Girls, would you do a speed dating event and what would you expect?

[Anonymous]

[AutumnSerenity]

I wouldn’t be opposed to it, if I were single. I’d find it more convenient than sitting in a stuffy restaurant for an hour and then going through the awkward goodbyes. I think we usually know if we like someone after a few minutes of being around them (everyone has a vibe). Rotating tables/dates every 5-10 minutes sounds like a fun, efficient way to match everyone up with the right person.

[Asker]

I went to one and it wasn’t fun, it was on Saturday and I wouldn’t go again.

[AutumnSerenity]

Hm. Maybe it was the area/bad dating pool? I’d do it in a big city like NYC or LA.

[Asker]

I do live in the city there were 500 people there or so

[Nikki1989]

Never needed anything like that.

[Simslover92]

If I was single yes.

[Asker]

but what would be your expectations, be honest.

[Simslover92]

I would probably go in having low expectations. It is speed dating after all. I would expect there to be a lot of guys who are looking for just sex or hooking up which I am so not about anymore.

[Asker]

I went to a speed dating event yesterday and let me tell you it sucked! Despite dressing well, smelling good, feeling confident, trying to make convo, a lot of girls are just boring to talk to. I’ll never attend one of these events again. I don’t hug girls or shake their hands during these types of events.

[Simslover92]

Sorry it was like that for you. Like I said before I would go in with low expectations. I don't expect to find the one from speed dating but it would be something to at least try once if I was single. I've never done it before and think it would be cool despite what you experienced.

[Asker]

Nah I understand about low expectations. But there was a girl I decided to talk to. And I’m sorry she’s nothing amazingly special. But she was pretty in my opinion. I’m like hey, I think I saw you on the app hosted by the same sponsors of this event, how’s it going? What’s your name? I said how are you finding this event so far? She’s like not what I expected? I’m like do you mean that in a good way or bad way? She’s like bad way. I’m like oh…what’s your nationality, she answers. Then she just got up and left without saying nice meeting you or take care or have a good night. I would say half an hour later I decided to scope the room, said forget it and left no point staying there. There was an after party with food at 7pm til midnight but I hated this event so much I got there at 2:10pm, left at 5:20pm. Meaning I left 40 mins before the speed dating event would have ended and I didn’t care about sticking around for free food. It’s a speed dating event for marriage not relationships. I’m ready for a marriage but getting to know the girl well before even bringing that up. So overall it sucked, didn’t like it, awful set up, unorganized, rude girls. One girl I matched with last wk was there and I told her but she was cold to so I messaged her last night and said hey all the best may god bless you but I’m gonna unmatch, so I did and I deleted my account and the app, can’t bother and 2023 is about to end.

[Simslover92]

Sorry that happened. Sounds like a total bummer. It could be the area you're in too. If you're in an area like LA, it's filled with fake people who are looking for other fake people. So I would understand it sucking and you not being successful with it.

[Asker]

Im in Toronto, Toronto is a very multicultural, diverse city, even the outside suburbs of Toronto harbours almost a million people between 4 different municipalities (cities) outside of Toronto. Toronto is a big city, one of the largest cities in North America - next to Chicago, L. A, New York, Miami, Houston. I know girls have expectations of what they are looking for but at least be courteous because most likely I won't see these people again. Even if I do, I won't go up to them and say, hey aren't you the girl I met from Dec 23, 2023 at that match making event in Toronto! I am never doing this again. You know what's sad, I talked to more guys there at this event and for a longer time then I did with females. I think I'm a decent looking guy, in shape, good set of hair, clean white teeth, assertive and quirky, now height wise yes im not over 6ft, i'm 5'8 so I know that plays a role but I didn't go there thinking wow all these girls are super models! I really dont know what girls want these days. I always assumed - if you're respectful, a gentleman, commit acts of chivalry, dont be a push over, be assertive, have masculine traits, dont give off fuck boy vibes, be honest/be genuine, work hard to have a good job that pays the bills, don't be a mama's boy, have a good education, be ambitious (ie: have a car, investing or having your own place), be politically aware whats happening in the world socially, economically, care about her family as well not just her... Caring about her and her family goes a long way, some guys just want sex from a girl and don't care about being respectful to her family. All these things are in my mind, I have 3 older sisters so I understand what a guy has to bring to the table and in life in general.