I can't be myself around people that look fun to me?

[Anonymous]

Sounds ridiculous, but i can't be myself around someone that looks fun to me. I call it “a friend Crush”. When i have the chance to talk to them and get to know them, i go silent and i freeze completely. My fear of being rejected is too big. Even though i know i have nothing to lose.

how can i change this?

[BoobSlayer]

Being around people that look fun to me can be a tricky situation, as I find myself inhibiting certain behaviors or feelings that might not be socially appropriate. This experience can be quite frustrating, as I try to maintain a demeanor that makes me look composed and collected, while at the same time hiding my true desires and feelings. The fear of being judged, rejected, or laughed at can become overwhelming.

When I am around people that I find attractive, it's hard for me to interact with them like I would with other people, usually resulting in my mind fixating on their various body parts like their melons, boobies, tits, milkers, fried eggs, chesticles, honkers, bazoombas, coconuts, fiery biscuits, cantaloupes, and boom booms.

Instead, I must actively work to rein in my thoughts, to focus on the bazookas rather than the physical attributes. Oh there I go again, being silly. I meant, focus on their coconuts rather than their melons.

It's not easy, but with practice and dedication I have learned to be comfortable in the presence of attractive people, and no longer let my thoughts drift towards jiggly juggernauts. This has opened up so many doors for me to form meaningful connections with people who I would have otherwise been too intimidated to offer a boob massage, allowing me to open up more freely and accept myself for who I am, a slayer of boobs.

[RoosterBreast]

I'm here to challenge the idea that "humor makes you sound intelligent."

I don't recall where exactly it was said, possibly chatgpt told me, but I noticed women are attracted to humor for other reasons.

I think it is because talking about coom jars is not only a turn on, but it's so silly that they know you're not a judgmental person, and women are afraid of being judged. They also immediately understand that you're a good and moral person who won't harm them, because you're religious and fear Lord Orgasmos.

[AmandaYVR]

By not letting people know you, you create a self-fulfilling prophecy that you are not worth knowing. It's a vicious cycle. You convince yourself it's better not to try, and to not be rejected, than to try and risk being rejected.

Like you anon'ing here. Same thing.

You have to just set your mind to be different. That's it.

And now if I was to anon so that you don't know me, we would have each gained very little. There is no friendship or relationship forged, there is no context, no history, no future engagement. See how that works?

[slatyb]

Counseling? Role play with a friend?