Honestly, I actually kind of need that sometimes, and when it happens, it helps me maintain my emotional equilibrium. I mean, I don't want her to be so angry that she's threatening to dismiss me, but a good verbal dressing down is never administered too soon or too often.
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It depends on the reason, in all cases I try to calm her down or let her vent, the important thing is that she does not seriously insult me in a disparaging manner and that she does not put her hands on me.
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I try and be open to whether it is justified or not. Do I owe an apology? Did I do something wrong? I usually ask what happened and try to talk about it. At this point one of three outcomes exist almost without exception.
A/ I realize I did mess up, own it, and apologize. Sometimes she’s over it quick and sometimes it lasts a bit.
B/ I realize I didn’t mess up and there is a gap between what I did or what happened and her understanding of the situation. I explain what happened and she understands, or she does not. If she doesn’t, then…
C/ I realize she cannot be reasoned with, the emotions have shut down any productive, logical, rational communication and therefore it is futile to speak - repeating the same points over and over. I say one single final time what I feel I need to say (even if it’s just an apology) and I walk away. We may not talk for the rest of the day. We may not talk for the rest of the week. Nonetheless emotional reactions are the domain of women and I have no business acting as such. Women are with men for the calm and stability we provide in life as protectors and sometimes that means protecting the relationship from ourselves. Keep compass pointed north and sail through the storm. The sun will come out again, soon enough.I know this is for the guys, but it's kinda comical. May I.
When my boyfriend got me mad at him AGAIN I would let him know he's in the 🐕 dog house and to leave me alone, and I would shut the door. He would go over to his mom's when this would happen.
I threatened to buy a big enough real dog house bug enough to fit him and put it on the balcony.
If he was in the dog house AGAIN unbeknownst to him, I got a piece of paper, drew a dog house on it and put a sticker of a dog inside the house.
When I looked later, the note was gone. He told me later he took it and laughed all the way home.
Which got me pissed AGAIN 🐕It's a similar feeling to when a cat tries to attack you and you're trying to get it to stop but you have the power to kick it out of 11 of its 9 lives without even trying.
Not clear why it's attacking, but there's no amount of force you can really respond with.
So it ends up seeming kinda cute. It's like what are you gonna do? Pout at me? Scratch me? Lol
9 times out of 10 there isn't even a good reason to be mad.
I like her to be honest with me, so if she's mad, so be it. I will be just as brutally honest back. I won't hit a woman though, so if she gets mad enough to hit me? I have to leave as quickly as possible
doesn't make me feel good. because i feel like why is it that i can handle conflicts in a reasonable manner. like i want to find out whats got you upset. see if i can make things better. but instead of resolving things calmly. you go straight into meltdown mode like it's world war. and start slamming doors, punching walls or want to put something through a window.
And all i ask is for a peaceful resolution. not go onto the battlefield everytime
personally, her problem. To clarify it depends on the why, where and when.
Is she mad for an actual reason or just because of some esoteric bs?
You know, we guys can't STAND the anger of women! It takes us right back to being four years old with our mothers! I don't mean just any woman, but if it's your own woman, like she's your wife, or your girlfriend, and she's important to you, and her opinion of you really matters to you, then it can be devastating, even if we don't show it!
Becasue... we can feel a... disturbance in the force...
but mostly we see when we talk to you and how you respond. That very cold shoulder, and the mmm and yea and okay short one liners we get. We know you are mad, and sometimes we dont get why.
Like really we are idiots. We can't read your minds ladies so sometimes you get mad at us for stuff we really are unware about.
If we messed up then yeah its different we can still see you are mad but then we know.
Wifey: It would be a lie to say that I am all cool. It's a working process. Sometimes I get upset and other times I make a point. Though rarely I let it ruin my day or the relationship.
Mother: I raise my voice. We both get upset. We swipe under the carpet and move on.Women in general: I take it like a man and move on.
Really depends why she thinks she is mad at me and whether I think her anger is justified ( which it rarely is ) regardless of gender of your going to come at me with anger then I’m not going to listen. You need to calmly express what’s up in an adult way. I simply won’t talk to you at all until you do.
I feel most often they got mad by themselves, not triggered by me. Crazy women.
It happens all the time. My SO gets mad, typically claiming something I didn't do, or didn't do right. I typically let her vent and she eventually calms down. There's no point trying to defend myself or argue with her. A man rarely wins an argument with a woman, and the consequences are usually bad when he does.
Depends on why. I don't put up with bullshit that comes from an emotional place. I don't care if she had a bad day, she has to treat me with respect.
With that said, if I did something that's logically and actually wrong, then I feel bad and try to make it right.
It all depends. Did I do something that I said I wouldn’t do? Or did I not do something that I said I would do? If it wasn’t either one of those things then I just leave her alone give her space. she’ll get over it, whatever it was and I’ll just get on my bike and take off or play my guitar.
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Right now, I only have my wife to worry about. I'm usually able to think of a quick solution though, because...
Depends on what the issue is.
There are things women get mad over that are just plain dumb. I will bluntly say this and not even participate in the discussion.
Then there are legitimate issues. Those I will try to have a mature conversation on and try to help her however I can.
It's called duck and cover and not stick my head out until the fury is past. Sometimes I've seen invisible hand grenades thrown at me because she pissed. I don't understand a mild kind person and their temperament changes in a heartbeat. I sometimes think I'd rather be in the pits of hell than being around my woman.
I feel that for being a woman, I don't own her a 'discount' in terms of pretending to agree, or not expressing my opinion for fear that she couldn't take it because she's too vulnerable. So I honestly don't spare what I think and if I genuinely think I'm wrong I admit it, but if I don't think I'm wrong I keep arguing.
It depends on what it is and if it's reasonable or not. Yes I pick and choose my battles accordingly but it depends on why she's mad, and how she chooses to handle it.
It's OK to be mad at someone and let them know, but this culture that seems to coddle gaslighters and narcissistic people is NOT ok.I ignore them and give them 2-3 days to get their shit together and apologize. After that they are on thin ice. If they haven't apologized within a week, I kick them to the curb.
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