Well first the situation is all messed up. I think I caught feelings for my friends girlfriend. He was locked up for about 8 months during this time I built a good friendship with his girl. She was pregnant at the time and I helped her with various things the whole time he was gone.
I didn't start with the intentions of having a close friendship with her but it turned into that I think. We'd text everyday, she would send me a good morning message every morning and lots of :)s. I thought nothing bad of it, I don't know I guess I enjoyed someone thinking I was special. We'd hangout sometimes at her apartment and just talk sometimes but I guess things were wrong. A while before my friend comes home I'm asking her about it and she tells me we can't talk like we do we he gets back. I'm confused cause I didn't think of her in a special way at the time. I tell her I don't know understand but okay and I'm going to miss talk talking to her but she says that she will miss it too but she promises its not forever. I ask how long and she tells me till she gets things figured out with him. I'd tell her things I thought about her and liked about her personality and she told me I told her things no one told her but her dad before and she liked it.
A little background my friend is very mean verbally to her. On the phone would say all sorts of mean things about her and their baby which would really bother me. I care a lot about her and the baby. When he was mean I'd try to cheer her up but I'd only tell her compliments and good things about herself that we're true I really ment them..
We haven't ever had any physical contact but we talked a lot and she told me some personal things as I did also. I put a lot of trust in her, I'm not usually one to tell people many people personal things about myself but with her, I told her things about myself I didn't tell anyone. She told me about problems in their relationship I guess she needed someone to talk to about them.
She asked me weather my friend had ever cheated on her. Which he had and she knew it just not from someone who knew undoubtly. I told her the truth that he had. I guess it's wrong to snitch on my friend but I've never been so honest with someone like I have with
Well he's comes back and things seem to get very weird between us. She wants me to tell him I told her that he cheated. I tell her whys he have to hear that from me when he already knows she knows. She says then hell know that she knows for certain and why she would be leaving him but she stills around him all the time. So I tell her why should I do something she can't do for herself. I'm worried about her cause I think she's depressed but I don't know what to do.
Should I go ahead and tell him I told her and that we been friends this whole time or what? I don't know if I have feelings for her more than I should because I just really want her to be happy. I'm just at a loss of what's going on in her head and what's going on in mine. It's driving crafty
I didn't start with the intentions of having a close friendship with her but it turned into that I think. We'd text everyday, she would send me a good morning message every morning and lots of :)s. I thought nothing bad of it, I don't know I guess I enjoyed someone thinking I was special. We'd hangout sometimes at her apartment and just talk sometimes but I guess things were wrong. A while before my friend comes home I'm asking her about it and she tells me we can't talk like we do we he gets back. I'm confused cause I didn't think of her in a special way at the time. I tell her I don't know understand but okay and I'm going to miss talk talking to her but she says that she will miss it too but she promises its not forever. I ask how long and she tells me till she gets things figured out with him. I'd tell her things I thought about her and liked about her personality and she told me I told her things no one told her but her dad before and she liked it.
A little background my friend is very mean verbally to her. On the phone would say all sorts of mean things about her and their baby which would really bother me. I care a lot about her and the baby. When he was mean I'd try to cheer her up but I'd only tell her compliments and good things about herself that we're true I really ment them..
We haven't ever had any physical contact but we talked a lot and she told me some personal things as I did also. I put a lot of trust in her, I'm not usually one to tell people many people personal things about myself but with her, I told her things about myself I didn't tell anyone. She told me about problems in their relationship I guess she needed someone to talk to about them.
She asked me weather my friend had ever cheated on her. Which he had and she knew it just not from someone who knew undoubtly. I told her the truth that he had. I guess it's wrong to snitch on my friend but I've never been so honest with someone like I have with
Well he's comes back and things seem to get very weird between us. She wants me to tell him I told her that he cheated. I tell her whys he have to hear that from me when he already knows she knows. She says then hell know that she knows for certain and why she would be leaving him but she stills around him all the time. So I tell her why should I do something she can't do for herself. I'm worried about her cause I think she's depressed but I don't know what to do.
Should I go ahead and tell him I told her and that we been friends this whole time or what? I don't know if I have feelings for her more than I should because I just really want her to be happy. I'm just at a loss of what's going on in her head and what's going on in mine. It's driving crafty
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Also why would she not want my friend to know we were talking? I mean I never thought anything wrong of it as neither of us said anything inappropriate to each other except maybe getting a little to sweet but never sexual. I miss her friendship a lot and it hurts when I'll come over to see my friend, her and the baby and she acts like we weren't ever friends but then she'll text me when he's at work or sometimes when me and him are hanging out. It seems like all we do when we talk now is
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Argue and get upset with each other. I don't understand it at all. It made me question if we were ever friends and if she meant the stuff she had told me. She just got pissed and said of course were friends and she wouldn't have said it if she didn't mean it. I don't know it sucks I just want this girl in my life and I'm happy if we're never anything more than friends, I mean I think she is wonderful person really but she's so damn confusing.
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Im going to stop talking to her and my friend for now. I don't want to cause problems for them and want her to be happy along with the baby to be taken care of. Its hard to lose two good friendships but I guess its what needs to happen for the best. should I tell my friend that I told her about him cheating on her? he already knows she knows cause another friends girlfriend told her about it and another girl he was with told her but she seems to really want me to tell him that I told her. so do I tell?
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