Is this love. ?

[Leah_Monet]

My best friend is in relationship since 5 years. But since last one year they are fighting. Her boyfriend is very mean to her, keeps arguing with her, break up with her every alternate week. But then in a day or two he comes back saying that he is sorry and my friend keeps forgiving him. She says she is exhausted. Then I asked her why don’t you leave him and she replied that she loves him and can’t leave him.
Is this really love?
I don’t get it!

[DaveJord]

See the thing about love is that people often fool themselves into believing love is for ever and it conquers all. And the sorry fact is that love is not for ever and it does not conqueror all.

When you met someone and fall in love, you fall in love with person you know, think and believe them to be. But that does not mean people don't change or that in can take years sometimes for people to prove to you what they really are. But as is the case here with your friend, they are blinded by their love for a person they believe they are with or who they could be, or really are, not seeing the truth of the situation.

People fall in love with the idea of being in love and with idea that they are with the person they love far more then they really fall for the actual person.

[Guy13]

I’m not an expert SO mental health professional should be consulted.
This is likely a co-dependent love. It’s not necessarily a submissive woman or a weak personality. A true co-dependent can rationalize affairs, abuse, isolation, and etc…. It’s sort of like she intuits his felt need, that often he does not see, and loves him greatly…and can fix or change. Some pass early trying to do that.

[Blackcosmo]

He's toxic and it's most likely a one sided love or he's just not ready for a relationship. For your own friend's wellbeing, you need to convince her to break up with him. It's not healthy for her to have this emotional baggage. She's a kind person and doesn't deserve this and if she doesn't listen, get more people involved.

[ChrisMike1919]

It's a painful love for her, looks like he has some upper hand.

[Leah_Monet]

No he doesn’t have any upper hand. He says that in future our parents won’t accept us and then starts fighting. And after few days he says that he will fight for them. I so confused what this guy wants

[ChrisMike1919]

Parents or her. This or that.

[Nahid1707]

If you feel it is unhealthy you should talk to her as her friend

[Leah_Monet]

I talked but she keeps on saying that she loves him.

[Nahid1707]

Oh I’m sorry

[Sam_25]

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