Gentlemen, what makes a woman 'not feminine enough' for you?

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TLconcentration · Accepted Answer

Imagine a man coming back home from work and a women opens the door for him before he could while being exhusted. She then helps him remove his shoes and takes his heavy workbag and places it next to his desk. She runs back and helps him undress for a shower ( this part preference of the man). She helps to bathes him the right way with proper skincare techniques. She then leaves while the man stays in the shwoer alittle longer to relax his mind.

She rushes to get dinner ready just before he arrives. Before he sits she pulls the seat back helping him to sit down finally giving him a kiss on his forhead. They now both have dinner while having a nice chitchat. After eating they both go to bed.

The very next day she helps prepare him for work. He tells her that he will be doing 5 days overtime 16hrs this week and will be staying at a nearby in next to the office. he also says that," THE AFTER WORK ROUTINE THAT YOU JUST DID GAVE ME A 10X POWERUP". Therefore with this pwoer up im going to work to make even more money which benefits the both of us so that we can retire early. I will most likely be horny because of my male biology of high stress = needed love and release. So this Saturday let's go on a romantic dinner date and spend time with each other before having real sex.

After saving enough money for retirement
The mans stress level decreases which = he does not needed sex much or at all. It is at this time where she benefits the most and runs free. Her man has set her free. She will love him so much for it that she will request for real sex turning him on whenever she chooses.

Now compare that to a boss bitch thats not femenine. Good men understand that femenism has made women unnatural and competitors. Therefore men and modern women will work for themselves.

Good men will simply distance themselves from toxic masculine women and travel the world in search of a natural women that is aware of everything and is uncorrupted, not brainwashed and is still intact with her soul which means she's still femenine. if the tribe has no femenine women. the man leave the tribe to find one on his own. Thus a new family /kingdom is born.

Masculine good men only exist because of femenine women. if there is no femenine women then only tyrants are born and the tyrants, pervs and coomers are born and these men will braiwnash and corrupt women to be the same toxic masculine.

smne35 · Accepted Answer

Well that chisled face and hugh biceps for one doesn't help, that deep voice deeper than my own is cause for concern, the mustache and beard is not in her favor as being feminine either, not is telling me she got it stay put in the car as she changes the flat tire, and walking like the hulk is about all I can take to convince me she's got no estrogen anywhere in her body, and if I continue with her she might just remove her pants revealing that damn is that thing real make mines look I got to ask what's name of the doctor who hooked you up like that, I mean damn, and quickly get out of there before she gets any funny thoughts of making love, especially after what I witnessed, nothing feminine in her at all any of what was said is enough to say she is not feminine enough but border line masculine no offense to any women who is running around like this out there, just get some estrogen pumped into you ASAP

Siri137 · Accepted Answer

"Gentlemen"? Yeah, right :D

I'll try to guess a few responses here. Hmm, let's see now.

A. "Tattoos! If she has tattoos, she's damaged, damaged goods! That's a red flag. Avoid".

B. "Short hair! That means she's woke, an SJW, and believes in causes".

C. "Prominent muscles. That's masculine! It doesn't mean she's fit, and takes good care of herself, it means she ain't dainty!"

Now to check the responses below. :)

wolfcat87 · Accepted Answer

Trans women who don't look feminine at all, and non trans women who look like ugly men. Like, I like men, and I like women, but I don't like women who look like the worst of both worlds. I feel like there's a very narrow range there of what just doesn't do it for me... My libido requires some effort on their part.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Women whom after drinking the bew crush the can in their hand... that's too much.

Wearing huge shoulder pads at work... blech... stop that. It doesn't means she's any tougher and no way is she gonna try out for the NY Jets.

Women that curse and gas like sailors at a Mexican place... it's trouble brewing...

Now a woman that can pick a stone, take off her bra and shoot a hapless critter at 20 paces while riding horseback... she's a winner!;-)

Finchie40 · Answer

If she is to dominate and not much of a girly girl , if she doesn’t like dressing up in dresses and heels and doesn’t really care about make up and she acts more like a dude then A girl , I probably won’t be interested in her. I like girls that like to dress sexy and like to be submissive to me for the most part , mainly in the bedroom. A girl that tries to take the lead , and tries to control me , she won’t be with me for long , i was already in a relationship with one , and I will never do it again , when a girl acts dominate to a man , she will make his life a living hell , she will belittle you and
Criticize you and compare you to other men that she feels is more dominate then you are , making you feel worthless and that nothing you do is ever good enough , she will make comments like, A real man would do this , a real man wouldn’t do that etc. Stay away from those girls’ they more than likely didn’t grow up with a father figure in their life or they had a dead beat Dad , Girls’ like that usually don’t really care for men , they think all men are assholes She will make your life a living hell and more than likely won’t stay faithful to you if you don’t follow what she says , because she already despises men So I prefer a girl that looks up to me , that makes me feel valued and wanted, that has a good genuine heart , and good
Moral Values that stays loyal and faithful to me , that likes to dress sexy for me , and doesn’t hesitate when it comes to intimacy and affection , and treats you with love and respect, Dominate girls’ have a hard time doing that, they don’t know how to respect a man because she didn’t have one growing up , she probably had a Mom that was whoring around trying to find a guy to take care of her and a Mom that depended on her way to much , I’m sorry I don’t want a boy, I want a girl period a girl that stands by me , not against me

Flatmanlewis · Answer

Despite the hatred I feel like some of the women on this particular thread may throw, I think it’s as simple as personal preferences. I tend to like more stereotypical feminine features on a woman: long hair, nails, eyelashes, makeup, and feminine attire that accentuates her figure. Does this have any impact on my perceptions or treatment of women who do not do such things? No. Not at all. Most of the women in my workplace (probably about 60%) are destined to wear generally masculine attire as it is our industry standard but it’s zero reflection on them to me. Just the way it is. I have zero expectation women dress any certain way, but I personally only have chosen to be in relationships with women who tap into, and really are feminine by my own measure of attraction.

Drago12587 · Answer

There are two types of unattractive not femine girls..

1) basically a man with pussy, something like in the picture

2) normal looking girl that just don't want to listen to the men, trying to do everything how she wants, constantly telling her man what to do, they are chaotic and arguing, never admit that they are wrong..

Living with the second type is dead end, there will never be peace at home, those womens are fighting themselfs and their natural role in releationship.. you can eazily tell if man is in that toxic releationship with muscular women, when he is rather spending time at work, fishing in rain all day alone, drinking a lot rather than spend time with her crazy arguing wife. So for me perosnally, woman that is " not feminine enough " is mainly this type of girls, that will make hell of your life, because they want to rule you and always looking for some problem to make you feel bad

aceleon · Answer

BİGGESTONE HERE: BEİNG A FEMİNİST

short hair (shortest hair a woman should have is a bob cut)

muscles especially on the arms.

long face shape

big nose

small eyes

body hair

foul mouth

bitchy attitude

sex positiveness and being a slut

dumping the chores on to man

not wanting kids

not liking animals

having a sexual past.

HawkPerception · Answer

Just as your picture portrays, I don't find that muscular girls are feminine. I also find girls that try to talk like gangsters or in an aggressive manner are unappealing and not feminine. Although tomboys are not necessarily not feminine, I associate modern feminism with that style so I'm not really into that either.

Johnny2479 · Answer

For me it's not as much about if a girl looks feminine as much as it is if she acts feminine. A soft voice on a short girl with long hair and a butt is nice. but I think most guys want to know that their girl needs them as a guy. As in to pick up heavy things, to fix the car, to shovel the driveway. To kill the scary spider. It's just simple things to let us know you're feminine and you need us as a man. Most girls probably don't really need us to do most of those things but it's nice for you to let us feel where needed. But everyone is different not all people want the same thing.

Amara_09 · Answer

Not feminine enough?  It’s like asking , “ Women, what makes a man “ not manly enough” for you…. This is what they call a Toxic language, my guy. Avoid using such languages

SphynxUK · Answer

I think some men are scared to date a woman who is bulked up from the gym because they aren’t confident enough in themselves to do so.
There’s no such thing as a masculine personality in women. Women can be assertive, confident, decisive or dominant in a relationship, and some men can’t handle that.

hahahmm · Answer

Well, when she acts masculine it's not being feminine. If a woman is disrespectful to men or trys to look or act like a guy that's not fem. It's funny how a lot of women claim to be equal yet, if they ran a man ran their mouth even half as much as these women he'd be punched out by another man. Men show each other way more respect than typical women show men today. Men hold back from destroying women and some women take advantage of that.

Lionman95 · Answer

If a woman acts and looks like a man and makes me wonder if I date a guy. I need to see a polarity between the two of us and there are has to be some differences between us in looks and behavior.

But I generally don´t have a scale of 1-10 of feminity where I put women into.

RavVid · Answer

In the first instance how she is dressed.

If she dresses butch that's a no.

Paradoxically perhaps, if she has her tits and a crotch high skirt. She showing all her female goodies but a feminine woman, to me, wouldn't cheapen herself like that.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

I went out w a fitness competitor once, not bodybuilder. In photos she was rocking but in person her bicep was bigger than mine and she was too hard, like the skin, face was feminine, fake titties etc... But I guess I don't want a body that feels like my body. But to each their own ❤️

Yannae · Answer

If she's loves to argue if she's loud and obnoxious, gets aggressive and has so little self control it doesn't matter what she says or if she wants to get physical and attack you, as long as she feels better. She'd be no different from the crazy drunk guy at a bar.

DextroShade · Answer

I have a list: Short or brightly-dyed hair  Piercings other than earrings  Tattoos  Curses a lot Doesn't wear feminine clothing like skirts or dresses Disagreeable or argumentative  Loud or obnoxious

Forceinhand · Answer

When there's too much prominence of masculine features in their facial/torso area, or their voice for instance. That one isn't their fault it's just not something I like. Then there's dressing style, I don't enjoy the sloppy or tomboyish clothing styles. Femininity to me equals good grooming game. When they like to/demand to be the pants in the relationship. When they have an issue with a man taking the lead.

Kayokenx3 · Answer

A woman who parades herself as a macho bossy female who rants that she doesn't need a man are not the feminine type of I want as a life long partner. I'm not insinuating that the kind of woman I'd want has to be totally submissive, however a bitchy attitude on a 24/7 level is something I do not want.

TheBigWhistle · Answer

If she has more chest hair than I do. But if you are talking about super fit chicks with muscle, I find that an incredible turn on. Being a woman who is incredibly fit with muscle doesn't mean you can't also be feminine.

blackburn21 · Answer

I am a fem, but I am bi. It is more about how they act or how they use their body. Sitting with legs wide open, talking like a swearing mindless dude, drinking like her brains out. Phisically it is too broad shoulders. I associate that with men.

Miristheiss · Answer

Argumentative, is job/career oriented, won't take a guys last name in marriage, believes women in the west are oppressed, believes there is discrimination in pay, cusses, believes in hook up culture, casual sex, going to clubs/bars and getting drunk, thinks posting sexy pics is empowering and her love interest having an issue with that is "controlling", smokes, does drugs.

JacobJordan · Answer

How she acts towards her partner. How she treats him. Her approach to work. How she dresses. Whether or not she has tattoos, drinks excessively, smokes, does drugs, parties. If she has short hair. If she wears make up (or a lot)

exitseven · Answer

I think it would be more about how she acts. If she acts like a guy, has all guy friends and does mostly guy stuff and somehow sexually does not act like a girl it would be a big turnoff to me.

NathanDavis · Answer

I won't make it about being or not being "feminine" or not... but, if she is of my similar built and size... that's not exactly my preference, lol

Joshydavid25 · Answer

It's mostly attitude for me.. Being loud, brash, and potty mouthed.. Physically, a steroid abuser look very masculine, but could be super feminine in personality. Lol..

Anonymous · Answer

When they look like a dude 🤣!  When a guy looks like a girl! 😏 Really not to hard not to just don't be a gym rat most Olympic athlete don't look like guys! Your doing things wrong if you do!

Nikki1989 · Answer

Let the ludicrous preferences from the men on here begin. This will be funny.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

When they dress, act and talk like men. Those women usually aren't into men anyway.

molonski2 · Answer

Any kind of " Tom " I guess , like the picture , or looks like a man with a pussy , this kind of look.

systemsareyo · Answer

I'll be direct: she's either manly in mannerisms, dresses very unflatteringly, and comes across as hardened and some may even say, mean. I don't need those chicks of drama in my romantic life. 😉😁 Ironically the sporty chicks are so-so, and I'd definitely say no thanks

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Her mindset

if she has a hyena mind and feels a need to be right and pushback and argue

women like that not only come off as not feminine but highly insecure

run from these women fellas they will bring you no peace

strateguy632 · Answer

for me short hair is not feminine but that is just me.

Avicenna · Answer

Too many muscles and a masculine persona and mannerisms

loveslongnails · Answer

If she adopts bad male behaviors and attitudes for whatever reasons, that turns me off a lot.

boy_with_panties · Answer

I would say that if she's got a bigger dick than me, she's to masculine for me :P To be serious, if she looks more like a man than a girl, that's not so feminine =)

andreasderjuengere · Answer

When -for ''equality''- she attempts to be like a man in her behaviour.

SimplyPut · Answer

Balls and or dick 97.3566434__% of time is deal breaker. Hot always though tbh

Crankor · Answer

When they have anger issues. Like get triggered over the smallest things and lose sense of reason and are always defensive.

genericname85 · Answer

lack of beard, tits and a vaguely feminine body and facial structure.

Daddy88q · Answer

Well for me, it depends on how they conduct their self. It’s kind of like walking a fine line, but I grew up in a household where women still serve men as far as made the food made the plates took care of them, so I feel like when a woman steps out of that realm to me it’s too much

KrakenAttackin · Answer

When she is loud, obnoxious, drunken, run through, rude, and otherwise acts like a spoiled frat boy.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

I guess men would get turned off by a woman who looks and probably even acts more  "manly"  than an actual man.

magiusX26 · Answer

trying to be my competition on everything, doing stuff like onlyfans, trying to be competition to others all the time (mostly men) , having more thsn 2 children (excluding twins etc) with multiple men previously.

boobliker · Answer

drunk are a no go for me, no boobs is second.

robhazelnut · Answer

I guess the most prevalent contributing factor would be terrible food, beverage and "medicine" choices.

Anonymous · Answer

When they openly act like a bad stereotype of a man to feel strong because they've never had an actual strong male figure in their life.

Tomisworthless · Answer

Dick between legs muscles aggression acting manly

Raaj4you · Answer

Muscular, agressive, argumentative, rude girls / women are not feminine and not my type.

HighValue · Answer

Tattoos. They make her look trashy and repulsive. Also, smoking, drinking alcohol, and a lack of manners.

Billlewis · Answer

When she uses a choice of nail polish, like blue, green, etc.

Anonymous · Answer

Less hair and weak muscles make her look like a weak male bodybuilder

robocop666 · Answer

I like a tough chick so it takes a lot with me. Really just a manly shape is unattractive.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

TO MUSCULAR DEFINITELY

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Disrespect, lack of manners, lack of consideration, promiscuity, petty behavior, Not smiling at all, and having a bad relationship with her own family

Anonymous · Answer

Big hands, bad behaviour thick voice, being fat, being stupid, being gross in expressing herself

HaveNoName · Answer

It's a mixture of visual and bodily gestures. Unfortunately, I am too sensitive about it. The most minor of traits put me off.

JC_jester · Answer

I don't know if I can just define what is not feminine enough in a woman. I would have to experience it first.

Iron_Man · Answer

The pic looks like Roman reigns’s twin WWE

Massageman · Answer

Not looking like the person in the picture would be a good start.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Dresses in men clothing, has too much muscles like a man or facial hair or too much body hair.

Wwwyzzerdd · Answer

Any labia hair, armpit hair, any hygiene issue.

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