My co-worker asked me out and I rejected him in a nice way.
Since then, he's been ignoring me not even looking my way. Like I am a total stranger.
Why he ignores me after I rejected him? Its been a couple of months already
He really really liked you, and apparently it hit hard with the rejection. Probably embarrassed at himself to look at you, and maybe thinking that you didn't like him anymore might call him out or whatever... don't feel he hates you, is more apt trying to regain composure, and it probably is difficult even more of he is a shy guy to begin with, felt comfortable enough around you to take the risk of rejection. You need to make the first move and show him it's alright and go back to the things were. I promise it'll be ok good luck
@tiajoka Sometimes you really really like that person and when you see that you have one-sided feeling toward someone you have to let that person to be in a relationship with the guy she want. Thats the way I show that I love her and her happiness is actually important to me. In my case, I asked her out and I really liked her and she said I am not ready for the relationship so she rejected me basically. And I know she has warm and friendly chat with my friend although she show most of the signs of attraction towards me but in the end she rejected me thats the important thing not the signs. So today is the exact 5 week since I left her and didn't text her call her and act like normal around her and sometimes unwillingly ignore her so she can be with my friend at the end. That is so heartbreaking for me though because I still like her but she doesn't want me so I wish her a happy relationship with my friend.
@tiajoka not all men take rejection the same. Some guys become crippled..
he doesnt' want to be around you. If he has feelings and you don't that will simply lead to awkwardness between you and problems for him so in all probability he is simply trying to cut you out of his life in the best way he can (ignoring you) in order to not have to deal with that awkwardness/discomfort from knowing that his feelings are not reciprocated.
He liked you, but you rejected him. He is either distancing himself to move on, or to heal his ego. Since it's been a couple of months, he doesn't want to be around you. I wouldn't bother with him, either.
well rejection hurts for most people. With time he would get over it but the first cut is the deepest they say..
His feelings are hurt. He must have really liked you
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You rejected him... why should he have any interest in you? You're lucky he's only ignoring you.
What the heck was that last line?
@CubsterShura I've known guys and girls who try to sabotage any relationship their ex gets involved in.
Well, yeah, what did you expect...
@guy13 the sad part is this shows how insanely selfish some women are. She still wants his attention despite her rejecting him.
I do get it’s at work which makes it even more awkward. But still what did she expect? He’s probably paranoid she will run off to HR and report him for sexual harassment given the post metoo culture we live in nowadays. Of course he’s going to keep his distance.
Women have right to reject to a relationship. Fair enough. But men have a right to reject “a friendship”. But women need attention like they need oxygen to the point of expecting it from a guy they just kicked in the balls. The entitlement is completely insane.
Because he probably learned early on that if she rejects him and he doesn't immediately flee to the other side of the planet, at least metaphorically, then the gal is going to accuse him of insane crap and start rumors. She'll try to get rid of him, but whip up others into an emotional frenzy to get them to do the dirty work for her. And then any effort on his part to save himself from his new tormentors will only lead to more angry mobs cursing and condemning him.
Because it's not enough for today's entitled psycho chicks to simply say no. They have to turn the tables, paint themselves as "victims," then make him a victim of actual harassment. The more, the better!
So he's going to floor it before you even get the chance, to ensure that if you try to start something, his being gone so soon will destroy your credibility.
He waited two seconds too long to distance himself last time. You're not gonna get the chance to make history repeat itself!
He could have you all wrong, but that's what happens to men like that. When that treatment is done to a man, it affects him the same way that a woman reacts to being raped.
"Why he ignores me after I rejected him?"
Do you have the emotional intelligence of a pencil?
Being rejected HURTS and it hurts MORE when you rather liked someone. To be trapped having to see you on a daily basis is just all that more hurtful. Most people when they're rejected after all do not have to see the person that rejected them day in, day out.
You can be a decent respectful human being and LEAVE HIM ALONE until he MAY talk to you instead of acting as if nothing happened. That's inconsiderate to his feelings.
Do you have any common sense at all? Also you are really f’ing selfish to think you still “deserve” attention from someone you rejected. Seriously what the hell is wrong with you?
Here is why he is “ignoring” you. This should be common sense to most people but since you don’t get it (and you are over 30 for the love of God) I’ll spell it out as if you are a five year old
- he’s doesn’t want you thinking he’s okay with the friéndzone. That sounds exactly what you want too.
- he doesn’t want to look pathetic or creepy if keeps giving you attention.
- talking to you is painful for him and understandably so.
I just can’t believe a woman over 30 still can’t comprehend that above. It’s seriously depressing.
You still feel entitled to his attention which is complete and ridiculous selfish bs.
It really blows my mind, how you can expect the same attention you had before after you rejected him. It may be that he is not treating you as a total stranger, he is treating you as he does everyone else, and you are feeling ignored because you are no longer getting the attention you are used to getting from him.
I had a friend of a girl that turned me down, tell me how upset her friend was at how I was treating her. I asked her what she was talking about, she told me how her friend thinks. I was treating her like a stranger and no longer paid attention to her.
I told her friend that I was treating her as I did any other person, I exchanged pleasantries when I was passing, I did all the things I did before, except that I no longer went out of my way to speak to her or engaged in personal conversations with her,
Or as I now consider it, I do not do anything that can be considered stalking or invading her personal space.
Why does it affect you so much that he is ignoring you? Without providing enough context on the internet people can easily misinterpret it as you still expecting that he will give you attention while he is just minding his own business.
Now if you are at a workplace setting and it is clear that he literally goes out of his way to avoid you, like walking away from where you are at cocktail parties and sitting away from you at dinners and meetings or asking others to give you a message, it could be him just trying to keep you off of his mind. But if he is just being normal and no longer giving you the attention that he did prior to asking you out then he is just doing his thing and you are the one feeling ignored.
Let him do his thing either way and reflect on your own projection. Is he deliberately avoiding you or are you just feeling ignored? And why does it matter to you either way?
He took a big risk asking out a coworker. Nowadays in the post metoo era men are paranoid about women reporting them to HR and ruining their careers. So it’s more than just embarrassment when it comes to him avoiding her. He’s paranoid for a whole multitude of reasons.
It sucks for both of them this happened in the workplace. But men and women do meet and start and relationships at work. A good friend and former colleague of mine met his wife at our old job. They’re married today with 3 kids.
So anyway men are unfortunately in a very risky and stressful situation here. The safest thing is for them to never approach of course. But then again most women really do still expect men approach. Even in the workplace.
Easy. He liked you and you rejected him. Some people can’t handle being around people they are attracted to but can not have. That’s not a knock on you (or him), it’s just the way it is. He wants to heal and get over you. Best thing you can do is let him.
Because to have any sort of normal or happy conversation would lead him in to hoping maybe things will change. He knows they won't so he must distance himself from having that opportunity. If he doesn't have any professional relationship with you, then let it be.
Better question perhaps, why would you care he does not pay attention to you anymore? You may say you do not want a relationship with him but evidently you do care what he thinks or feels about you.
@Sasha0426 she could do whatever she wanted to. But just because she rejected him, that doesn't mean he's obliged to stick around and give her the same attention he gave before. He didn't owe her that. And based on the way she talked about him in some of the comments, it makes me wonder why she rejected him. Something tells me she only liked the attention.
A co-worker asks you out and you reject him then wonder why he is ignoring you. The nicer the rejection the less it will hurt but still has the possibility of hurting. Interacting with you could bring the feelings for you on stronger than they are if he still has them or bring them back all together and he doesn't want that.
I do the same thing. So you think he's just suppose to be your friend now and his attraction and desire will just switch off like a light bulb? We don't want to be around when you show up with your new guy. That's devastating for someone that truly likes you.
Maybe it’s easier for him to just ignore you after rejection. Like he knows you won’t go out with him, that was his interest in you, now he just treats you like the rest of the work atmosphere. Depending on the job that could mean he likes you or he despises you. I bet it’s just to move forward with his life and not bother you.
He likes you, so he's trying to distance himself from you in order to stop liking you.
Or maybe he just doesn't wanna be friends with you. It's either in a relationship, or nothing.
People generally feel awkward around someone who rejected them cause it may remind them of the rejection. And also being around who rejected you when you still like them can be very painful for them, so out of respect and also to avoid awkwardness he's probably keeping distance.
Because to him you might as well said "Fuuuuuckkk youuuu, son! Get da faq outta here. Fat ass biiiish." When one gets rejected, it hurts. And to him, must have hurt bad and he's taking it very very personally. :c
Why do you think? You broke his heart. Would you continue to talk to someone who broke your heart? If you broke my heart, I would only talk to your for work purposes (for example, if I need your help with something or I had to go through you for something)... otherwise, I would just stop talking to you and move on.
What does it mean If a guy kept on asking if you are ok after rejecting you?
It's just the complete and utter humiliation that he's experiencing. Probably not a personal thing and I would just go about your business. If the guy was asking the same question I would suggest war but that's just me. Again, it's nothing personal.
He was talking to you to because he wanted to date, if you don't want to... move on there's nothing here for to continue. He doesn't appreciate being friend zoned
Some rejections may lead to friendships but most won't.
But um... why would he give a shit about you? You took the vadge off the table so... what's the point after that?
I'm just saying I doubt he had hopes of getting his nails done with you and getting Starbucks after. Just saying.
Because he doesn't want to be your external validation and ego stroking module.
I have turned down guys and have missed the attention, sure. But mature people accept that there are consequences to our actions.
He is not interested in you in a non romantic way. You rejected him for the romantic side of things, he's rejecting you for the non romantic side of things.
Have you ever been rejected by a guy you really like? what do you expect dude. for him to just be ok with it and shower you with attention? also he is not going to pursue someone who has no interest in him. Its a waste of time.
you rejected him so my guess is he was trying to be friends with you only in the hopes you would date him , he realised that isn't going to happen so he see's no point continuing getting to know you , this is dumb I realise but its my feel of things
Why wouldn’t he? You are a stranger and you chose to not get better acquainted. Get over it. He doesn’t owe you pleasantries any more than you owe him a date.
Unless it interferes with your job I would not give it another thought. The reasons for anybody to do anything are as varied as the number of stars in the night sky. Life is too short to worry about what you can't control.
he's maybe embarrased? Why would you want him to keep paying you any atention?
Personally when people reject me I forget they exist and they become invisible to me
He's probably also going to the bar, drinking any memories of you away
Lol. Because you rejected him?
All it takes for getting backstabbed via HR is an angry female claiming someone looking at her constitutes sexual harrasment/being predatorial.
And most females at work would do just that.
The fact that a Girl doesn't even want to hangout or go on a date with us makes them Unattractive to us no matter how much we liked her, Because it shows their Character and Personality and that she doesn't even care about our feelings even if we are just Friends.
You hurt his feelings. No one likes getting rejected.
He might also be immature and can’t accept it, and has decided to avoid you totally.
His feelings are hurt just your presence probably remind him of that.
This is a question asked by someone who has clearly never dealt with rejection.
He is attracted to you, made his move and you rejected him. He is simply choosing not to put himself in the friend zone. Smart guy.
Don't know, for me it was the reverse, my coworker asked me out and I rejected him after he acted like always and I ignored him cause I didn't want to give him hope and was awkward around him.
Well I mean you did reject him even if it was a nice way there's no doubt that rejection hurts.
I know if I were to get rejected I'd probably give them the ignore treatment for a while.
You rejected him. Him ignoring you is a perfectly natural way to act.
you seem bothered by it, why? just ask him, but most likely he is hurt.
Because he's a really nice, sweet guy and we got along well.
We didn't text a lot or had long conversations but still he is a really nice guy and every one love him at the office and sometimes i feel that i miss him.
If you miss him that is for a reason, why don't you just give him a fair chance. I think it's really shallow of you to reject someone while you actually seem to like him, because that just means you rejected him because of the way he looks. Ofcourse physical appearance is appealing but you shouldn't be bitching about him taking distance while you rejected him. I would do the same, why go through the pain of loving someone , pretending you don't care and offer your friendship when that persons starts dating others in front of your eyes. If you miss him so much, and i think you do like him, then tell him that. Go out take things slow, you didn't even give him a chance and your telling me that you miss him. im just some random dude from the internet, tell him , that you miss him, today tomorrow. go by his place, call him etc.. if you miss someone you can tell them, it cheers people up.
sorry if im straight forward but you really should talk to him, and just go out, have fun, and take things slow. At least then you can tell him, sorry this can't work out and you give him some time to develop a friendship with you if dating isn't going to workout for u 2.
Honestly she likes him, or else she wouldn't ask this question. She describes him as being sweet, nice and well respected at work. Sweet and good natured men, well respected at work and in this age range are typically NOT single.
I believe there is more to her story than what initially appears.
Why should he bother with you?
Do you think you deserve his attention when you express that he was not good enough for you?
What did you expect him to do after you rejected him?
What did you expect? He is not good enough to go out with you. That hurts
Lol if any chick reject me to the block lost she goes, so it's only right he would ignore you
your rejection told him that he had no chance for a relationship with you so he he no longer put in any effort since it won't go anywhere
He asked you out.
You said no.
So he has no reason to further interact with you
Simple
Personally, If you're asking this question you're probably interested so take the initiative and ask him out. If you get shut down then you can ignore him back. Best of luck.
maybe your rejection of him was not as nice as you thought it was
He was rejected, so he's not going to pursue anything with you anymore.
why should he pay attention to u at all if u rejected him? he’s moving on
You got what you deserved I'd do the same thing
Why does GAG dredge up questions that are more than a year old and feature them?
R u retarded u answered ur own question u rejected him so why he waste time on u
Because he got rejected in the matter how nice you were about it , it still doesn’t feel good
I suppose it's was goal of your rejection.
He is hurted and ashamed
Why do you care? Let him do what he wants
Because he's a really nice, sweet guy and we got along well.
We didn't text a lot or had long conversations but still he is a really nice guy and every one love him at the office and sometimes i feel that i miss him
You miss him, which means you have an emotional attachment to him. You like that he likes you. And you know he likes you.
So why did you reject him?
he's doing same as I am
He's hurt and needs space
The chickens have come home to roost.
This can't be a real question.
He feels hurt no problem….
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