Why is she ignoring me?

[Anonymous]

I am a university student and I have a girl in the same class with me. I started exchanging looks with her and she noticed that. every time she looks at me, I quickly look away because I am shy and I cannot talk to girls. i caught her one day while every one was sitting in the class she was looking for someone (literally she was looking at every body in the class searching for someone and I thought she was looking for me ) when she looked at me and found me she looked away quickly. We are in the same group on the WhatsApp that contains all the college students. Most of the times I send a message or a meme in it. She reacts haha or love , but I did not speak to her once. This situation continued for a few weeks until suddenly, without anything happening, every message i send to the group she doesn't react and I feel that she started ignoring me what should I do?

[SueShe]

She is ignoring you because she is fully aware that you are looking for something more than simply friendship between students. She may have realized that you were eyeing her and she does not want to give the feeling that you should approach her for anything more than simple college or university friends.

It seems to be bothering you that she does not notice you beyond the scope of the communication through this application you are using.

I would suggest that you keep this contact strictly platonic and that you don't try to get more out of her.

I personally don't like when I am being approached by students of the opposite gender other than for school projects. I am also aware what they want and I personally am not interested in anything deeper than exchanging information about school projects.

You should really concentrate on your education and leave the other stuff for after your graduation.

[Strong_Warrior]

Do you think loving someone in the universty is a bad thing?

[SueShe]

@Strong_Warrior It is a bad think because you cannot fully concentrate on your education. You are much better off concentrating on your studies and wait till you have your degree in your pocket before thinking of women (or men).

[Chayce]

If someone already has experience then maybe, but for a lot of students university will be where they are in the social primes of their lives, so getting experience in dating should still be exercised.

[SueShe]

@Chayce And then one wonders why there are such a high dropout and failure rate of failure...

edsource.org/.../659556

https://educationdata.org/college-dropout-rates

[Chayce]

@SueShe Where in those links does it say drop out rates are directly linked to dating? A single stoner is probably going to drop out faster than some couple that goes to class everyday. You can still date in University & pass. People do it all the time?

[SueShe]

@Chayce Why take any risk of failure if you can avoid it? It makes absolutely no sense to increase your risk uselessly. You may also drink and drive and your risk of accident is increased. Why would you even take that risk?

[Strong_Warrior]

This is bullshit

[_Maya_]

What do you mean what should you do? About her ignoring you? You can't do anything. If she doesn't want to communicate or react to you she doesn't have to. You can try to message her privately and say hi but if she doesn't respond then there isn't much you can do about it. Maybe she is just tired of trying to send a message she is into you and you not reacting to her because you're shy. It might be a case of her thinking you were going to make a move and you didn't so she just gave up.

[bededazzle]

the only answer is who knows? there has to be verbal communication to know i think. i get being shy, and we look for little signals to get comfortable and move a little closer. in a case like this though you’d want to chat with her. i know it’s tough, but whatever answers people give here, i don’t think anyone could really know

[Anonymous]

You're acting like a passive wuss and you don't say anything. She wasn't interested in you from the start. All you're doing is sending meme pictures. She probably doesn't think anything of you.

If you just sit in the back and act aloof then she's not going to think you're interested.

[YesterdaysChild]

I love playing hide and seek! Apparently, you two do too. I don't know why people play the look and then look away game. Seems like a waste of time when all you have to do is say "Hi" with a smile and introduce yourself. It would save a whole lot of time and questions.

[HollyK21]

You should put your shyness to the side and talk to her. I know it’s scary but than this whole dance of trying to look or catch her looking, it’s very grade-school.

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe she lost interest. You should talk to her and see how she reacts. She might’ve lost interest because she got tired of waiting for you to talk to her.

[Joshydavid25]

She probably just got bored and realized you weren't going to make any move and move on.. Maybe you should express your interest in her more directly.. Or just move on to the next unfortunately..

[Horse-girl]

Sounds like she was trying to get you to make a move but as nothing happened she gave up.

[Avicenna]

It's because your communication until now has been so clumsy

[Tharithi]

Sues just treating u like a stranger. Why u overthinking? U want to be more than stranger?

[Anonymous]

Stopped reading at Whatsapp. 🤦‍♀️