Am I the only guy who hates it when girls call you their friend?

[LadiesFavoriteToy]

Honestly I'm not there to be your friend so why do girls really say that stupid word? Like stop playing games and state your purpose. I'm not wasting time with stuff that has no meaning. Just simply stop talking to the girls who call you friend and move on to girls who know what they want!

[normalice]

No. The alt right even came up with the term "incel" to help young men get mad about the fact that girls aren't thinking about how to get sex all day. The idea is because a guy has spent so much time and energy into wanting to have sex then obviously horny supermodels should be bursting into his mom's basement to latch on to his dick. Men who want sex badly enough are are entitled to that and yet it isn't happeneing.

This is obviously women's fault for not picking up their end of the couch. This man is horny therefore all hot women in a mile radius must also be horny, so the the only thing that could possibly be stopping them is that they are "playing games" or pretending they don't know they are horny.

The far right has spent billions on think tanks to figure out the formula for converting common male sexual frustrations into votes for giving more money to the rich. This redpill/incel thing seems to be what they've come up with. I'd recommend just not doing that and deciding friendship not only isn't an attack but might actually turn out to be a way to meet other women. But I don't have billions of dollars behind me so you probably won't see this sort of message nearly as often as the "women are wasting your time with friendship" message.

[EricSummer]

Just keep things in motion and increase the intimacy at each meeting as long as she responds favorably.

This way, being a friend will be a stage on the way to becoming her boyfriend (which has "friend" in it still).

The dreaded friendzone always involves a long time of stagnation when you cannot get closer anymore. That can be avoided.

Also, what's in a word? The label of "friend" can mean different things to different women. Once you can kiss her you will be more than friends regardless of what she calls it.

[Anonymous]

If she calls you friend. She’s not SEXUALLY ATTRACTED to you. WTF YOU THINK 😂

You probably come off G-4-Y AS FUCK 🤡

You probably come off as some weirdo/ creep. 🤡

you're bodyshape, you're character. Your personality, your behavior. Is COMPLETELY turning her off. And she looks at you as if you’re a female 🤡. She might as well become a lesbian if she were to fuck and date you 🖕

Why do these undesirable ass men don’t understand this SHT.

[Opinion Owner]

@ladiesfavoritetoy

[CubsterShura]

Looks like a you problem. Why are you getting so offended over good people not bending their reality to your stupid weirdo motives? Just stop interacting with women if you can't find any meaning in it unless you can get sex out of it. We don't have time to entertain horny morons.

[xKayTea]

Put it perfectly.

[Billlewis]

Well said.

[EmyyWolf]

Literally!!

[Rei13]

Generally if someone tells you that you’re their friend that is all there is to it and they’re telling you exactly how they feel. It is pretty straightforward to be honest. I can honestly see why you’re single based off of what you posted, but you’re still young.

[Ironic_Method]

First of all... you may want to change your username because it clearly isn't true.

Secondly, are you just... incapable of just being friends with a girl? Like you think they can't offer anything other than their body just because of their gender?

[SexyBrunetteNY]

They know what they want. If they want YOU as a FRIEND and you're not okay with that, move on. Women are NOT insulting a man when they make him a 'friend' because anyone who values you as a friend IS still complimenting you!! Please leave your d**k out of the equation. Every female you meet is not going to want to bed you. Attraction is a funny thing, a mystery, not something you can force.

[Vegasrunner]

@SexyBrunetteNY It's a bit disrespectful because it shows that the woman doesn't care about what men value. It's one thing to just say there not interested, but pretending that a man wants you as a friend is pretty decitful.

[Pegases]

They are stating their purpose tho. So once they do, take the hint man. No woman that is interested in being more than your friend, will call you their friend. Yes women play a lot of game, while claiming they don't want men that play them, but the reality is they sort of have to play games to protect themselves. But in a nutshell, women that are interested, won't make it hard for you to date them. Move on.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I don't agree. She needs to be my friend to have a shot at being my girlfriend.

These things take time, it can take a few years to learn about a person well enough to know if they are honest and actually a match. If she wanted to skip friendship and go straight to dating, thats a red flag to me.

[DiegoO]

Girls telling you friend it's something out of your control. You can not change their response but you can define if it's something you value or not. If you don't like girls calling you friend, keep blocking them, and stick to those who wants to be more than friend.

[ta-ra]

Most of the time the best, long lasting relationships start off as friendship. Some girls prefer to be friends with you before jumping head first into anything romantic or sexual. I wouldn't view it so negatively.

[Vegasrunner]

@ta-ra No benifit to the guy though which is the Authors point.

[Jdodkfndosn]

I think relationships that develop through friendships are generally not directly linked, rather there is some degree of separation

[ta-ra]

@Vegasrunner why is there no point? Do you not have friends? Or the OP?

The only point I saw was a guy getting pissy because he has to actually work for pussy, I was trying to show the benefits of the other side of the coin

[Vegasrunner]

@ta-ra I don't have usually keep women friends. I will if and only if they actively help me attract more women, but in general they're pretty useless to a guy like me. If a guy has to pretend to be friends w/ a women to get pussy then he's a loser and doesn't get pussy in the first place.

[ta-ra]

So you're telling me all guys only fake being friends with females?
I have guy friends whom I help with relationship advice or other advice that their male friends cba to help with etc.. why should it matter that I don't have a dick to be considered a friend to a guy? I'm genuinely asking.

[Vegasrunner]

@ta-ra It's impossible to speak to "all" of something, as you should expect outliers. However "all" is not a pre-requisite for reality. All people don't vote yet we still have elected officials. Typical people who use that as a metric are looking for a way to justify their belief. You see women do this a lot.
W/ that said majority of guys are only friends w/ women in the hopes of one day having sex w/ them proof being
1. Pretty girls have more male friends than fat girls.
2. How many times has a guy rejected you for sex?
If a guy is getting relationship advice from a girl that has put him in the froendzone that tells me right there that that same guy is not successful w/ women, as women typically give only self serving advice. Not sure if it "should" matter but it does. Most primitive reason is because the male takes on way more risk than the female, and I'll give you an example. I once had to beat the shit out of this guy that was "friends" w/ this girl. I was out one night saw an attractive girl standing alone. I approached started talking and she was feeling me. Few minutes later her guy friend comes over and starts chatting me up while I'm trying to talk to her. Because I'm a successful Alpha male, I've been in these situations b4 I completely ignored the guy and asked the girl "Is this your b4" to which she responded "no he's JUST a friend" at that point I grabhed her hand and asked her if we can get out of here and grab a drink, the guy tried to physically separate us by touching me, which then led to him getting his ass kicked, even worse for him I ended up hooking up w/ that same girl a couple days later. Point being, he took all the risk that one takes to protect a SO, yet received nothing but an ass kicking and embarssment in return.

[ta-ra]

I understand your point. I have lost many male friends for the fact I didn't want anything more than a platonic relationship, I will say sometimes having an opposite gender as a true friend has its benefits even if you don't believe so, and that's totally acceptable and I understand.

I was exaggerating the *all* part. Poor choice of words on part. For that I apologize. But I don't agree that you can't have male/female friends. And *most* guys have no problem being my friend. But hey to each their own.

[Jdodkfndosn]

"I will say sometimes having an opposite gender as a true friend has its benefits even if you don't believe so"

It's definitely beneficial for those who want to get their emotional needs met which is more of a want (need) for women. Men (rather than say sex) generally want an experience. Generally isn't equitable

[ta-ra]

I respect both of your opinions, I still don't agree. But thanks for your input. Makes some men more understable to women.
We can now see if a guy refuses to be our friend it's because they solely look at us to fill their needs and not be respectful enough to fill ours.

[Vegasrunner]

@ta-ra All good and we can certainly agree to disagree. I agree that for you as a woman having make friends has benifits, my point is that for a man it doesn't have any. What's unfortunate for you is that most guys are going to lie to you to pretend that you're friends so you're going to always receive the kind of mis information that validates your POV.

[Jdodkfndosn]

@Vegasrunner okay but any guy who lies about his intentions is a chump. Don't lie to I women. Tell them what you want. It's these kind of manipulative fks that cause women to have the unfortunate beliefs about men that many have

[Vegasrunner]

@Jdodkfndosn That's just another form of shaming language. It usually works on younger guys that don't have any real world experience w/ women. Reality is most lying to the opposite gender is pretty standard, the difference is when men do it people attempt to shame them. As we get older we typically worry less about what others say which is another reason older men are more successful w/ women than younger ones.

[provokeesmokee]

Lol, lots of anger there, bud. I can see why friendship with you would be a big L.

[LadiesFavoriteToy]

You don't know me, laugh all you want.

[Bricealan]

Mine was doing that up until January when we went to a concert. That was the last time I went out with her.

I dont' need any girl 'friends". Had women friends before, but they did not EVER use the word "friend".

[BoopBoopBeep]

I've slept with several of my friends over the years so if that's what you're complaining about/concerned with, that's not how it has to play out.

[Anonymous]

It means you're the fall guy, the one she uses. She uses you because the neverending stream of deadbeats, fuckboys, baby daddies, wannabe gangsters and dope dealers she's INTIMATE WITH... use her-so you're the one who makes her circle complete. That's their version of a "friend" in a guy.

[Sour-rose]

Well... yes. I mean what else you call someone that you have interest in... some bitch?

[Kaamraj]

If a girl friendzones you then it's your fault. She's not forcing you to be her friend. I advise men not to befriend women because generally they're not of much use in that capacity.

[Anonymous]

When a girl calls you "friend," it's her way of letting you know that you are never getting that pussy and you should just stop thinking about it. They think that calling you friend is a kinder way of delivering that message.

[236color]

Stop hating it, when she calls you a friend, understand that it isn't happening and move on.

[katiesmuff]

You sound like a real charmer! Bet girls are just climbing the walls to get a date with you

[RainbowMarinade]

Chances are, you once you finally get laid for the first time, your prospective will change.

[HelpfulWoman]

Sounds like you have some insecurity you may want to seek help with...

[zagor]

Apparently. I've had a number of F friends over the years. Some are actually fun to spend time with without having sex.

[Sasha0426]

Do you prefer me to call you little fuckboy instead? Because I have no issue with that 😂

[HollywoodPearl]

Sometimes we call you what you are even if you have an interest if yourea friend, what can we call you then?

sometimes it also comes out unknowingly at least on me.

[McKellar]

Nope, you're not the only one. I'm not a fan of that either.

[DextroShade]

Damn right, the friend-zone is for chumps! No self-respecting man should tolerate it.

[KrakenAttackin]

Correct. If she identifies you as a "friend", just quietly cut contact with her.

[A_Bell]

Awww. Poor buddy.

[Anonymous]

Talk it out with your dad for some advice.

[austinbooth]

No you're not

[Kelly6]

looks like