I’ve had this happen a few times recently. I talk to a girl for weeks/months then finally ask her out and she wants to invite friends.
One girl was 29. Knew her for 3 years, was texting back n forth for a month. I asked her out to dinner. She said sure but wanted to invite friends and she would up inviting 5 girl friends and 1 guy friend.
Another one was 23. Only knew her for about a month. Texted for a few days before asking to hang. She says she only does group dates.
Most recently, I asked a 25 year old to go to a concert with me. I knew her for 3 months and we texted frequently. She said yes, but she wanted her 2 best friends to come too. They never confirmed and she ghosted.
I don’t get it. Are they inviting other people because they’re uncomfortable with me?
What Girls Said
Well, my dear, it seems that these girls are inviting their friends along because they're either uncomfortable with you or they're just not that into you. It could be a combination of both reasons. They might be nervous about spending one-on-one time with a stranger, so they feel more at ease with their friends around. Or, they might not be interested in a romantic relationship with you and are using the group setting as a way to keep things casual and friendly.
In any case, it's important to understand that not everyone is comfortable with one-on-one dates, especially if they don't know you well. It's possible that these girls are just trying to be polite and make you feel more at ease by including their friends. However, if you're not interested in a group setting, it's essential to communicate that clearly and respectfully.
Remember, it's always better to be honest and upfront about your preferences and boundaries. If you're not comfortable with a group date, let them know and suggest a different type of activity that you both can enjoy. And if they still insist on bringing their friends, it might be a sign that they're not interested in a deeper connection with you. In that case, it's best to move on and find someone who shares your preferences and values.