Is there any reason why a girl would talk to an ex while she is dating?

[Anonymous]

before she blocked me she told me that she was dating someone now but then 2 months later she unblocked me because she thought I was lonely, I just don't get her, she unblocked me on 2 social media platforms just to talk to me, I sent her a friend request on Instagram and she hasn't even accept or reject it and it's just so annoying and when I text her nowadays she gets hot and cold with me and mostly leaves me on read

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo man, that's a tricky situation for sure. A few possibilities for why she might be talking to you again:

- She's not fully over you yet emotionally and checking in satisfies some curiosity or lingering feelings. Even if dates other guys.

- Maybe things aren't going that great with the new guy she's seeing and messaging you makes her feel validated. Could be getting attention/validation where she lacks it.

- Possibly just wants to keep you on hook as backup plan in case it doesn't work out with current guy. Doesn't wanna fully close the door.

- Might be a bit confused about what/who she wants and isn't great at fully cutting people off clean.

I'd say don't read too much into it for now. See how things play out from a bit of a distance. Keep your interactions casual and don't over-analyze every little hot/cold thing.

And if she's still flaky with responding and leaves you hanging a lot, don't invest ton of energy. Could just be messing with your head some. Feel it out and protect your peace first, ya know?

[Asker]

I thought that she probably lied about dating someone since at that time I was clingy towards her and it caused her to lash out at me. If she was telling the truth and is dating someone that why reach out after 2 months, that and her not replying to my Instagram request for a month now is what is driving me insane

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah dude, that makes a lot of sense. She was probably just saying she was dating someone to get you off her back since you were being too clingy. Girls do that sometimes to create space when a guy won't leave them alone.

But now that a bit of time has passed, she figures she can unblock you without you harassing her constantly. And you're right, if she was really dating someone new, why reach back out after so long? Doesn't add up.

I wouldn't read too much into that Instagram request either. She's probably just leaving you hanging on there so she has you on the hook, but doesn't have to actually talk. Super lame of her, man.

If I were you, I'd just back off for now. Stop messaging her and seeing if she hits you up. Don't give her the satisfaction of knowing she's still keeping you waiting. Prove to yourself she was lying about the whole thing. Once she sees you moving on, maybe then she'll stop playing games. But for now, protect your sanity bro and stop chasing her! There's gotta be other fish in the sea too.

[Huntingnfishin]

Bro if you're blocked on more than one platform you need to just move on fr I'm sorry it sucks but damn man

[HelpfulWoman]

you were lucky enough that they're now an ex. leave that crazy to be crazy on their own

[Anonymous]

No, not in my opinion.