Why does she ignoring me now?

[Anonymous]

There is a girl who rejected me. We became friends and after like 7 months we got closer (a lot of people thought we are dating). She was interested in me as well. We kissed, we went out but then she rejected me (another date). We talked about that together just to be clear between us. I’m really hurt and feel pretty miserable. Now she barely says hi. Why is she ignoring me?

[ManOnFire]

Really sorry for your hurt, man. I know that kind of pain and it's one you have to take time to recover from. For her to do a complete 360 on you like that means more than likely she got interested in another guy, especially if she barely says hi anymore. Any time a female does that it's usually because she got attached to another guy and is showing coldness to you to make it clear to you - in their minds - that nothing else with you is going to happen.

If there was no other guy in the picture and she just wasn't interested in you romantically anymore, she would still probably be friendly with you and make it clear that she's only okay with being friends. But her coldness probably means she got interested in someone else.

When she rejected you and you guys talked about it, what did she say?

[Asker]

I texted her if she’d go out again and she replied that she is now busy (that week) and then school year starts (she is in boarding school). A week later we met on a party and she said that it is nothing against me but she is now busy and doesn’t want relationship now.

[ManOnFire]

So for whatever reason she doesn't want to date you anymore. We can rule out that her being "busy" is most likely a lie, as females overuse that excuse through the ground. She did let you know at the party that she doesn't want a relationship anymore, although her reasons for it are probably not true, but at least you know where you stand.

She may have lost interest after going out with you those few times, maybe she didn't like things you said or did, or there's another guy in the picture now. Either way, don't try to talk to her anymore. In any shape or form. If you pass each other don't speak or say hi unless she does, and if she does, leave it at that and don't try to make any conversation.

And if some time down the road she changes her mind and wants to see you again, be VERY CAUTIOUS. She might only want to see you again because if there's another guy in the picture but they don't work out, she'll try to swing back to you. And you have to think if that's really the kind of girl you want to see again.