Are you a ugly guy if women are never happy to see you and are never nice and 'strictly business'?

[Tomisworthless]

Like no good morning when starting conversation or if you say something they dont respond and just want to take your order? No small talk ever? I see this girl at the smoke shop i go to 1 2 times a week and its always like this but her behavior towards me isn't much different than other peoples. Sometimes people even give me a weird look and then act uncomfortable

[HollyK21]

Your name says a lot about your self esteem and overthinking. She’s just doing her job, and you said yourself that she doesn’t treat you much different than anyone else there. I think it would be another story if you were the only person she was short and cold with. Getting out of your own head and not being so hard on yourself would work wonders for you.

[Tomisworthless]

No, I said thats how treats me and youd think after a year or so there would be some casual rapport I don't know how she treats others. My name is indicative of how im treated : Bullying insults mockery and disdain/contempt people tell me im worthless based on their treatment of me. Im not overthinking just trying to access myself and my standing in the world, based on my looks and what i can achieve or obtain. Not like beautiful women are out of my league in my early 20s I attracted several sexy women now that im older i dont draw in any women. Think i just got uglier and balding. Thank you for your reply.

[HollyK21]

Gotcha, I misunderstood that line about her not treating you differently than other people, it sounded like she treats everyone the same, but instead you’re saying other people treat you that way as well, correct? This was why I said you’re in your head if you weren’t getting different treatment but felt like you did. Anyway, everyone is different. Some people just aren’t very talkative at work even as retail salespeople where that’s a main factor. I’m sure it has nothing to do with you as a person, and if you haven’t seen how she is with others then it’s possible you are getting the wrong idea. I don’t think it means you’re ugly, maybe you are just feeling a bit insecure because of the balding, but I promise we aren’t caring about that. It comes with age, even women experience thinning hair and other things they’re embarrassed or ashamed of.

[Tomisworthless]

I've been insecure before only just recently realized im balding hairline recedeed years ago but just now noticed thinning hair ontop. Guess im just gross n weird but I don't know how or why

[HollyK21]

It happens! You should figure out what would give you a confidence boost because the things you say about yourself are just awful and you really shouldn’t. If you want to keep the rest of your hair, you should find a barber that specializes in toupees. I’ve seen that a lot on tiktok recently, men as young as 18 getting them and they look natural and stylish. There’s also a guy on there regrowing his hair with needling and stuff, I think he’s early 20s and documenting his progress, it’s been great! Sorry I don’t have his name to refer if you’re even interested.

[Tomisworthless]

What have i said that is awful lol?

[HollyK21]

That part about being gross and weird and some things you said initially it just bums me out lol I hate to see people says those things about themself. You said you’ve attracted sexy women or whatever so can’t be too gross or weird! Lol

[Tomisworthless]

Yeah before not anymore, nothing I said was wrong