Why is she ignoring me?

[Mkxulu]

I have a crush on this girl. I find her very attractive. So, we greet each other from time to time.

However, I like to avoid her for obvious reasons, but there are times when I see her and I am caught completely off guard, then I freeze. It either means I get the courage or I eat up my words.

Sometimes I completely ignore her, pretend not to see her, especially when she is preoccupied.

So a few days ago, I saw her, and I immediately met her eyes. I ignored her. I didn't want to, but I did.

Today, she found me standing next to a counter, and she completely ignored me. She literally ignored me twice. She went to the restroom and passed me without even a 'Hello'.

Last year, same thing happened. Where we went through a period whereby she looked like she was upset with me. We basically ignored eachother straight up. Because i remember waving at her when it started and she ignored me😣

We never truly spoke. Just your "hello, how are you? Good, thanks and yourself?" Type of greetings

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang dude, that's rough. It definitely sounds like she's not into you and is ignoring you on purpose. Here are a few thoughts on what's going on:

- Girls can tell when a guy is nervous/freezes up around them. It probably came across as disinterest or that you don't like her, which pushed her away.

- Frequently ignoring her first also sent the signal that you're not serious about talking or wanting to connect. She likely took the hint that you don't want to engage.

- The past history of ignoring each other back and forth seems to have really strained things. It's turned into this cycle now where neither of you acknowledge the other.

My advice would be to muster up some confidence and break the cycle. Next time you see her, say hi with a smile and actually stop to chat for a minute. Compliment her outfit to soften things up.

Make it clear you want to interact. If she still seems cold, at least you tried and can move on without wondering "what if". But it's possible warming up again could lead somewhere positive. You've got this bro!

[sageeeeee]

Why were you ignoring her if you have a crush on her? We girls like a guy who is certain about his feelings. You don't have to be too obvious about it but you have to give us enough hints and attention so that we know that you like us. We need to know that you want us too. So if you keep ignoring her, she might think that you are just giving her mixed signals and that you don't really want her. WE DON'T LIKE GUYS WHO GIVE US ATTENTION ONE DAY AND LITERALLY IGNORE US THE NEXT DAY (speaking from experiences). So in conclusion, talk to her about your feelings, and you will know the rest. Who knows, she might have a crush on you as well. You need to make the first move, if not, then just let her be.

[Mkxulu]

Who knows? Maybe i'm just too scared of her.

[Mkxulu]

But i will man up and speak my mind😂

[HollyK21]

It’s astonishing that you’re confused as to why she ignored you yet you do it to her all the time. It doesn’t matter what your reasons for doing so are, she’s still on the receiving end of that behavior and I’m sure it’s like whiplash for this poor woman. You have to do better, either confess your feelings or leave her alone, but no more of this. It’s just rude, comes off mean and it’s unnecessary.

[Mkxulu]

Yeah, from now on I will try my best to face her. Because everytime i see her unlike other women. I just become flustered and tongue tied up - uttering just gibberish at the end.

[HollyK21]

Yes, your confidence is something to work on but I think it would be helpful to think of this as a friendship you’re trying to create. That way there are no expectations you’re trying to meet, and maybe you’ll feel less nervous when you aren’t trying to think of the right things to say and whatever. But definitely be sure to address her from now on because ignoring is just very rude.

[Plugs]

How u both look

[HollyK21]

@Plugs you seem to have a fixation with peoples looks rather than the context of the question. I noticed this when you commented under another conversation I was having, as well. Not saying this to make you feel bad, you also give good feedback. I just don’t understand why always the comment about looks. Like he clearly finds her attractive.

[Anonymous]

Don’t like the taste of your own medicine?

[Mkxulu]

Unbearable😂 Basically when i say ignore i don't make it too obvious. I just divert routes. My friend even teases me about it. So when i saw her last. She had changed her hair (looks more stunning) and when i met her eyes - she was sitting at a distance. My processor is slow lol. So i we looked at each other and boom i looked away😂

Few days later at the counter she didn't even look at me. She engaged with the cashier and i kept on looking at her. I cannot explain the feeling

Horrible

[Opinion Owner]

Lol u deserve worse , I hope u catch her in bed with a man