What do you think is a toxic relationship?

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CubsterShura · Accepted Answer

A relationship where open and honest communication between the people involved is not actively practiced and appreciated.

I find that a lot of people say that they want honesty from their partner but when their partner is being honest they flip out. That's why I said it's important to not just be honest yourself but also show appreciation to your partner when they are honest with you. For example, if you bought a dress and asked your partner to honestly tell you if they like the dress, and they tell you that they don't like it on you*, then instead of feeling offended or mad you could say "ouch, I thought it was really cute and hoped that you would find it cute too, but thanks for letting me know."

* There are ways to criticize that are constructive and not offensive. You cannot just tell your partner "you look hideous" or something and then act like you don't understand why it made your partner upset when you are just being "brutally honest". There are better ways to say it such as "I generally love dresses on you, but for some reason I just don't like this one" or something like that.

Red-Blaze · Accepted Answer

A relashinship where someone get harmed in it
In many cases the victim/victims are not aware of it happening or at least miss the sighns of it being the center of what is going on, not a side harm that happens but heals
Denial is a powerful thing

FunkyMusicMan · Accepted Answer

As a heterosexual man, id say a relationship becomes toxic when the woman shows no interest, or support for the things you do, and purposely says things that try to get under your skin. Such as passive aggressiveness, domination type behavior, hitting, getting louder and louder with aggression as she talks, always louder than you generally tend to speak when you are unexcited , and, the biggest things out of these 2 that show me, that, she lost interest or doesn't love you, is the dominating aggressive/passive aggressive behavior, and the strikeing at you. such as slapping, pushing, hitting, grabbing, disrespectful grabbing, innaprorpiate aggressive grabbing, i dont know how to explain. But I've been in these situations. and worse which i will not mention since its not appropriate what was done to me, much of it I will not put here public. Thanks for my take on it. But, I think lack of interest, in your passions, and not following through with promises, and being caught in lies, are 3 big ones too. But not the biggest even for me.

PeteA380 · Accepted Answer

Generaly (and I am 100% hetero so only consider that case), it gets toxic with any female who wants to be my only one but to have other guys on the side.

All I could accept is exclusive on both her and my end, or her adding another female/more females into our relationship and even sex life, but I'd have the be the sole male of hers and of any other female (s) potentially involved.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I find most of the abusers I know were motivated by money, either they had too much and felt entitled or they had too little and were bitter and angry so took it out on their wives. I also know middle class people motivated by money, they tried to buy girls by spending money on her, and then if she accepted his terms, he hated her for being a gold digger and if she rejected him after he spent money on her, he hated her for robbing him of his money by inviting him to spend on dates or social events. I won't date a greedy guy or a stingy guy because money obsessed people tend to be vain and impatient.

kylee2437 · Answer

When the bad in the relationship outweighs the good but the small amount of good is looked at to keep the relationship going because the two people in the relationship are codependent

Paris13 · Answer

Jealousy, No Trust, Reliving the Past, Insecurities. Things would Need to Change... xxoo

Pinay_ako · Answer

When people are using each other instead of loving each other.

Honest-Matt · Answer

I'll give an example, their dog always jumps on or bites people, the boyfriend who dressed nice for a upscale dinner date finally has enough and says he won't tolerate being bitten or having clean clothes covered in mud every time he comes over. Her response is to blame the boyfriend in every way as to why it is the boyfriends fault rather than expressing any concern for the boyfriend or talking about solutions on what to do about it.

In a heated argument after the boyfriend was berated with insults and disrespect the boyfriend admits to wanting to kill themselves and she says she just went through that with her ex and said to just go ahead and do it, she's had enough.

When you express expectations, goals and values, she is confrontational, does not engage in a rational discussion about finding out each others positions on the subject civilly.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

I don't even have enough hours to describe Toxic!
A partner that no mater what you Do is never Enough, either for him/her either for both, Always pointing fingers at you, Always You are to blame for all the bad things happening, Always you are the bad apple, and You are the one that Starts the Fights, not him/he, Always YOU never bring/provide enough Income for an Optimal living,
A narcissist that sees himself/herself and not You or Together even when going out... and the list continues...

Nulldoll83 · Answer

I just recently ended a 5 year relationship, the only I can explain what went wrong was I wanted more and he wasn’t willing to give me , I was told” I wasn’t his equal and I wasn’t his wife. So I had no say in the land we had started building a house on. “
He constantly put me down, but wanted me to available for at all hours of the day.

Basically, when it ended I told him” that it was best to stop where we’re were before it got worse, that I loved him.. but it wasn’t working , because were arguing more than getting along with each other.”

So basically it there will be a shift in the dynamic of the relationship, where respect leaves and Hope & dreams doesn’t work anymore.

Simslover92 · Answer

Where one or both parties are feeling degraded and devalued by their partner. They may feel unhappy by their partners behavior such as being dishonest, showing disrespect, ignoring the person's needs, being controlling and jealous and my personal favorite when you feel like you're walking on eggshells and can't say what you really want to say in the relationship because you're afraid it will cause problems or make things worse in your relationship.

Ali4Sy · Answer

It's a type of a relationship which causes a lot of pressure in both of partner's heads and make them angry or just too much apologetic..

when a lot of things feels not right and you can't say anything about it..

when it hurts both of the partners in many ways..

When you can't stay and you can't run...

And it's an one-side toxic when just one of the partners feels that way

CreatingWonders · Answer

When they call you names and say it’s only a joke.

When you drop everything to help them, but they won’t move an inch to help you.

When they lie about you behind your back.

When they stop you speaking to friends and family.

When they hit you and say it’s playing.

When they gaslight you.

When they manipulate you.

When they start controlling you.

Then when you leave they stalk and harass you and carry on lying about you to make people feel sorry for them and hate you, even though you didn’t do a thing only try to love them.

I know because I’m living through it. 😞 even though I left over a year ago she still won’t let me go and lies about me and stalks me.

ChiTown33 · Answer

It basically comes down to mutual respect. When you love and respect someone you coomunicate. You don't fear communication because you trust them. Toxic relationships are wherer people get hurt and instead look to even the score. I don't even understand why people are with that person if that's thier reaction towards them.

spartan55 · Answer

I don't know, when I hear that word my eyes glaze over and my ears close because it has become such an overused psychology buzzword it has no meaning to me. And don't get me started on the term 'narcissist'... ugh.

DermalPunch · Answer

Lack of respect Lack of honesty  Lack of reciprocation  They are both cheating on other people with each other  Poor communication

ButthurtGAGpeople1 · Answer

If you feel like everything they do, is wrong. True, loving relationships, they can do no wrong. So, if you're always criticizing them and getting into arguments, that's not a healthy relationship. You can have some arguments, but, to just argue all the time, no

HaveNoName · Answer

When every thought or sight or even sound of that person makes you wish that person did not exist in your life.

Having said that, sone people do not detect the toxicity in their acquaintances. Then, there are some who are so involved with that person, that the same toxicity that would be unbearable with someone else, does not appear toxic to them. This is where they need the advice of parents or real friends.

DrKrieger · Answer

When one side physically or mentally abuses the other. I didn't see a relationship I was in last year as going anywhere, so I didn't let a girl move in with me. A few weeks later I ghosted her and she managed to get me fired a few months after that.

Moral of the story avoid stage 5 clingers

Christoff92 · Answer

Short term anger issues, moody face especially you if say a polite line, giving a moody response. Most of the time for nobreaso A Know it all, where she would contradict my opinions, intelligence, and personal traits.

Also recite me and my characteristic, my accuracy, also my entitlement, based on the way was brought up and rised. Thinking that she can make a junkie outta me 😐

VIVANT · Answer

Not being able to respectfully voice and listen to disturbances and an inability towards mutually acceptable conflict resolution.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

When the people are not open to each other. That is when you know these people are in a toxic relationship. 👍

DancingQueen16 · Answer

I think a toxic relationship is when your partner is constantly putting you down and saying things like "your not good enough" or worse being physically abusive

asianfreak · Answer

One where one side not only doesn’t add value to the other person, but eats away the heart and mind of the other person as well. And it’s not just a familial bond. It can be any bond at any level with anybody else amongst the general public.

Billlewis · Answer

A relationship in which at least one person isn't being fulfilled.

MementoMori777 · Answer

anything that isn't in the lines of love, trust, support, care and loyalty

ohsheeT · Answer

Controller manipulation farting under the blankets lying no sex verbal or mental abuse

provokeesmokee · Answer

That's a supportive relationship in a toxic environment.

socially_confused · Answer

A relationship without mutual respect, with one or both parties treating the other poorly.

Luopio27 · Answer

Abusive relationships, that include at least one of the following things: Gaslighting Violence Cheating Manipulation

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Annoyance, complaining, arguments, the person that doesn't shut the hell up, insecurities, extreme jealousy, abuse, manipulation, anger, bitterness, needy person.

DarkLegacy · Answer

When were the couple are at each others throats all the time. Sadly that is most of the relationships i know

Sparkie460 · Answer

A toxic relationship is when one partner is verbally, emotionally or physically abusing the other partner.

Turly · Answer

Someone who does not respect your values and beliefs or who your are as a person, someone who gaslight you and someone who does not own up to there mistakes and someone who is not kind to others. That's a toxic relationship to me.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

People who shouldn't be together, staying together.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

It's when two ''newspeak'' people are unable to sort out their relationship issues?

gothbxtch · Answer

a toxic relationship is one that makes you feel unsupported, misunderstood, demeaned, or attacked. a relationship is toxic when your well-being is threatened in some way—emotionally, psychologically, and even physically.

Emmy87 · Answer

Gaslighting, silent treatment when fighting, manipulation, cheating and I have been through all of them for the last couple of months

Sasha0426 · Answer

When you treat your partner like shit and don’t care about their feelings.  There’s more to it but that’s one example.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

When two persons can't get along and always fighting over money, it's best to move on, that is why I'm waiting to meet the right woman to come into my life.

worldscolide · Answer

one where neither respect or empathy exists.

RavVid · Answer

Women that always spin a situation to be your fault and portray themselves to be a victim. That is something to get out of pronto.

Bdog1951 · Answer

Telling each other what to do where to be and who you can be friends with that's a toxic relationship. My brothers wife tells him he can't be friends with people she don't like

Moumits · Answer

The relationship is toxic when the behavior of your partner undermine your well being such as disrespect, control, emotional manipulation, and lack of support.

DextroShade · Answer

Any relationship where the woman leads or won't submit to her man.

Likes2drive · Answer

I guess when you’re both verbally abusing each other

Kkoalalita · Answer

Anything that keeps me stuck and prevents me from growing and being a better version of myself

In_Trance · Answer

Toxic is when they can't give you what you need, but can't let you go either

SpaceGalaxy · Answer

being in one which you really do not want to be in but for some reason unknown even to yourself, you are still in it.

jwmiller95 · Answer

A relationship with many of the following: one-sided feelings, lack of communication and understanding, no peace, no problem resolution, jealousy, no empathy, hurtful words, list goes on...

alearningboy · Answer

You give more than you get, leaving you feeling devalued and exhausted. You constantly feel disrespected or your needs are not being met.

Alex-Snow · Answer

When the relationship is not honest with each other and communication becomes difficult. Is this happening to you?

LC230 · Answer

Never been in one personally but witnessed one where the guy always pouted and look miserable in the corner of the girl was talking to other people and not by his side the entire time

Thank god she ended it

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Anything that makes the other person uncomfortable or not happy.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Manipulation, abuse, stupidity, insecurity, and disrespect all wrapped up in one shit sandwich.

Nikki1989 · Answer

When people have control issues.

kakaling · Answer

Bad communication. Unable to open up to me, playing games to make me guess what's she thinking.

imfreeze95 · Answer

Is the other person consistently making you feel bad about yourself?

bota_selena · Answer

Abuse, disloyalty, disrespect

4ngelic · Answer

when one or both people treat each other badly

electromagnetic · Answer

Sometimes, I like toxic.

bowenw · Answer

When one of the partners is controlling.

Jazzy54 · Answer

One or both partners is narcissistic.

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