Do you think my wife has some type of mental problem because she laughed and enjoyed making two guys cry at work when she fired them?

[Anonymous]

About a year ago, my wife got a promotion at her job. She is in charge of personnel at a larger company and at times has to terminate people. In the last two weeks she had to fire two older guys due to "lacking minimal performance required under new set standards". Each time she came home laughing and bragging because she "made them cry like babies and they were begging for their jobs back". I asked why she enjoys it so much, her reply, "I just think it's funny. These big tough guy's crying and begging me not to fire them". I think she is actually becoming insane! And I'm not B. Sing. she constantly makes comments about guys she doesn't like. Comments like, "if he worked for me, I'd have him crying in a week". Do you think this is normal? Girls, is this how you would behave in a position of power?

[provokeesmokee]

Not normal. Your wife is in HR for the wrong reasons and it's folks like her that made me leave the industry.

That said, black and dark humour are coping mechanisms in HR.

I've certainly had several interviews where my coworkers and I swap incredulous stories and laughs about the worst/weirdest/strangest interviews.

I've laughed at an old man who once applied for a communications position, but he got upset that the two people interviewing him were younger women. He told us five mins in that he "wasn't used to sitting on this side of the table", and that he wasn't used to "young girls like you having power over him".

We thanked him and told him he was free to leave. There was no point in continuing: the hiring manager for the position was a younger woman and so was the person the position reported to. There was no way this salty old man was going to work. He was a lawsuit waiting to happen, so we protected the company and the hiring manager.

Other times, you just have bizarro shit happen. Like a person who applied for another communications position by making her resume into a magazine-like layout. Very unique and cool, but they didn't put their contact info anywhere and the cover was a strange and slightly sexual photo of the applicant with a horse.

Your wife has a lot of anger towards men. That's not necessarily a mental illness, nor is it necessarily indicative of unwarranted cruelty.

Those men may seriously have been slacking. And cutting slackers does feel good.

It is indicative of a bad manager and HR professional that she wants to reduce employees to tears, though. Tears aren't the goal and she's bound to fuck up and get sued if she keeps going.

Are men in her company exceptionally bad or gross, though? Cause some tradies really are worth making cry.

[Asker]

I think you're on to something, because in conversation, she made a comment of how it's nice that she has the power to make men cry instead of them making her cry. I've known her for YEARS and know she would get extremely emotional at work. She didn't like people yelling at her and having the power to have her get emotional. In a nut shell, she was embarrassed by it. So, I think, like you said, that made her seek "revenge" and have anger issues with men. Now she has the power. The problem I have, and don't crucify me, is she brings that shit home! Trying to emasculate me, her fucking husband! I just about told her the other night, "don't think you're coming home and swinging a big dick around me"! It's actually getting to that point. It just came on in the last couple weeks but is to the point where it is intolerable.

[Asker]

And another thing, I'm really not concerned about lawsuits, I'm more concerned about her taking her "dominant" act too far and someone getting violent.

[provokeesmokee]

Yeah if she's bringing her hatred home to you, she needs professional help.

You're her husband, not an annoying man at her work.

Protect yourself. You don't deserve to catch her misdirected hate.

[Asker]

To me, that is scary. A woman that I have loved for so many years and was such an amazing mother to our children, might or probably does need professional help. Like I told another opiner, I would like to tell her to quit! It is taking a toll on our marriage but if says no, then what? Hopefully it will slowly resolve itself. Thank you.

[Agape93]

Cool story, what inspired this little tale?

[Asker]

What inspired it? The fact that wife is turning into a little power hungry cunt, that I can no longer tolerate being around. Do you get it?

[Agape93]

It reads like a pretty shitty reddit story. So again, what inspired it?

If it was at all real, there's a little thing called "divorce".

[Asker]

Yeah, I'm going to throw 15 years of marriage away for behavior that just recently started. How would you feel, if you were her and I said, "quit your job, because your behavior is coming between us". That's what I plan on doing. If she says "no". Then what? I told her she might have a power trip problem but the biggest issue is, I'm worried she's gonna take it too far with someone and the result will be violence. These are all issues.

[Agape93]

If my behavior is causing a problem, I'd alter that or don't let them see it. But if she refuses change and keeps it up, yeah, break it off. Don't waste even more time with a toxic partner

[lightbulb27]

wow... not sure. I've seen firings and usually there is some empathy. I think after a while dealing with humans... when factoring in the legal stuff that has screwed most, ya get sick of them and start to despise them, enjoy power over them and creating misery. People dealing with unions even more so.

That be evil... e. g. selfishness and lack of empathy, which I'd say is normalized.

So yea, I think something is wrong with her emotionally... she's been hurt and taking it out on others.

I've not seen male or female act like that. But I've seen people do evil things at work to people under cover of policy. HR is not a nice group of people, they are often... wicked...

[Anonymous]

Is this the first you've seen of this behavior with her? How long have you been married?

[Asker]

We've been married for 15 years and yes, I've never seen this side of her. It is disturbing because now I kind of see she's trying to bring that attitude home! Almost like she's slowly trying to emasculate me.

[Keyboardkat]

I think this is a bit sick. Most bosses hate to have to fire people, knowing that they are hurting the employees' families as well. Your wife sounds like a person utterly devoid of compassion. She does not see her employees as people. Such people should NOT be in positions of power! I don't know what her relationship is like at home with you, but I would be very uncomfortable. What if she turns on you one day?

[Shamalien]

no offence dude but your wife sounds like a fking cunt

[Billlewis]

No -- I think she's awesome.

[MissBoogus]

She sounds insane and evil