My girlfriend will carry heavy stuff for me what does this mean bc she’s going to the navy and I’m worried if she’ll cheat on me while on deployment?

[Anonymous]

So I’m curious if she does genuinely love me or not and need some opinions based on actions so here’s the things she’s done for me, when I was in the shower a few times she cleaned my whole house I came out and obviously helped her, everytime she goes shopping she always asks if I want something, she lifts heavy stuff for me without me needing to ask for help I think it’s bc she knows I have scoliosis, she cooks for me and feeds me, she’s always calling me 24/7 that’s why. Since she’s in navy bootcamp it feels weird her not texting or calling

[_Maya_]

Wait... what? So she does all these nice things for you and you are questioning her loyalty because she doesn't have the time in boot camp to constantly text you? I don't know what the military policy on texting/calling but I am guessing during boot camp it is pretty strict. I would only assume they want the new recruits focused on the training they are getting and not grabbing with family and friends. I could be wrong but that just makes sense. So she is busy dude. Cut her some slack. Just because she can't be on the phone all the time doesn't mean she is cheating. What it does mean is that you have some insecurity issues that you don't trust her. Relationships don't work when there is no trust.

[Asker]

True I’m tryna to work on it

[_Maya_]

You are going to work yourself into a tissy if you can't learn to just trust her. Then what happens next are the accusations, followed by fights. Guess what then? Makes you worry even more.

As for her not being able to be in touch with you that much I don't really know what boot camp is like. I do have a buddy that might be able to shed some light on the 411 of boot camp tho.

@BoopBoopBeep

[Asker]

Are these rare traits I never usually date that’s why I’m curious and I don't know

[BoopBoopBeep]

@_Maya_ When I was in basic training (army equivalent) we didn't get our phones until week 5, and only then for 30min/week, and only then if nobody f'ed up all week.

I saw my phone at graduation

[Pohjolan]

Bootcamp is a rough time. I also barely called or texted anyone.

[Asker]

Is that all you read?

[Pohjolan]

Its all I have to say. Its not like I can read her mind.
Its a gamble either way. If you break up because she might cheat, you may still end up with another partner who does cheat on you.
She can't very well wear a chastity belt while on deployment.

[Asker]

True good point but at this point I’m convinced she won’t bc of her actions I came to that conclusion

[Asker]

So imma stay with her until I hear her attitude and etc. change then if it comes to that obviously imma stay with her then pretend like I wanna marry her then cheat on her with her best friend bc I’m evil