Why do guys get angry at girls friendzoning them?

Question

If a girl says no then NO MEANS NO! Would you rather the girl be honest with you then for her to go out with you if she don’t have feelings for you?

OneViewpoint · Accepted Answer

Guys get get angry because some of them are immature, selfish, and don't look beyond the rejection to ask themselves the question about honesty vs being told lies they want to hear.

A normal mentally healthy guy will be disappointed but he will handle it like an adult. Appreciate the honesty. Recognize that it probably wasn't easy for her to reject him either. And be grateful that she didn't waste his time and money or play with his emotions and that frees him up to move on to someone else.

The immature man-baby won't be able to get past feeling rejected, humiliated, angry and bitter. It will be all about him all the time and never about her choices and her feelings. These guys are very insecure and have zero empathy in these situations. And I'd bet that their red flags cause this to happen to them over and over again. They feel persecuted and become paranoid. They aren't wrong. Women don't generally like them. They're assholes. But they can't see they are their own worst enemy. Self awareness is near zero.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

It's because girls take advantage of their male "friends", using them for free labor, attention, comfort, and sometimes even money ("loans" that never get paid back), and maybe worst of all, as a backup plan. Meanwhile, the guy gets nothing out of it.

This is why I strongly advise men to walk away from the Friend Zone any time he's been put into one. Men have nothing to gain and plenty to lose by being "friends" with women, and more than anything, if a man is friends with a woman, that just enables her to feel entitled, instead of truly appreciative, of the things that men do for her. That's bad for everyone.

msmissydc · Accepted Answer

The friendzone isn't real. In reality its a horny guy and a girl who thought she had a friend. (Or the other way arround)

jazzy34 · Accepted Answer

Because they dreamed up a whole relationship with her in his head. Women are guilty of this, too.

Anonymous · Answer

Flat out saying "no" to dating someone isn't what most guys refer to as the friend zone. That's just rejection. Sure, some guys don't take rejection well, but the friend zone is much more exploitative than that.

The friend zone is when a women keeps a guy around, expecting boyfriend benefits, without giving girlfriend benefits in return. She lets him think he has a chance, specifically because she doesn't say "no", but rather leads him on. She knows he likes her, and uses those feelings to manipulate him into doing things for her.

That's what guys get upset about; being used, all the while thinking they had a shot with her, even when she never had any intention of dating him. Most guys would prefer that she just says she has no intention of dating her, so he can move on, and quit wasting his time.

236color · Answer

Guys that get friend zoned are operating on wishful thinking. They know you said no, but they think that if they're nice and helpful and available, you'll change your mind. You on the other hand, are assuming he views being your "friend" as an adequate consolation prize. He doesn't want to run errands for you, he doesn't want to be your emotional tampon while you get abused by the Chad you do find attractive. Tell them up front, "it's never going to happen". Let him know that no amount of helpfulness or friendliness or hanging around is going to get him where he wants to go. Now this does mean you lose a source of free labor, but you won't have these sad sacks getting all upset when they finally figure it out.

ohsheeT · Answer

Guys dont think that far ahead

Every guy on this planet has had this happen they meet someone become friends becomes horny. And the only way he's going to get in to his friends pants is to start dating her not thinking ahead well I'm going to get laid but what happens if it doesn't work out.

That means no girlfriend. And no friend. 80 % make the wrong choice. And want that sex. They get it a few months later , they also get the big boot see ya !!!

Guys it hard to find a true friend a loyal friend. A good friend when obe comes in to your life. Keep her there by being real not horny

Purpleronnie · Answer

I see no reason for a guy to get “angry” unless of course he feels he has been led on , that wouldn’t surprise me but it would have to be legitmate and not just his viewpoint.
Disappointment I understand and even distance assuming fake friendship wasn’t an option but anger suggest he wasn’t quite in a good place to begin with.

Rejection is common in most people’s life’s at one point or another at least one , in if you me male likely much much more. Being adult is being able to cope with that … he clearly wasn’t and needs to learn.

DextroShade · Answer

When women say "let's just be friends" men are increasingly becoming aware that they really mean "I don't want to ever have sex with you but I will give you the privilege of doing all the other stuff a boyfriend would be expected to do for me for absolutely nothing in return".

This is an insulting offer. It would be like applying for a job and instead of just telling you that you aren't hired they offer to let ypu come in and work for free.

RavVid · Answer

It is exploitative. Sooner or later guys are going to get - not angry - but pissed off.  While there might be genuine friendship, girls seem to want to extract resources for that from men.

genericname85 · Answer

that's not a "guys" thing. that's a "human" thing. cause girls do that too. psychologically that happens because rejection is painfull to the ego and people reconcile their self worth with rejection by devaluation of the person that rejected them. and that will express either in conceit or aggression towards them. it's typically temporary tho. that's how people get over those that they crushed on.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

You are looking for logic in an emotional reaction, and that is a fool's errand. If you have ever been rejected, then you will have some empathy for those who are being told "no."

Gobbyjobby52 · Answer

Some men can't handle the heat, sometimes they are shy and insecure and when they are rejected it hurts others have a inflated self and feel they must claim their prize and when they can't they get into a hissy fit.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

If she ever said no, we wouldn't call it friendzoning. It's like how when someone says they've been manipulated it's insinuated the manipulator never let them know what their intentions were from the start.

AviatorTom · Answer

It's a serious disappointment when one thinks it could be something more serious. An emotional response to disappointment is often anger, a typical human reaction.

This can happen to girls as well as to guys.

snapkingmatt · Answer

I don't think it's anger. It's frustration. Men are naturally wired to hunt their prey. By putting him in a social cage, you don't get that instinct out of him. He still wants to unleash his lust.

Best to help him find a new prey 😉

molonski2 · Answer

The problem is.. " No very rarely does mean No "  But personally throughout my life I've never wasted time on scenarios like this.

SieghardWalsung · Answer

Only guys who do that are the ones who are brought up to believe that women exist  for  them. So like.. a lot of dudes, admittedly.

insatiable_curiosity · Answer

Two things are true at once. While you have autonomy and can choose who to date, it never feels good to be rejected.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

You have to tell them the truth! "Listen, LITTLE MAN, I do not copulate with midgets!!!" :-p

Sevenpointfive · Answer

no means no sometimes even after sex. girls are weird. i wish they were honest and didn't play games.

exitseven · Answer

@amazonchick171 I do not really believe in the friendzone but it is frustrating to have feelings for somebody and have it not returned.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Because they want what they want and they feel rejected when the girl doesn’t want them.

WonderingManII · Answer

If enough women do that to a man He gets more and more and more frustrated cause He isn't getting any where with them.

ABC1x1x · Answer

I get angry at friends unfriendzoning me because I won't fuck them. I love the friend zone. Friends are 100 time harder to make than fuck buddies, or livers, or girlfriends. I miss my friend zones.

msc545 · Answer

Because it's a rejection. You don't like rejections. Do you think men are going to like rejections somehow?

LiamJHayden · Answer

No idea. And imprisonment in the Friendzone is voluntary, so either move on or don't complain.

GeminiDiamond · Answer

I have guys I'm friends with who aren't angry just being my friend. 🙃

zagor · Answer

They were hoping for a warm place to insert their penis.

Anonymous · Answer

A lot of people have a sense of entitlement and it makes sense for men to feel this way more than women do because well obviously men deal with rejection hundreds and thousands of times more than women ever will

Twalli · Answer

Because some people find it impossible to be friends with the opposite gender unless there is a possibility of dating in the future.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

It triggers subconscious traumatic memories of parental abandonment.

beenherebefore · Answer

They don't know how to deal with rejection.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't, at least I have a friendship.

Gabriel-Chicanito · Answer

They want sex.

eagle1951 · Answer

I don't know what that is

Slim57 · Answer

I don't know I just stop talking to them

Daytoday79 · Answer

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