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That's a tough one, but I would lean towards divorcing her. You see, if she really cared and felt bad about it, she simply just wouldn't do it again and would leave it at that. In my view, telling you doesn't show character, it shows her selfishness because she didn't tell you for your benefit, but for hers because she supposedly felt guilty. if you have significant assets, I would be careful here but I would kick her to the curb. I wouldn't let her know this though. I would make all of your preparations then when you're ready, have her served with divorce papers because the less time she has to prepare, the more likely you'll be able to avoid a really messy battle.
she was honest so i doubt it will happen again. she didn't have to tell you that so she obviously feels lots of guilt and remorse. that's 100% up to you. let me say im truly sorry you're going through this and if you choose to work ot out then seek consoling.
What would you do? If your hubby does same?
he lies so much but i haven't got a confession or proof of cheating and i can honestly say this. his lies alone KILL ME. because he makes me think something is up. id probably be in prison or kill myself so don't take my advice i have bad depression, anxiety list goes on i can't get hurt again it would kill me. sorry you're feeling it. it passes in weeks once it goes away the bad feeling you're naturally going to move on. when you snap out of it emotionally you'll leave then physically you'll leave as well.
so i would just leave. you don't need toxic. i have a feeling you'll accuse her daily. don't do it.
Sorry to hear about you. Why don't you leave your hubby?
We have kids and i love him. plus i have no proof. only proof he lies a lot. so it's not easy to trust him we are working on it
Hmmm ok. You know I asked her how your experience and she said it was great... they had fun...
mm I would say give her a chance if you feel that she is sincerely sorry and feeling guilty for it, if she is crying and scared of losing you, then give her a chance... We area all human and shit can happen, I believe the fact that she told you means that she was not planning to betray you. If you love her give her some rough time by telling her that you can't trust her, and maybe even leave the house for few days so she could feel scared of losing you. The only part i find strange is that you are saying that she told you the experience was great and fun.. why would she say that?
I'd say to end it dude. In my opinion she will have already been attracted to her boss so the spur of the moment thing goes right out of the window. I've had women cheat on me and tell me and it never stopped them doing it again. From the position you're in now with the heart ache you're feeling from your wife cheating and destroying the trust and relationship you had, it's going to be hard to get back to where you were and build that trust again. I've had several cheating girlfriends and the first few I tried to forgive and forget but in the end it turned me into a paranoid wreck and no one deserves to feel like that. Hope you make the right decision dude and try and stay positive through this
Clearly your wife is a materialistic bitch who is just trying to get leverage in the company by sleeping with the boss, very cheap. Then later when he started looking down on her, she started to 'feel bad' about what happened, nevertheless i will dump her if I were you.
Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me. I don't like being someone's fool. Did she use protection? Do oral on him? That may be the determining factor. Its one thing to cheat on you. Its another thing to expose you to disease. She was 100% concious of what she was doing.
How long you guys been together? Is she going to do something about her mistake? If so then how? Does she feel like having sex with others or she has feelings for her boss? If she wants to have sex with others, do you want that for yourself too? If yes, maybe you guys should start swinging? Open relationships won't work. Answer these questions and I'll comment again.
Honestly, I could overlook it if it's just the odd one night stand. Sometimes I like to get a hooker, so fair is fair. i would never tell her this but it secretly turns me on.
Don't divorce. Give her a chance. She was honest about it. Realistically you've got to ask yourself why, spur of the moment or not, she had to find comfort in the arms of another man. If you think she's worth it, TRY to spice things up for her because as a guy I know how boring guys can be.
I think the fact that she told you about it herself is good on her part, there may be something of your marriage to salvage if she is genuinely repentant, but I wouldn't recommend it.
If she's blaming on that it happened "in the spur of the moment" then that same "spur of the moment" could happen again
she betrayed you and the sanctity of marriage, once trust is better it can't be repaired, marriage is feeling safe with the other person, not the opposite
if she really love you then give her a chance. i know its a tough call. but if she is emotionally attached to u den give her a chance
Do you not assume it would happen again?Man, I'd cut it off. Save yourself the heartache and headache.
Yeh I guess it can happen again and again and again. Don't know what to do?
Divorce the bitch. Spur of the moment my ass. I really hate people who cheat they will do it again and are not worth your time, there are no good excuses either. Your wife is selfish, period.
Divorce, she doesn't respect you.
Reverse the roles and ask yourself this question.
if you have a child... maybe not...
once a cheater always a cheater
Hmmmm this thought is making me nervous
But I love her
But she betrayed you
It's hard but she betrayed your trust and your love
I know but she is saying she won't do it again but I guess it's hard to stop the temptation...
She doesn't deserve you and you don't deserve her unfaithfulness
Hard to stop temptation?Don't fall for itShe's playing your
Ohhh... do you think she had done this before or with other guys?
She may have just told you this time to make you think it was an accident
Then she may do it again and may or may not tell you
If she does than she will cry and say it's an accident and won't happen again over and over
She is taking advantage of your love for her Love is blind and you can't see another's faults
I don't mean to be so negative but I have seen a nasty divorce Trust me save yourself the pain and heartbreak and heartache Leave her for someone better
Ok thanks for detail advice. I need to think of it seriously
Ok hope that helped I hope you choose to leave her It would be better for You
She's full of shit.
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