Is this love or is this just comfort?

[Anonymous]

When do girls do this? She calls me when she sleeps, she calls me when she wake up, our calls stay connected for hours but we haven't confessed love. Is she in love or comfort?

[Kevsker]

I've been in a similar situation before. Is she lonely, depressed or in a toxic relationship? Then there's a good chance that she's just using you for comfort. Even if she has feelings for you (not sure what your feelings towards her are), it's a huge red flag when a girl is that clingy but never makes a move. I would suggest putting your phone in silent mode at night and not picking up every call to see how she reacts. If she gets annoyed by it, she's 100% using you for comfort.

[Asker]

We decided not to be connected this way and she is fine with it

[Asker]

Does that changes your opinion?

[Kevsker]

Depends. Sometimes people know what they're doing and they just don't care, but other times they really don't understand that they're being annoying. That's why I said that if she gets annoyed by your choice not to be in touch that often, she definitely knows that she was just using you. If she was surprised by your choice and had no problem understanding and taking a step back, she most likely didn't understand how clingy she was being and respects the time and attention you are giving her.

[strateguy632]

undoubtedly comfort. and you should set limits. maybe block her number for hours of sleep then unblock in morning.

[Asker]

We decided to not to be connected this mail way and she is fine with it