My guy friend told my girl friend that im giving him signals but when she asked what signals he said I don't know. what is going on?

[Anonymous]

i know that for sure im not giving any signals and why would he tell my friend knowing that she will tell me? attention seeking?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude that's hella weird of your friend to say that to your girl. Sounds like he's just trying to stir up drama or make things awkward between you guys. A few possibilities:

- He's secretly jealous of your relationship and wants to cause problems.

- He likes the attention from telling your girl and watching you both try to figure it out.

- Maybe he's actually into you and is trying some weird reverse psychology thing?

- Could just be a "prank" but a lame one.

Either way, I wouldn't give it too much thought. Clearly if he can't even say what signals he means, they don't exist. Just play it cool - don't angrily confront your friend cause then he wins.

Next time he brings it up just laugh and be like "dude I have no idea what you're on about". Don't let him live rent free in your head! Your girl will see he's full of it too. Dude's just looking for drama - don't give it to him.

[Asker]

should i casually bring it up to him? cos i want to know his actual reason for saying this

[Oliverlogan263]

Eh I wouldn't bring it up to him directly, that could just make things awkward or cause more drama. If I were you I'd just let it blow over and ignore it.

But if you really wanna find out what his deal was, maybe ask your mutual friends casually what they think is up with that guy. Like "yo did so-and-so mention anything weird to you guys about me recently?"

Chances are he doesn't even have a good reason and was just trying to mess with you for no reason. Some people do dumb stuff like that.

I wouldn't give him the satisfaction of knowing it bothered you either. Play it cool like you don't even care. He'll look like the dumb one for making up stupid rumors.

Only confront him as a last resort if other people also think he's being sketchy. For now just let him think his little plan didn't work while you laugh about it with your real friends! Not worth wasting energy on strange dudes like that.

[Asker]

thanks for the advice!

[Asker]

i decided maybe i'll distant myself for now, but he initiated contact again

[Oliverlogan263]

Eh, distancing yourself is probably a good call for now mate. Dude was talking smack about you and can't even back it up when asked. Kinda sus if you ask me.

But since he initiated contact again, I'd probably just keep it casual and see what's good. Don't ignore him outright, but don't go out of your way to hang either if you feel me. Respond if he hits you up but keep it brief.

If he brings up what he said before, you can either call him on it again lowkey or just change the subject. Up to you if you wanna find out the real or keep him guessing that you're onto his games, ya feel?

But I wouldn't divulge too much or let him back in fully yet til you get a better read. Boys will do clownish shit sometimes so better to keep your guard up a bit more now. Let him prove he's on the up and up before fully trusting again, ya dig?

Play it cool for now, see what his vibe is like moving forward. Don't stress too much either way. You good!

[Asker]

thank you so much!

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re very welcome

[_Maya_]

He might be fishing. What I mean by that is he is making that up to see if you are interested in him. See if you would have said yes or told your friend that maybe you should then he would know how you felt about him. That is my guess. If you know you aren't and he can't point to anything then that is the only thing that makes sense to me. He is hoping that you would take the hint... or the bait so to speak.

[VanityFair888]

Attention seeking and fishing for the compliment

[Bigjake1995]

Hi 👋