Do you think that there are people who are too toxic to be in a relationship?

[JustMeL120]

Is it possible that some people are too toxic to be in a relationship? at least until they get therapy.

People like narsisists, cheats, condescending, perverts, people with sexual addictions or people who still depend on their parents in adulthood?

[Sunssong]

Depends on the type of relationship. For a lasting, monogamist relationship you can't be toxic most of the time. Even a little can kill.

I've heard of guys who are sex addicts who have a wonderful marriage. And people who depend on their parents really don't belong in the conversation. It could be a culture thing or simply they are working toward a career. But that doesn't make them toxic. If so, all poor people shouldn't be in a relationship. It all depends what you want your relationship to look like. Everybody has a different vision. My vision nor your vision should be the standard.

Honestly 99% of people shouldn't be in a relationship if their goal is for it to last. And I'm not saying that because I think relationship can't last.

[ohsheeT]

Any kind of person that you could imagine is out there depending on who raised them who nurtured them how they were brought up there's every type of person in the world out there even look at yourself as I look at myself I'm not perfect nor do I want to be but I'm sure you could pick my all my flaws apart and call me a toxic person most of us that know ourselves know the areas that we need to work on and we know when we need to change that's the best part about life is growing and learning but yes to answer your question there are many toxic people out there and they have no business being in any relationship but whoever they're in that relationship with also has a choice that they will either figure out sooner than later

[Vázquez613]

Very realistic perspective.

[mandyfire98]

Absolutely. I'm finding out that there are a lot more toxic people than I thought there were in this world.

[JustMeL120]

It's being normalised by the media sadly.

[Sunssong]

99% of people are toxic. I came to the conclusion anyone incapable of controlling their own mind can't possibly be a good person. A decent person yes but not good because good requires you to be good even when it's hard. Most believe in an eye for an eye. Most people let their anger and hate have way over them. @filmguy93 This dude has figured out the same thing I did. I saw your comment.

Now there are some people who are abnormally good but still dont have control of their mind. However, those people are very rare and usually not popular.

[JustMeL120]

the nice and good people are often rejected because they care more about personality that looks. So they don't try and to look attractive. This whole dating for attractivness is what is getting people in trouble. It's such a shallow mentality. Everyone is beautiful. Just because someone puts foundation and makeup doesn't make them beautiful. Makeup isn't part of the body. It's not made of humain cell. It's a mixture of colouring and chemical. Same with hair colour and fake lips.

[Pinay_ako]

Ofc. Narcissists shouldn’t ever be in a relationship. And some very bad people

[Anonymous]

Perhaps , in my case I may be am too kind. Women actually hate too kind guys , who help others and animals. They take advantage of those guys but never want to date them. All of my experiences with women are bad to terrible , starting from my mother to almost every girl I have interacted with deeply. Physical and mental abuse from women for decades made me skeptical about women in general. I am yet to see a single good women in my life. But I don't lie , cheat or have done any perverted work. Now a days there's trend to date bad boys and if a guys is good , they consider them boring and as a settling material only for future. A girl even told that to me "guys like you are only good after thirty " .

[JustMeL120]

Men pick there women according to their looks not personality. Then they get surprised if there girlfriend cheats on them or doesn't stick around of they have cancer. Me often reject me because of my look. But I would never cheat on them nor dump them if they have cancer nor abuse them. Their loss. But then don't come crying.

[Opinion Owner]

That's true to an extent but even women with lower looks have way more options than a poor guy. I have seen average to ugly girls having way more boyfriends than guys who are broke.

[JustMeL120]

I think all this is an American thing honestly. In Europe things are so different. First of all no woman is ever classes as ugly and second noone cares who is broke or not broke. Honestly America has a completely different view on dating.

[JustMeL120]

And the only guy who has ever rejected me in my life was American. The only person who has ever told me I was ugly ( a woman) was American. That says it all

[Opinion Owner]

It's universal , not European and American. However US is a single country and Europe is not. East Europe are more conservative and western Europe is more liberal. Looks are very important for men too , women do like attractive men but they also expect them to have money. Where men don't care much about money but looks or if women can manage household. A know at least four guys of my age married no so attractive or highly earning girls as they are very good in cooking and housework. Those men prefer earning themselves. However women loving a guy for his cooking or house skills can be almost rare to impossible , unless he's already earing a lot.

[JustMeL120]

False it's not universal. So far I have lived in the UK, France and Switzerland and noone is as interested in looks as Americans when I comes to dating. I was part of an American church in Europe where most people were Americans all they went on about was looks and money. At first I thought the church was dumbing people down but now I realized after coming on this site that every American think like that.

[Opinion Owner]

America is the epitome of capitalism, do those views are common.

[JustMeL120]

No sure what looks has to do with capitalism. And capitalism doesn't have anything to do with people being rich in fact quite the opposite. In the richest countries there are way more people in poverty. In my life I have only been called ugly once and that was by an American. And what I find funny about this woman was that one day she came to my house and I was wearing a nice dress on that day and had straightend my hair a little bit. And she and her friend called me beautiful. I don't know what is going on there but In Europe it's not polite to tell another person that they are ugly and talking about money is also very unpolite. Honestly if every girl in America is like those two girls. I hope I never have to go to America.

[JustMeL120]

Out of curiosity what does ugly girl mean to Americans. Because most Americans find me verry ugly but most Europeans find me verry beautiful so I don't know.

[IAmAzzurra]

Women love a good man. It’s not about a “bad boy”..:: girls like guys who excite them, whether it’s simply because the guy is fun or assertive or bold, or spontaneous …. a guy doesn’t have to break the law to be magnetic.

Women don’t like guys who wallow in self pity and blame everyone else for it. Who does?

[Opinion Owner]

@IAmAzzurra I don't blame women , I blame myself for it. If someone's good , they are meant to be boring. Most people view good as boring , at least when they are young. I know I have issues , and I am poor and still a student , so I restraint from dating. Isn't that was the point of the post?

[IAmAzzurra]

Absolutely Nobody views being good as boring. Refusing to let yourself be yourself because of what other people think and staying in the shadows is what keeps people from being noticed.
Anyone can be magnetic so long as they are completely themselves ( so long as the are not an asshole)
Thinking that someone isn’t going to like because you are this or that is just a self fulfilling prophecy.
How can she be interested if you don’t give her a chance to be?
What draws girls to bad boys is their confidence and their no fucks given attitude. Anybody can do that.

All you have to do is pique her interest, but if you’ve already decided that you can’t then it’s already over.

It’s what you have going on in your life that is appealing.

If you are restraining from dating, you have no proof of what you are saying. It’s an assumption…. that you probably got from spending way too much time on this site.

[Opinion Owner]

@IAmAzzurra I have given chances , tried dating previously but they never worked. They always wanted to date guys who live a highly charismatic men , full of party life and have pre requisites like guys must have cars and lead a certain fun lifestyle. Which I cannot perform, still being in grad school and poor. There are almost no women around me around my age that are different from that ideology and single. I live relatively simple life reading , help in animal shelters and have hobbies like cooking , gardening. Around my area , all of the women I ever tried dating considered th boring. I have mentioned that the women I had interest told me that guys like me are only good after thirty. Bad boys live a certain lifestyle that I cannot pull off.

[AdithyaR]

Definitely. Someone with toxic and abusive traits cannot maintain a healthy relationship.
Sometimes you don't even need to be toxic to unfit in a relationship. If you're too insecure and lack the self esteem to stand up for yourself, that also. ales you unfit for a relationship.

[FilmGuy93]

As I've gotten healthier, I would say that most people are too toxic to be in relationships lol

[Justmeagain1]

I think there are a ton of people that need to heal a bit more before getting into relationships

[Sarahr123]

Yes definitely. An example is my ex who stilll creeps back every once in a while.

[Nikki1989]

Absolutely. Some people are doomed to stay single forever.

[Andres77]

Absolutely.
And some are just mentally unhealthy

[Andres77]

I mean even more unhealthy than the examples that you gave.

[JustMeL120]

You mean like murderers

[Andres77]

I was thinking bipolar

[Andres77]

So, yeah, murderers

[JustMeL120]

To be honest I want thinking about mental health I was thinking more about people who are not diagnosed with anything and choose to be a massive dick. That's even worst.

[Andres77]

There are downsides to massive dicks, true

[sheikalana]

HELL YES! Some people just drain the energy out of you.

[aquamarine321]

I believe there are a lot of people with personal issues that results in bad behavior and produce bad relationships

[shades777]

From what i can tell all the toxic people are in relationships and toxic men are in demand

[JustMeL120]

More toxic people are in relationships than decent people. It's because of how much effort they put in their physical appearance.

[Sunssong]

@shades777 It's called mass consciousness.

[Jltakk]

Definitely me, I've gone through so much abuse that I wasn't aware was even abuse. I am also far too broken to be the light of someone's life.

[JustMeL120]

Must people are not aware they are being abused. Most people is being abused regularly and doesn't even know it. It could be their boss, family friends the local shop keeper or even themselves.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Some people are just basically problematic no matter what they have and who they’re with.

[Anonymous]

Yeah. But the problem eventually remedies itself.

I got a ladyfriend that's about to start round 5. I already see that it's going to fail. But you gotta let her live her life.

[Ur1local2bisexual]

Yes but that s just bc they are human so people can not be toxic be toxic be a mix of non toxic and toxic

[Charliefretz329]

Yeah, me and my wife are like flint and steel sometimes

[LazerBean]

Yes, many people are.

[magiusX26]

yes. these days they are called humans.

[slatyb]

Yes, I do.

[TheMadLad]

Yes.

[Molly1997]

Yes.

[itsalyssaagain]

For sureeeeee

[Blackcupcake]

yes…

[RingOfFire]

Definitely.

[dudeinohio]

I agree

[Alinejanelle]

Yes absolutely