I don't understand her. What is going on?

[dgr97]

I am so sad. I searched for her so much that I stopped writing to her, and several days have passed, and she doesn't speak to me. She assured me that nothing is wrong, that everything was fine, that I have to relax. But if everything is supposed to be fine, why doesn't she deign to talk to me? Why would she lie to me like that? I don't understand anything, and I only know that I have to hold on from going back to look for her, because I feel that she is no longer interested in me.

[_Maya_]

So there needs to be some context to the situation. First why did you stop writing her? Maybe you got a little pushy and clingy and she needed space. Is this a girl you are dating? Wanting to date? Girlfriend? You see how we need to know who she is to you to better give an opinion of what to do. If she says everything is fine and to relax take her word for it. Don't second guess her or you will end up in a panic and overthinking things like you are now.

[dgr97]

We want to get to have a relationship, but now I don't know what we're up to. I stopped writing to her because I have noticed her too far away for more than a month. She doesn't look for me like before. We had had some arguments, but I immediately felt that she changed her attitude. And after that I have apologized to her, and I have looked for her a lot. And she tells me that she's busy, and that she's all good. But then her actions are so weird. You tell me that she trusts in the fact that everything is fine? It is that she had already ended the relationship with me last year, and she told me exactly the same thing that she tells me now. That everything was fine, and that she wasn't pulling away from me. To then say that she wanted to leave, and it was because she had met someone else. So now I'm having flashbacks of what happened, and it's painful.

[_Maya_]

I get that you had a bad experience but that doesn't mean it is going to happen with this girl. I think the biggest issue right now is you don't trust that she is fine because of what happened with the other girl. If you can't trust her nothing is ever going to work. TRUST ME on that.

[dgr97]

I think I didn't explain it well. That didn't happen to me with ''another girl''. It happened to me with her, with the girl who doesn't talk to me now. She is my ex, and with her I had that bad experience. You know what I mean now? She told me that everything was fine, but she didn't look for me like before, she was far away, and she met another person, and that was horrible, it hurt too much. So now I'm afraid, because she doesn't tell me anything.