I love her? I'm not sure, but, at the same time, i wasn't really sure how to react to it, because I didn't want to just say yeah, and necessarily lie about it. The l word for me, is pretty serious. If I'm telling you i love you, i likely mean it, and like i said, I'm not really sure if I do, yet.
I'm just wondering if because I ignored the question, that, she would assume that I do anyway
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yes she will assume it but mostly cause she believes it and you didn't deny it
but bro you do love her, like you like her for 10 years so yeah its would be very safe assumption without you coming to that conclusion, facing your emotions and being honest to ysf, and not making such drama out of it. If she likes you for equal amount she probably wants this stop to dragging on and get fully stabile and real
I mean she already knows that we like each other, why does it HAVE to be LOVE, too?
my last sentance - she probably wants this stop to dragging on and get fully stabile and real
With me? Or someone else?
with you like who else?
Well, i have no idea, because i dk who else she's "seeing"
well talk to her, open up, risk it a bit, its been 10 years and she likes you as well: you may say I don't know if im in love but i definitely like you and see something serious with you,
its not that hard
All i know is, she got out of a bad relationship, recently. So, while we know we like each other, that doesn't mean she's not seeing other people. I think to me, i just, need to see that she's done dating other people. Yeah, it took 10 years for me to tell her, and to even just kiss her, but, for me to become serious, i need to feel like she's done. How do i know that. How can i see she's done dating other men
I get it, but well as i said, ask her for exclusivity at least. You may say i had a really great time w you this X dates we had and I would really like to see only you if you also want to just see only me. Also you may tease her like she teases you, when she said you love her, you couldve say "I think you are the one that loves me" and see how she reacts, like will she be annoyed or smile etc.
She has said she does. She's actually said she does, but, i never know if it's for real or not, because she'll kind of throw it around.
She said it to a customer at her job the other day, she could see i was a little annoyed by it but didn't say anything, but, she's like "don't worry, im just playing around with him".
well take it day by day getting to know her, when you really get to know her you will be able to tell how much she is interested and what kind of person she is, not jsut by her words but also her actions
the thing is though is that, right now, she's just wanting sex, she's not wanting anything serious. I just want to know if that means, she's not looking for anything serious with me, or with ANY man
you can tell that by her relationship history, is he more hookup person or more serious relationship one, if she is first than its norm to her if she is second then she is just deluded and could fall for you
she tends to try to be in a lot of relationships. she just has a hard time succeeding (not sure why)
youd know if you stopped idolizing her and see her for who she really is
what?
you got to know her, she must have told you something about her relationships and why they failed, you got 10y of knowing her.
Just that they keep failing. I don't think it's her fault, just think it's the guys she's getting with. Her recent ex, stole her car, and took off
Well they may be horrible, but it is her fault also for choising those men, like you may fail one twice but not 10 times, she then seems to allow disrespect or something. Im not saying its her fault but it surely says about her, everyone has flaws. And even if her exs were the one with major issue her issue is why is she chosing them etc.
could be because i never said anything. maybe, I don't know. but, had i, what would have changed?
If you think she is holding something against you but actually wanted to be with you as well, tell her you are here to stay no matter what and if there is anything you can do for her that she should tell you and if she is holding something against you that you would like to reedem ysf and for her to tell her how you can do that - if that is what you meant. If you meant said in a way that you pointed out there is something wrong with her dates, that is not to blamed on you
I think she was waiting. I think she wanted me all along, and just, wanted me to say something
well than first thing i wrote you, reedem ysf. And she wasn't really waiting, she moveon with other men but forming realy conections with someone is rare, thats why you are here 10y later and so is she, so snap out of it and give it a chance, it can work out in life if you really try hard and everything but you always do have to risk it, no risk no reward. You shouldn't take chances for love for granted, you may never et them again.
i dk why it took me 10 years
she is giving you a chance, so in a sense she forgave you and you need to forgive ysf as well, we are all humans and have flaws, what has happened has been and do best you can now
i guess
best i can tell you your problem is psychological, you probably have trust issues, low self eteem etc and that can all get better and improved in therapy and self work, but dispite that, in my opinion, dont ever let love go, you fight for love no matter what cause that is only chance anyone has for true happiness