Why does he ignore me?

[Anonymous]

There is a guy, we've been friends for several years. He has confessed his love to me and i rejected him in a quite harsh way. Nobody ever told me *I truly love you and im in love with you* before except him. Since that day he never calls me or texts me. I called him twice and he sounded heartbroken, sent him a text a month after and he didn't even care to open it up. He used to be my support buddy, we spent much time together. he's quite good honest guy, has knowledge of most things and knows a few languages, earns above average salary. I just didn't expect such thing from him. I've been dating for years but couldnt find anyone who actually cared for me like him. Every guy I've dated with they wanted to use me. Now i see him on stories he travels and goes around, having good time with his guy and women friends. I am jealous of him. What should i do? I just pretended like nothing happened. Its been months.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

congrats, you just destroyed that guy emotionally. Always the same with you girls, when there is a good man who is interested in you and treats you good, you friendzone him... and then you're all like "Where are all the good men?" He was probably trying to get to you all the time but was too shy to do that final step to open up, now that he opened up about his feelings, he got burned severly. That teaches us guys. You only wanted bad boys that treat you like an object and once a good man showed up, instant friendzone... Hope he recovered and found his peace.

[spartan55]

If you really don't understand why he ignores you, then you have ZERO self awareness... like you are really dumb.
You can reject someone, but was it necessary to do it in a 'harsh way'.
Now you just want to pretend like you didn't fuck that dude's head up and nothing happened. You blew it, you had your chance.

[John_Cobretti]

Ok so let's make it clear , what exactly is your intention? Do you wish to get along with him and accept his proposal?

If that's the case then open up to him and tell him that, if he's still into you maybe you two will get along

Keep in mind that you rejected him harshly so don't be surprised if he can't see you in the same way he used to and maybe he can't come back to you again

[RavVid]

If you were harsh in rejecting him, you have your why answer.

[Avicenna]

First you need to figure out what you want from him.

[Loner111]

Obviously you need to talk to him.

But at the same time, why did you do that?

[Anonymous]

Call him and ask