Why would a girl do this after contact?

[Anonymous]

She gimme her number after kissing on a night out

But won't add me on FB

Haven't texted yet

What's this mean? Why she not add me back on FB?

Anyone

[OlderAndWiser]

She's not ready to commit to you and she isn't ready to tell her friends and family about you. You've only had one date. Be patient, or don't be patient and push her away.

[Asker]

Will do

[HollyK21]

“On a night out”, was that recently? She gave you her number, so text her already. She may not be active like that on FB and hasn’t seen your request.

[Asker]

Like couple weeks ago

[HollyK21]

Why didn’t you reach out earlier? Like I said, she may not be very active but if she is, she’s probably not adding you because you haven’t hit her up. Especially after weeks not even days.

[Asker]

Ya I just got busy... What to do now

[Asker]

I often hook up with girls on nights out and don't pursue further

[Asker]

But she didn't add me on FB so put me off text her 😅

[HollyK21]

Don’t take this the wrong way but I don’t think that’s a good excuse. There’s 24 hours in the day, you couldn’t find a single moment to text her? Before bed, when you wake up, on your lunch break, even in the time you take to check her FB and see she hasn’t added you? There is always an opportunity to prioritize things and people that matter if that’s what you genuinely want to do, and at the time I don’t think you did.

I get the feeling you aren’t looking for a girlfriend based on you saying you often hook up with girls and I don't know maybe it’s because you’re so busy, but if that’s the case then you should wait until you have time to accommodate a relationship. If you’re just trying to get laid, please don’t degrade her by reaching out after so many weeks when you know you’re one track minded. I’m sure you’ve been used or hurt in the past, do unto others as you’d want done to yourself. That means not putting a woman in the position to have her heart shattered when you know you can give them something serious right now.

[Asker]

Yes I think I should have now feel bad . but I guess have to just let it goo now

[Asker]

Thanks for your advice

[Asker]

I kinda am looking for a girlfriend but haven't had one for years due to my own personal issues. so inexperienced asking for or planning dates

[HollyK21]

No problem! You two only met that night so I don’t feel like this is a loss but it can definitely be a sign that you are ready for a girlfriend and not just hookup. It’s ok to be inexperienced, none of us are professionals when it comes to dating, you just have to have the right intentions when you’re pursuing a woman. Like when you ask for her number if you don’t shoot her a text that same day then be sure to do so the next. Make sure it’s mutual effort because it can’t be all you, go one some dates just do it right. I think this was a great opportunity to learn and you will do better next time, friend.

[Asker]

Thanks for advice. ya I regret not sending the text. but when time passed said I'll just let it go. hope we might meet again

[Asker]

She was very attracted to me when we were kissing..

[HollyK21]

Yeah but a good chunk of time has passed between then and now. I wish you would’ve acted sooner but hey, you live and you learn. Like you said maybe you will meet again, or if she does add you on FB and you’re still interested then shoot your shot.

[HollyK21]

How is your social life? Do you put yourself in a position to meet new women?

[Asker]

My social life is good meet lots of girls but when I want to continue with a girl I mess up don't try continue it. it's like inbuilt fear 😅then I regret

[ThrillSeeker01]

Sorry, she might not be that into it

[Asker]

I think yes if she gimme her digits