Girls, would you date/marry a former rapist?

[KostasKouvalis]

He doesn't rape anymore, but he has before. I'm curious how many women actually would

[SweetDripp]

There is no such thing as a “former” rapist. I mean what is a “former” rapist to you? Is it some who has raped someone but isn’t currently raping someone?

[alice55]

I wouldn’t that’s a sure ways to get cheated on

[KostasKouvalis]

You think he might rape someone while he's in a relationship with you, or just cheat in general?

[alice55]

I think he would rape someone while being with me, I mean there's a reasons why they chose to rape at first, a lot of rapist aren't even ugly, they just do it cause they like their victim to be afraid in pain and love the power they get out of it, if they were in a normal healthy relationship I think they would get bored and would need more "challenge"

Just like ex robber need to feel the thrill and go over the speed limit just for the sensation. (It's a things that happened with a gang of robber in France, they got in jail and stopped robbery but they talked about how they needed "sensation forte" and went often very fast with their car for the thrill / sensation).

Once you start doing illegal stuff and get the mental bloc out they you become different. Like if you want to cheat but never do it it's a things but once you do it one time you're never gonna stop, you're gonna do it on every relationship cause the mental block would just cease to exist.

[KostasKouvalis]

That's also true, especially if they don't get caught, they sometimes want to see how long they can keep getting away with it. That's not to say people haven't rehabilitated and reformed.
I know you're into dark romance, so you probably know a lot about this stuff.
Would you be afraid that he might rape YOU?

[alice55]

Yes some have rehabilitated but I don't think that you can get rehabilitated for rape.
Or if they really have I doubt they would be very healthy partner to be with cause they surely have some others toxic behaviors to go along with.

I know quite a bit yes XD
No, I think that if he really rehabilitated then he won't hurt me, also I would make sure to never get left alone with him for at least a fews months / 1 years, I think that if he tried to force me into doing stuff I don't want to then I would leave him (like some people aren't rapist but try to force / coerce you into doing things that arrange them this is sure a red flag).

If he hadn't showed any red flag at all for multiple months, etc... I don't think I would be afraid of him raping me, in the beginning yes but not after multiple time spend together where there's no red flag at all.

[KostasKouvalis]

That's what I was thinking too

What do you like about it?

But you said you wouldn't, so that last part is nullified, but hypothetically, I get what you're saying.

[alice55]

Dark romance you mean? i don't know I guess that is a mix of me being a big fan of thriller, mafia and police show / movie as a child (I watched so many of them) also as a teen I watched lots of crime shows when coming back from school doing my homework while watching it.
and the others part is that I'm extremely shy and even if someone I found attractive asked me out I would say no multiple tome before saying yes (because I would need him to prove me this isn't a joke and that he's serious about it), the dark romance with the guy being pushy in it make it feel more real. Also I'm a Catholic and Catholic shouldn't feel any kind of sexual attractive or any interest in it so in a way reading aout non con take the guilt away cause the girl in it doesn't desire it, it's the guy so no sexual interest from the girl part.
I mean it's kinda weird but it does take the guilt away to read about forceful relationship rather than consensual one.
And I'm also quite use to people being pushy with me and not respecting my boundaries (like nothing sexual but me saying I don't want to do something or go somewhere and they would force me to do it, sometime I end up enjoying it, like when they force me to go out to go to the amusement park but others time it become annoying, when they force me to play some board games I have no interest in, it's nothing major just small stuff but get annoying).

Yes, it's all hypothetic, I wouldn't even go near them because why would I bother with a recovering criminal while there's lots of totally healthy men that never went to prison or always chose to do the right things? It don't make sense especially as to know majority of people have never went to prison or commit any crime, stealing something as a child is something choosing to do illegal (criminal) stuff is a whole another worlds. Also I'm pretty sure they would be cheater and bad partner cause to commit such things you need to be a pretty selfish person.

[KostasKouvalis]

Yeah, dark romance. I don't know, a lot of women seem to like them. I enjoy thrillers and detective shows too.
That's weird you say that because I'm the same exact way with girls.

I'll admit, I've fantasized about it, and part of it sounds exciting, but if I was approached by such a girl in real life I would probably want nothing to do with her. I do like rebellious girls but that's probably too much

Hang on, I think it'll be better to discuss this in PM

[alice55]

Dark romance is mainly for women, it's just full on romance (toxic one), like the guys being full on red flag (though it's actually useful to read about it cause you need to learn how to detect red flag and bad behavior in people. my sister dated assholes and in just 5 min I was able to know they were assholes cause I learnt to recognize the small details;

There's a different between, real life and book, we read about lost of consent but we actually control everything if something make me uncomfortable I close the book and that's it, I have actually full control over my reading and what I watch so nothing to do with actually rape and stuff. I'm the one in power in a ways.

reading is just reading , majority of people love mafia show but they would never go into one. There's a huge difference between movie / book and real life.

[KostasKouvalis]

That's actually a really good point. I didn't even think about that.

That's another good point.

That's why it's not illegal to write books and make movies about pedophilia, incest or statutory rape. The only rule is, if it's a movie the actors themselves can't be under 18, but they can play underaged characters. And usually if there is a nude scene with an underaged character, they'll use an adult body double. That's why I think it's stupid that Literotica doesn't allow under-aged, murder or gore, but occasionally a few slip through. It's also stupid that you can't even use the word "rape", but they have "Non-consent"/"Reluctance" category. They have a rule that the "victim" has to enjoy it, but most of the time they don't, and most of the scenarios would be considered "rape" in real life. I saw plenty where the character didn't enjoy it, and saw one slip through that was straight up rape.

[alice55]

The actor can be under 18 though, there's many movies about pedophilia / incest where the actor where children take the Lolita movies, the actress were underage, it's very creepy but ok to do so long as the parents give their authorization.
Archiveofourown authorize everything because it's just fiction, weird that gore or murder is forbidden since polar book is the most liked one. Weird site.
Yes, very weird, there's no difference it's the same things but different word, I don't really get their logics.
The victim enjoying it is ways worse than writing about the victim not liking it, it's like they say the rape is ok because she liked it that it's not really rape, that's worse than anything, really weird stuff.
guess the story would be quickly taken down.

[KostasKouvalis]

The thing is though, that nudity on its own with no sexual connotation doesn't constitute child porn. I actually didn't know this until someone told me. Though I read recently that some actors who made a movie in the 70s are now suing the production company for "forcing" them to do a sex scene when they were underaged. And the naked baby on the Nirvana is an adult now and suing the band for child porn😂 Funny thing is, it was his parents who authorized it. These people are just broke and looking for easy money.

That just answered my other question. I have this fantasy that involves having sex with a girl who just murdered someone. I might try to post it on there, but I'll probably look through the site first to get a feel for the vibe.

Yeah, yet they allow stories about incest. The couple who runs that site is so odd.

Exactly! That's why I don't bother too much with that category, because if I'm gonna write/read a rape story, I want it to involve actual rape. Reading the comments on that one story that slipped past the mods, most members on this site are displeased by this. I also think it's stupid that you can't write about statutory rape when it literally happens in everyday society. And I'm not gonna waste time and effort just writing some for myself.

[KostasKouvalis]

That website looks like it's more for fan fiction

[alice55]

People really do anything to get money XD
He should sue his parents more than the company though, cause the company was all legal since they had parental authorization.
Really weird. In france too lots of people try to sue production for sexual abuse (but those happened 20 years ago like where are the proof?, that's kinda ridiculous). It's well know cinema industries is full of perv and pedo but you can't do nothing if you don't have proof.

This is pretty tame, especially if you just mention it and don't describe the murder scene. They're so weird, feel like they authorize their kinks and that's it.

Same things when the "rape" scene turn out with the girl liking it and participating it feel extremely wrong, like what's the message they're trying to send? That rape is not rape if she finish by liking it? Crazy people. Make no sense.

Yes, is it, I mostly only read fan fiction like 99 % of the time.

[KostasKouvalis]

Exactly. That's what people were saying. And why wait 'til he was in his 30s? It's so obvious he's trying to extort money.

Exactly. Why wait 20 years? And i heard about that French director, but people seem to be supporting him.

Yeah, I never put that much thought into the actual murder part. Maybe helping her was the blood off her and wash the knife, but I not like fetishizing it. It's more the idea of staying loyal to her and still seeing the GOOD in her. But people would probably want the whole plot.

I usually don't share that fantasy with anyone because it's very dark and people think I'm psychotic. But she's not evil, she's a good girl who just did a bad thing.

Apparently you can't even imply that the character is a murderer.

That's exactly what it is, even though people deny it. There was a website where normal people could post nudes and videos, the guy who owned it said there must be "partial nudity", yet he only posted a shirtless pic of himself, yet required others to show intimate parts. And he only wanted straight none trans people. And he didn't allow the use of "Daddy" and it wouldn't even let you post it as a "Turn-off".
And you could only do/see so much before you had to pay. It's so obvious he made the website to collect nudes for himself.

Exactly, that category is so confusing especially since the one non-consent scenario I wrote, would technically be "rape" if it happened in real life. And others I've seen to.
I think censoring it does more harm then good. People should be able to play out their fantasies in a controlled environment.

[KostasKouvalis]

Anyways, if you come across any good ones, especially ones that involve a virgin as the purpotrator, send them to me.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I think I'd be scared and run as fast as I could away from him. It doesn't matter if he doesn't rape anymore, he has no business being in my bed. And being my future partner for that matter.

[Veles]

They are the lowest of the low, I would never date or marry a rapist even if they're so-called 'changed'.

[4ngelic]

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[Anonymous]

@sheikalana Why would he have to go back to jail if he already served his time?

[Violet_78]

Never in a million years

[Jennz6]

I wouldn’t marry the guy who raped me

[KostasKouvalis]

Not YOU, just in general

[Jennz6]

No. They are bad people

[sheikalana]

Absolutely not. He needs to go back to jail.

[HelpfulWoman]

FUCK NO.

[Lyndsielee666]

What the fuck? No

[douride2]

HELL NO.

[iamnotmonalisa]

no...

[Apple1996]

No way

[IslaTheWitch]

nope

[laly520]

heck no

[helva]

No way.

[litty736]

Nope