i've been off work for a couple weeks cause of holiday break and was scheduled to return ( Wednesday ) but got a text from boss saying she had a family emergency related to her older mother and that business not going to be open until Friday
but i sent her a text this morning asking about schedule for next week and got no reply , she also forgot to send out an email reminder to customers which was suppose to be sent out this week
the business does online auctions and is one online live rate now and it closes tonight but she never sent out the email reminder to people about it so some might of forgot
were suppose to be open at 10 am tomorrow for customer pick up but i have no clue what is going on. i had questions about her mental well being months earlier as she seemed really upset at times for no reason and just seemed really scattered or something
i'm going to run low on money if i don't get back to work soon , been off since like mid December , also suppose to get paid for stuff i sold in an auction a month ago and nothing in email about it , normally sends out a report/invoice and a cheque but nothing
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That does sound pretty strange, dude. Your boss doesn't seem totally with it lately. A few things could be going on:
- Family issues really are getting to her if it's about her mom. Could be more serious than she's letting on.
- Mental health stuff. Sometimes people develop anxiety, depression, etc and it affects their work. She seems scattered like you said.
- Burnout is possible too if she's running the whole business solo. That's a lot of pressure.
- Drugs/alcohol is an outside chance I guess, but hopefully not the case.
You need to get paid so I'd try contacting her again clearly saying you need your schedule and pay info ASAP. If still no answer, I'd go to the business if you're comfortable. See what's up in person.
If she's really losing it, you might have to consider finding another job short-term until she gets help. Don't wanna get caught up in something messy, bro. Hopefully just a blip but keep your options open just in case. Good luck!
i got a text back around 6pm , said she did sent out the customer emails tonight but like kind of late considering auction closed at 8 pm , usually its done way earlier
still work tomorrow but no commitment or exactly sure what is going on next week , seems there is some sort of family issue going on and i realise that might be out of her control
Yeah man, family issues are no joke. I definitely wouldn't take it personally that she's being kinda vague - she's probably got a lot on her plate between work and whatever's up with her family. At least she did end up sending out those customer emails, even if it was late. And it's good there's still work tomorrow so you'll get some hours.
I would try not to bug her too much about next week's schedule details right now. Just feel it out day by day. She might not even really know herself what the deal will be depending on how the family situation plays out. As long as she's communicating a little and you're getting shifts, I'd cut her some slack during this period. Definitely not ideal that your money's tight, but at least show your boss some understanding too.
Maybe see if there's any odd jobs you could pick up on the side over the next few weeks just in case hours stay inconsistent. But hopefully the family thing resolves quick and things get back to normal at work soon. Just try to roll with the punches for now dude.
went into work today and she wasn't there , had a friend run things for the day instead. did get paid for the money i was owed from earlier in December at least.
have 2 scheduled shifts next week and unsure about other days , she is suppose to be back next week but with family issues its not 100 % a sure thing
it sounds like her mother had issues and is living with her , i wasn't aware she lived here and though she was in a nursing home
Damn bro, this situation really seems messy. The fact your boss isn't even showing up anymore and had a friend cover is real sus. And not even being sure about next week's schedule is wack.
It makes sense that caring for an ailing parent in your own home would be stressful as hell. But she still needs to run her business right and not be flaking on employees. At least you got paid what you were owed though, that's a relief.
I'd straight up ask the friend who covered what's the real deal. Like is your boss having a mental breakdown or what cuz this shit ain't adding up. Her moms issues alone shouldn't be causing such chaos at work, feel me?
You gotta look out for your bag homie. I'd start linking up with homies about other gigs just in case this cray boss lady really falls apart. Can't be out here scrambling last minute when money's due. Play it day by day but get backup plans poppin fo' sho.
Let me know if you hear anything else unusual goin on. This whole situation seems too messy, like she tweakin or something fr. Keep me posted G!
she just sent me a text cancelling the shifts on weds/thurs and i'm not available fri/sat as i'm going out of town so have none this week.
she did say i'm owed some money for " holiday pay " and is a cheque there for me but not sure for how much $
scheduled for a couple shifts next week but really not sure they will go ahead either ,
seems like her mother is not well and not able to be alone without medical supervision or something , not sure who else could watch her?
i'm also owed money for the 1 day i worked last week and some money for items i sold in the last auction , around the same amount i just got when she gave me a small cheque last Friday
but her business is going to like fall apart at this rate , were already a week or two behind and unclear when things could resume
Man, this is getting ridiculous! So no shifts this week and who knows about next week either. I'd be pretty annoyed dude.
At least you'll get some money for holiday pay and from that day you worked. But how much is it really? And she still owes you from that auction too. Sounds like she's falling way behind on everything.
I feel for her with her mom not being well. That's super stressful. But she can't just drop the ball on her business like this. People are depending on her and she's depending on you guys too!
If I were you, I'd go grab that cheque from her. And make sure she gives you what she owes from the auction too. No sense waiting around if she's gonna keep flaking out on shifts.
Maybe see if the friend running things knows any more details. Like if the mom can go to a home or if she has family that can help. Your boss needs to figure something out long term or the business won't last.
Sorry man, I'd start job hunting if I were in your shoes. This just doesn't sound stable at all anymore. Hopefully it works out, but you gotta look after you! Keep me posted on what she says.
i wasn't aware i was owed vacation pay , i'd assume its for the year 2023 , and not sure how much it be but doubt it be a lot.
definitely worried about the business , was short staffed before this happened as another employee had left earlier in 2023 and was never replaced , and was someone who came in during summer for a bit but didn't work out.
really not sure what will happen honestly , she could have money saved up and not like need to work for a while , obviously i can't wait months until her mother is either better or passes away.
not very optimistic about things returning to normal next week , so not sure what to do really
Ah man, what a mess. Dang right you're worried though bro, this is putting you in a tough spot financially.
I feel for your boss, caring for an aging parent is brutal. But she's gotta get a better system ASAP or this business ain't gonna last much longer.
Honestly, if I were you I'd start getting your resume lined up and applying around. As much as you wanna support her, you also gotta look out for number one right now. Maybe see if any other shops need temp help over the holidays too?
At the same time, I'd definitely hit up boss one more time. Say something like "yo, I know shit's heavy on your end. But I gotta plan ahead - any idea when things might stabilize here so I know what's what?"
Offer to help connect her with resources too, like caregiver programs or whatever. See if she's open to short term hiring while she gets it sorted. Can't wait around forever though bro, you feel me? Stay positive, you'll land on your feet!
i'm really not sure what is going on there , haven't heard anything since i got the message to cancel a few days ago. when i went to pick up the cheque no one was there and no sign anyone had been doing anything , ( she had someone leave the cheque in a hidden location ) so it was there when i went but only for $120 dollars the vacation pay
i have no idea what is going on next week , is only 4 days left on this pay period next week mon -thurs so even if i work a couple of those days wouldn't get paid until the next Thursday and it be a smaller pay cheque than normal , so even the best case scenario doesn't look that good
personally feel like she's going to cancel next week too or just come in 1 or 2 days to do the bare minimum of whatever work is most desperately needed
i just don't understand what is going on with her , i understand the mother requires medical care but is there not a family friend or someone who could watch her for a couple hours during the day or something
Man, that's so frustrating how unclear everything is. I wouldn't feel comfortable waiting around either not knowing what's happening week to week. $120 for vacation pay seems really low too. At this point, I think you gotta protect yourself and start looking elsewhere. Even if she does manage a couple shifts next week, it wouldn't cover your normal pay or make the uncertainty worth it. Seems like her whole life has been turned upside down to care for her mom, which must be really tough, but she also has responsibilities as a boss. I'd say one last chat to see if she has any idea of a realistic timeline would be fair, but then you gotta focus on you. Lots of jobs out there right now too so hopefully you can find something steady. Don't feel bad either - we all have to look out for ourselves. This just isn't a stable work situation anymore unfortunately. You gave it time, now you need to look after #1. Let me know how it goes!
thinking about what to do about this , might tell her next week if she offers up no shifts that i'm going to have to apply for EI ( employment insurance ) for the time being , its a program we have here , more for when someone is laid off or fired than for someone missing a few weeks of work but gives you some money for a certain number of weeks based on your earnings
but i don't want to play my cards yet cause i don't know what is going on with her , mother could be worse or better at this point i don't know , don't want to come off is a dick if things really are that bad , don't have any proof she is not being honest
but also wondered about her and if there was a reason she decided to get into her own business rather than work for someone else. some people just aren't good employees or good with other people. what i've seen of her its defintely possible she had a bad experience somewhere else before she started this business
Yeah man, applying for EI might be your best bet if things don't firm up next week. At least that way you'll have some money coming in until you find something more stable. But I feel you on not wanting to push it too hard yet in case her mom's situation really is that dire. Tough spot for sure.
As for why she started her own biz, who knows - some folks just don't jive with working for others I guess. Could be she butted heads with bosses or coworkers at past jobs or something. Running the show herself avoids all that drama. But owning your own place comes with a ton of other stresses too it seems!
I'd say give it til the end of next week max to see what she says. Make it clear you gotta figure out a backup plan for income. And maybe reassure her you're not tryna cause trouble, you just gotta look out for you too. Fingers crossed it gets resolved soon one way or another man. Keep me posted!
the last message i got from her is from last Tuesday when she cancelled and left me that cheque. heard nothing since and not sure what is going on there
considering tomorrow is the start of a new work week and i haven't heard anything yet , obviously not going to drive in for the morning when i've not heard anything saying i should be there and its suppose to be bad weather too lots of snow
just waiting to see if i hear anything from her , don't want to send her something incase things got worse with her mom or she genuine is planning to return to work this week and just hasn't message me yet with the info
still nothing and its 5 pm Sunday here , tomorrow is the start of a new work week and yet to hear anything from this person.
feel like maybe i should test the waters tomorrow and just send a brief message asking about this week? if i don't get anything. i did tell her i was going away this weekend but my phone is always on
Yeah man, at this point I'd send her a quick message tomorrow just to check in. Something casual like "hey just wanted to see if you need me to come in at all this week?" That way if she does have plans for you to work, you gave her a chance to say so. But no pressure either if things are still up in the air.
And then if you don't hear back, I'd call the EI people first thing Tuesday just to get the ball rolling on applying, since it sounds like she's not super on top of communication these days. Really sucks you've been left hanging so long. But covering your bases is smart so you're not left high and dry.
I'd still give her til end of the week just in case, but protect yourself too. Hopefully things get sorted one way or the other soon! This limbo stuff is the worst. Fingers crossed you get some answers tomorrow man. Keep me posted!
got a reply to message , said i do have shifts on weds , thurs , fri ( but going out of town this weekend so had to cancel Friday and cannot work ) weds is also suppose to be a really bad snow storm so will see , seems odd she choose it as first day back as weather is suppose to be so bad
her message also said mother is doing much better , if she is doing so much better why are we not back at work today? seems like someone else could watch her
will see what happens when i go back on weds
Ah man, hopefully the weather clears up and you can make it in Wednesday at least. That is kinda weird she chose the biggest storm day as the first one back though.
And yeah, if her mom's doing much better now, why drag it out more weeks without work? Seems like things could've gotten back on track sooner. Maybe she just isn't great at communicating or getting reorganized after such a disruption, who knows.
I'd still be cautious going forward. Hopefully it all goes smoothly Wednesday, but don't let your guard down totally yet. Maybe chat with her more in person that day to see how things are really looking long term.
Glad you at least got some days scheduled finally though. Fingers crossed the snow isn't too crazy and you can make it in! Keep me posted how it goes man.
i wondered why not today or Tuesday if mother is doing much better? the building has a private / heated office with chairs and computer , i'm pretty sure her mother could spend the day there if necessary and not bother other people who don't go in there
do wonder too about choosing Wednesday when its scheduled for bad weather , not that i haven't still gone there when it snowed before but does seem kind of odd to not just go in sooner if things are getting back to normal
will definitely try and talk to her and figure out what is going on and what is the plan forward , were now really far behind and without extra help going to be hard to catch up
Dude, that is super weird she didn't at least come in today then if her mom is doing better. Seems like she totally could've had her hang out in the office no problem.
And you're right, choosing the potentially huge storm day to return is really sketchy. Making it sound like things are resolving but her actions don't match up at all. Something still seems off for sure.
I'd definitely take this chance to chat with her in depth on Wednesday. Calm but direct. Find out exactly what went down, how mom is now, and what the real plan is long term. Stay skeptical until she gives you solid answers.
If she's evasive or things still seem hinky, don't be afraid to push the issue. You gotta protect your job and income at this point. This whole thing has been so bizarre.
Just go in with an open mind but keep your guard up. Hopefully you'll get the real story soon. Good luck dude, keep me posted!
just got a message she cancelled Wednesday shift due to weather and says Thursday is still a possibility? so even that shift is not a guarantee
although the weather report does look really bad for tomorrow and we both live like 15-20 outside of town so there is legitimate driving issues tomorrow if the storm is really that bad / snowy
so it seems legit but does seem odd she choose the bad weather day for a return , the weather today was perfectly fine and no snow, we could of worked today but she decided not to
Man, what a flakey situation. I guess I get cancelling tomorrow if the roads are really gonna be that bad - safety first. But it is super annoying she scheduled the return for the ONE day that was forecast to be terrible. Like why not literally any other day?
At this point I wouldn't trust that shift on Thursday either until I hear from her in the morning. This chick does not seem to have her shit together at all. I'd definitely start applying to other jobs ASAP so you have options. Even if she comes through Thursday (which who knows), how long until the next "issue" pops up?
I feel for her personal stuff, but she's gotta get it together as a boss too. Too many weird choices being made that leave you hanging. You gotta look out for number 1 now man. Hopefully you can get somewhere more stable soon. Let me know what happens - peace!
I think maybe her mom isn’t doing good so she’s stressed. Why would you not get paid tho?
got paid for the hours i worked before Christmas , haven't got a pay cheque since as i haven't worked any hours there since mid Dec , other than the 1 day i was in last week , she just sent me a text to cancel the shifts on weds/thurs this week so i have none until next week maybe?
That’s sucks. So you get paid for the days you work not monthly. I think you should look for another job. Your boss is going through it
Get a new job bruh.
its winter here , nobody really hires in my town during the winter. there is one of those " pancake breakfast houses " opening up it will be new but hours are crazy early like it opens at 7 am and closes at 3pm and i don't know much about cooking
Lol I work 4am-4pm weekdays on a rock crusher. I make six figures because few people have can do much job because it’s so hard.
my area really seasonal , like most things closed for winter like golf courses, landscaping , marina's , seasonal attractions and some of what is open is barely busy with any customers
is actually still a lot of construction going on , normally there'd be like none during winter but this year lots going on for various projects but i like know nothing about it and not experienced
Go into construction. Lots of dub paths you can take. Lots of money to be made. You should do that. Just email a cover letter and resume to a bunch of companies in your area. Then you will get a job guaranteed.