Do you think that there are more toxic guys than good guys?

[chris_987]

Cuz I wanted to know how come girls always end up with the toxic guy if they're probably is more good guys.

[Lionman95]

I would say no but the toxic guys are more likely to be seen and therefore seem to be the majority. The toxic guys are bold, self-confident and strong they know how to catch the attention while the good guys stay in the back and count the cost.
I think the good guys sometimes have a life that seems reasonable but boring at the same time.

[DextroShade]

Women choose the toxic guys and the good guys are invisible to them. This is proven by convicted serial killers getting flooded with love letters from women.

[Alli39]

I think anyone can be toxic with the wrong person, so it''s not actually that simple of a question. I like to think that most people in the world are decent though.

[chris_987]

Most people are decent? I think guys vary in there treatment towards men depending on how easily they get attention.

So if attention is few far between then girls are more likely to treat men better.

[Alli39]

I can't say I agree, mostly on the grounds that this is a gendered issue. I'm assuming by "attention" you're actually just talking about "enabling bad behavior", then yes if people of either gender are enabled to act poorly towards the people around them then they'll have less motivation to change.

Moreover, if someone has a tendency to treat others in a legitimately positive fashion, I think they will do so regardless of how much attention or lack thereof that they receive.

[chris_987]

I'm just talking about what I've observed. Before social media really took off any attention. A girl got she cherished it. Now when you wake up till like thousands of messages from guys you don't even know it feels hollow. I'm not a girl but I would imagine that if I got attention from the opposite sex for just being alive or posting a bikini photo, my ego would be through the roof. So I don't really know a lot of girls that are humble enough to appreciate a guy giving them a compliment.

[Alli39]

Um, I mean not all girls have that experience, I'm not really of the opinion that most do tbh. So yeah, some girls do have massive egos, but some guys do as well, ya know? It just don't think it's most people and I'm sorry your experience has lead you to believe that it is.

[chris_987]

Most girls post bikini pics and don't get reaction from random? Is that what your saying

[Alli39]

I mean, not all women are extremely affected by it (in term of how much they shift their outlooks), or choose to make those type of posts to begin with (I never have 🤷‍♀️). Moreover, if you have a private account, you're mostly hearing from people who you know and are already friends with/are aware of their opinions of you. I lowkey find compliments that come from women to be more meaningful than those that come from men sometimes, just because I can be sure there's no ulterior motive, and if that's what your building your ego from then it's really not a function of male attention anyway. So yeah, I'm sure there are some girls that do things like that for attention, but it's less common, or at least more complicated, than you might assume.

[chris_987]

If you went back 50 or maybe even 100 years ago, you'd be shocked by how insecure girls are about finding a husband. When I read what times were like back then women seem to have this sense of dread about not being able to find a husband and start a family. And that isn't as pronounced now because of social media obviously

[DontBeBitter]

Females are naturally attracted to "toxic" guys because they're "exciting." They need to be on an emotional rollercoaster.

[Anonymous]

People always focus on toxic things, so it's going to appear that most men are toxic.

[Anonymous]

Do you consider yourself toxic or a good guy?

[chris_987]

I definitely teach toxic guys how to be good so I'm far from that