Is it normal for high school girls to be so mean to or am I just sensitive?

[Greenalways]

Is it normal for high school girls to be so mean and flaky/fake? I have a few good friends and one of them told me to ignore it but it's hard not to. I have some random girls that don't like me but I never spoke to them, their actions and some snarky comments confirm that. Also, I've been told I'd find "my tribe" so many times but these girls are just so.. vile that I don't imagine finding anyone better at my school. My current real friends do the job though. At least they're kind and "real". I just wish I would ignore it again but it really feels isolating.


Sorry for grammar. I usually write these posts before bed😅

[jojoiwiwbwjo]

Callout their insecurities. It may be hard to think logically under stress and deliver a rational response so think in advance what insecurities they're trying to makeup for and expose them should they do it again. On top of it talk to your friends about it,, they may have some dirt you can expose to put them intheir place

[Greenalways]

That only makes things worse but it'd be to see them get out in their place by someone else.

[jojoiwiwbwjo]

I understand what you mean and by no means should you put yourself in a dangerous situation. I think you're on the right calling them vile and mean, this shows you know you're fine being who you are, best thing I think you can do for yourself is then to really pity them for thinking in unsofisticated simple and unhealthy ways. That is not your problem, if you think its a problem for you imagine what is like to grow mature and realize you're someone you don't want to be, it will be harder on them. Keep up the healthy mindset.

[Greenalways]

Thanks, thanks a lot. I'm just going to continue doing me at school and accept there's nothing I can do.

[jojoiwiwbwjo]

There is a little something you can do. Eduacate them, lead by example. People talke shit about you? Smirk it off, be above these comments and inspire all those looking at you in that moment.

[Greenalways]

Bet! Every now and then I saw something if someone is rude or else I ignore it. But again, only a few girls that don't like me.

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes it’s normal for people to be mean in school

[BarryLiverstone]

It hurts , doesn’t it?

[Greenalways]

I don't get why some girls act rude to me for some reason. This one girl specifically gives me nasty/ evil looks. Her ugly, long, batty eyelashes staring at me with a menacing glare. Ugh

[BarryLiverstone]

Most likely she’s either jelly or acting aggressive based on something in the past. When you talk to her what do you all talk about?

[Greenalways]

I don't think we ever had a conversation. Me and her sister had one petty argument in 5th grade. Me and her sister are sophomores and the girl herself is like maybe a junior? She just acts all snarky to me and my friend but makes it clear to me.

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s it. The petty argument is the source of what you see now. And you haven’t talked to the girl to form any new bond. So expect her to continue to act like she’s acting.

Also likely she’s jelly if she’s seeing you go after guys that are good lookin and she’s crushing on

[Greenalways]

It wasn't even her though. It was her sister. If that's really it then that's so stupid.

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes I know it was her sister. Yes it’s not mature. So if you go to her this week and just say hi and that you wanted to see if she’s upset about anything that’s you taking the high road. If you don’t then expect things to continue like this all year.

From her perspective she likely is defending her sister and seeing you in a negative light all these years later. So she feels justified in glaring at you

[Greenalways]

Good point, I'll say hi to her and ask if things are alright. ☺️

[BarryLiverstone]

Yep lemme know how it goes. I’m sure you actually don’t want to talk to her at all so impress me

[BarryLiverstone]

Ty for MHO, how did it go?

[Greenalways]

I didn't confront her because she briefly spoke to me. But I'll be sure to say a simple "hi" next week

[BarryLiverstone]

I didn’t think you would. But prove me wrong next week

[kylee2437]

Yup completely normal. My worst days of my life were definitely in high school

[Greenalways]

I hope I won't consider these my worst but they aren't pleasant 😭😞

[leahzrc]

I was bullied in highschool. It is normal

[Greenalways]

Damn.. I wouldn't say I'm being bullied and God forbid but I'm definitely not the "material friend". I avoid drama and tend to focus on grades and boys sometimes.

[jojoiwiwbwjo]

It's heatbreaking to see a 22 year old girl conform to bullying to the extent of saying it's normal... :/

[leahzrc]

it is normal to go through. I told on my bullies after crying all day and they got reprimanded. So.

[Greenalways]

Oh wow

[leahzrc]

I confronted them first and the cried away after class

[Billlewis]

Oh, they're definitely mean, and they've been that way for decades. When I was in high school, the only thing they'd let me do was paint their toenails to help them look good for their boyfriends, and I was lucky if one of them let me kiss her feet once in a while.

[Greenalways]

Yeah, they're definitely mean alright

[Billlewis]

I gradually became more submissive and then began doing favors and running errands for some of the female students. As they grew more comfortable having me as their 'Gofer', they thought nothing of running me all over the school, fetching their books from their lockers and going across the street to pick up their lunch and even occasionally doing various tasks for their boyfriends, as well.

[SexyRedd1966]

It shouldn't be normal but they're following behind people they see on social media everybody thinks being mean and toxic is sexy it's not

[Anonymous]

Yep it's normal. Happens pretty much in every school around the world