I rejected him, why does he ignore me now?

[Anonymous]

I've never really talked to him lots since I 'm a bit too nervous around him. I actually did have a crush on him and he contacted me via text (probably because I couldn't talk to him in person). He's extremely talented and artistic and I feel like I'm good enough and don't want him to discover another side of me. I would show these obvious hints like starring at him and checking him out. He asked me via text whether we could hangout and go grab a coffee and I just panicked and said I had someone else and that I didn't really think of him that way. He told me that he must've misunderstood and in which I said sorry. I actually do really like him but now he doesn't want to look at me anymore but I would look at him. I saw him with another girl also. Why would he do this? (It happened over about 3-4 months).

[hahahmm]

What do you want? For guys to ignore you rejecting them and to keep chasing you? Only dumb guys ever did that... and in today's world it'd be suicidal for him to cause the #metoo ers will jump on him & he'll be kicked out of school or lose his job, no matter how polite he was.

If you want the guy it's now on you to show it/tell him. Next time a guy you feel attraction to asks you out, DO NOT reject him. All you had to do was look him in the eyes, smile & say, 'yes'. It's not that complicated. I'm pretty sure that most women don't usually tell a guy when they're not 100% into him. They let him think they're 100% open to the guy while she makes up her mind over time. That's the easiest route if you want to avoid taking risks/rejection/unpleasant conversations. And sometimes she learns that he's better than she thought & changes her mind and likes him more than she did at the start.

[Man-O-Metal]

You like him, he notices, he acts on it, you reject him, he moves on... Do you see how this works? Guy gets rejected, he shoves it on over to the next girl. He's not going to continue to put in effort with the girl that just told him she doesn't think of him that way. Why did you say that? I don't care if you were nervous. Tell him that. It only makes you look so much cuter to him. Well, it would have.

[LazerBean]

Girl. Because you rejected him. You screwed up. Your bad. So he moved on. The only thing you can do is move on and not be stupid next time.

[Asker]

Why would he move on this fast? I try to get his attention but he ignores me ;(

[LazerBean]

Why wouldn't he? You told him you have someone else. He's just doing the logical thing.

[hahahmm]

@sker Why should he risk being called a stalker, getting expelled from school or fired because you're confused? For all you know you'll change your mind again.

[Sonorous]

Gurl I be asking myself so many similar questions. Like why do chicks ignore me after I have a dream about them where I confess my feelings¿ Like shouldn't they be able to tell that I had the dream in the first place¿ I really just don't know why they don't get the hint & come to daddy...

[Ευδεμονια]

I think honestly you’ve played quite bad the whole thing, don’t take it bad but it’s a personal opinion. I think he accepted the fact you rejected him and having the possibility to have other dates he proceeded to them.
I think in general you girls have to learn to be more direct and honest, don’t say “no” to mean a “yes”.

[DarkWinterNights]

He did exactly what he was supposed to do. You rejected him, told him you were with someone else and didn’t see him that way so he moved on. This isn’t Hollywood. Guys don’t stick around hoping you’ll change your mind. Especially after such a thorough rejection like that.

[FilmGuy93]

I'm curious why so many women find themselves in situations like this?

He liked you, but now he's moved on because everything about your behavior suggested that you weren't comfortable with him. The opportunity has most likely passed. Your best bet is probably just to move on.

[whiskeyontherocks]

Sounds like you need to be honest with him and take him out on a date to make up for it.
As for why he seems to be ignoring you, well to him you lead him on and then throw him out.
Not to mention now you look morally suspicious because you said you had somebody while leading him on.

[JSmuve]

You got to be properly dense to not realized that you rejected him, so why would he still stick around a girl that isn't into him? Guys aren't dogs that you get to kick and still expect them to come back, tail wagging. You communicated that you didn't want him, so he went where he was wanted.

[Staximus]

You are about as sharp as a marble. You told him you are not interested in him romantically. That's it. You ended it before it could start. The only way to fix it is to tell him you lied because you got nervous, and you are interested in him romantically and would like to go out with him. The next time a guy you like asks you out, you should say yes instead of making up stupid lies.

[Wubs3000]

Well you rejected him... And so he moved on. I don't get what you are confused about. Don't play games and say things you don't mean, because we will take that and accept it. No point in wasting time on someone who said they don't like you.

[serious]

Well, you rejected him and then how can you expect things to be as it was before. Rejecting someone will have a consequence just like how every action has a consequence.

[TwiNshichamp1]

Let me laugh first 😂😂 why would you play games on the guy you like? Why could you not just say Yes? Myself could Ignore you, If I was into you. Have any reason behind this?👀 you wanted him to chase you? 👀

[spartan55]

What do you mean why would do this? You told him NO, what is he supposed to do? Wait around for you? You blew it. Learn from it.

[spartan55]

*he do this

[boggboss]

What do u mean why would he do this because you rejected him so he moved on

[Asker]

But why would he go talk to other guys though?

[boggboss]

Why wouldn't he

[boggboss]

Like why would he talk to you again after u rejected him

[CallmeTheKnight]

You blew your chance. You know why he ignores you.

A lot of women seem to find themselves in these situations and nothing happens. I know y'all not stupid, but use your brain next time.

[FilmGuy93]

I'm really curious why this kind of thing happens so often. I'm also curious about how many women have actually been head over heels for me but just freaked out and rejected me anyhow.

[CallmeTheKnight]

I don't even try to understand it. Once I get rejected, I move on and any romantic interest/possibilities dies right there.

[FilmGuy93]

Oh, absolutely; you have to. Because indecisive/insecure women will keep you cycling around in an awful loop of uncertainty forever if you don't.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Exactly. Although there are moments where there are exceptions, it's still not a good thing to not have your mind made up at all and plus it can always make someone suspicious. I'm my opinion of course

[exitseven]

Offhand I would say he is ignoring you because you rejected him.
why would he go back for more rejection?

[Massageman]

YOU rejected him. And now he ignores YOU. Did I miss a memo somewhere? You are reaping what you sowed.

[Dkc123]

I think he's a normal human being. But I'm not sure about you..

[Asker]

What do you mean? Why didn't he just come up and talk to me?

[Dkc123]

Coz he's not dumb. He understands that No means No. And you said No to him.

[Waldoe]

YOU... Rejected Him, he has accepted it and has "moved" on... That is what a normal person does. Accepts rejection and does NOT look back. Now you have second thoughts? Gee... "sucks to be you"

[innerman]

So you want him to keep chasing you around... and you label him a stalker,


This is why we say girls are crazy... sorry dea for saying that but u can still do something to make things right.

[IsoUser]

OMG, you initially treated him like a jerk. Why on God's earth would he even want anything more to do with you? LMFAO

[Anonymous]

Why wouldn’t he move on from you after you rejected him?

Honey there are millions of other women out there. You had your shot and you blew it.