People can change for the better but I think it is best for them to grow by themselves. I would definitely not want to date someone that used to have such a demented mind like that because the mind is something that does not change over night it takes a lot of time to properly fix a demented mind and I would not want to be the person to be caught in the middle of trying to help the person but then they try to resort to their demented ways after a certain amount of time. I think there has also been some scientific studies showing that demented people like that tend to resort back to the demented mind once they get older because the demented part of their mind is so deeply engraved in their brain even when they try to remove it or change it
What the... Absolutely not. What a horrible group of people rapists are, they disgust me and I don't care about their upbringing, they knew what they were doing so absolutely no guilt from me to dump them. Probs be scared they'd try rape me
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No one should ever be replying yes unless the rapist, that person has tried to make amends and changed and tried to do better toward the victim. Myself I could never stay with them but I do truly hope that the person who recently assaulted me can repent and change, it depends on the person I suppose.
what is equally disturbing to me is how families will cover it up or when people Stay friends with the person knowing what they did. You realize you are being complicit right?
My immediate reaction is no, but honestly I don’t believe in throwing away the key. We start out as a blank canvas and any one of us - ANY one of us - could do something terrible if that’s how our life played out. I really don’t believe we have any control in the matter. I’d want to know what happened to make him become the type of person who would do that. Was it a terrible childhood? Abuse of his own? Life circumstances? If there was nothing, that would be a huge red flag of a personality disorder, but I’d there was some justification, I’d feel terrible dismissing him forever for a previous crime. Yet I’m not sure I could ever truly trust him, so it’s hard.
How do you not have control over your ability to rape someone? That makes no sense. If you can't trust someone you can't be in a relationship with them
What I mean is, I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with that person, but I know that makes me a hypocrite because I believe in rehabilitation. So what am I saying, someone else has to date him? I’m too good?
You really don’t. You have a false sense of control but it’s out of your hands. Anything you do is just a message sent from your brain - an organ you had no control over creating. Genetics and your childhood environment created that brain.
Christianity teaches forgiveness but unfortunately I would still end the relationship. I can try to forgive and try and forget what they did but despite this I don’t think I could be with them like that.
Yeah i trust myself more than i can trust anybody. And i think that if i get to know that he is the same as he was before then obviously i would dump him as well as beat the shit out of him.
Who are you to lay a finger on someone who hasn't hurt you? That's not very kind. Plus, that might enrage them and make them attack you. I get it, you want to defend the other person but your leaving the relationship is defense enough.
Nope , you got it wrong, i said if he stays the same and has same intentions for me, then i have full authority to fight back, i won't lay a finger on somebody, who never hurt me.
Well i still like you 'coz you speak your mind. I like being myself too, thats why even my family doesn't like me, i made myself stronger in order to freely be myself. After making so much mess of my life if i get myself raped, then its not worth living. I won't regret getting fuckd up forcefully, i will regret being forced against my will, so if i meet any asshole who has bad intentions for me, i won't hold my anger back.
Thanks! Wanna be friends? I'm not consistent at messaging back but I do try to. Do everything in your power to fight back. One of the best things you can do is soil yourself. Pee or force yourself to poo. Usually You'll disgust them enough to stop what theyre doing.
Be careful with that by the way. Stand up for yourself but don't burn too many bridges, you never know when your family will need you.
Well if i am talking so long to you , am i not your friend
And i dont think i need to disgust them, glaring shits like them is enough to keep them away from me. My family is quiet desciplined , i am not, and i have two older sisters, so they are enough to make them happy, i am just somebody who doesn't care much about making no mistakes. Thats why i talk bullshit and dont hesitate.
Do you know what it means to rape someone? The lasting physical, mental and emotional affects it has on the victim? Do you know what kind od mental state a person has to be in to do that to another person? What if you're the next to be raped by then?
If they aren't reported then there isn't anyway of me knowing if they are a threat or not.
I don't know about sexual assaults but I know the rape part is wrong. According to the BJS, roughly 2 out of every 3 people who have been accused or rape get convicted, not always for rape but they will get a conviction of some kind (https://www. bjs. gov/content/pub/pdf/fdluc09. pdf) (page 24). A study on the reports of sexual assault cases in the university of Massachusetts Boston defined what causes a case to not proceed as : "Case did not proceed: This classification was applied if the report of a sexual assault did not result in a referral for prosecution or disciplinary action because of insuf- ficient evidence or because the victim withdrew from the process or was unable to identify the perpetrator or because the victim mislabeled the incident (e. g., gave a truthful account of the incident, but the incident did not meet the legal elements of the crime of sexual assault)"(https://www. scribd. com/document/427071763/False-Rape-Allegations). Again, that is a bit of a wild card because the accusation might have merit or it might not since I have no official confirmation to establish whether or not they were guilty.
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