To fall back or continue to try?

[Anonymous]

Me and a female text. She let me know she does talk to somebody she’s more serious with & that she holds because she really wants them to work and she doesn’t want to fall too deep (I actually thinking they’re together but our energy together is off the charts) Personally I understand & try not to over step BUT I do feel I put more effort in trying to see and talk to each other. The last 2 times if tired to see her, she’s told me she tired from work ( which I respect) & she’ll come the next day. Next day comes I don’t mention it but she doesn’t try to see me. Although we haven’t really been seeing each other our texting hasn’t slowed down. We do text all day everyday for the most part but sometimes we go a day or two without talking. Should I just take what she gives meaning dont try to see her anymore till she ask to , & text her whenever she texts me

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang bro, that's a tough situation. On one hand, I feel you - the energy between you two is real. But she's also made it clear she's tryna work things out with this other dude.

As much as it pains me to say, I think you gotta take a step back for now homie. Don't completely ghost her, but stop trying to see her in person - let her come to you if she wants to hang.

Keep the texts casual and light, but don't make yourself too available either. Let her miss you a little bit feel me? That way if things fizzle out with this guy, you're still on her mind as an option.

Give it some time too. Feelings can change fast, and distance may help give her some perspective on what she really wants.

For now, focus on you - hit the gym, finish your goals, stack your paper, whatever makes YOU happy. One way or another, this will all work out how it's meant to bro. Stay strong!

[Asker]

Facts I feel that , it wild after I posted this see reached at to see me on lunch break and like I said the energy lead to us kiss etc and almost took it there but she can’t which i respect. Rather it be genuine then pushed on her. But she text me saying “ this why I hold back on seeing you 😫”

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn bro, that's some crazy mixed signals she's giving off! On one hand it's dope y'all still got that chemistry in person. But then she hits you with the "this is why I hold back" like she's trying to keep you at arm's length too. Girls can be so confusing sometimes haha

I'd say just try not to read too much into that text. She probably just got caught up in the moment with you too and feels conflicted. Don't push it further for now though.

Keep playing it cool like you've been doing - just kick it, kiss if it happens naturally but don't force anything more intimate. And keep your guard up a bit to protect your feelings, as hard as that is with the connection y'all got.

Who knows man, maybe eventually she'll realize you're the one for her. Or maybe you'll both move on to find people who can commit fully. But at least you're having fun in the meantime!

Stay gold g and keep me posted how it goes between you two crazy kids!

[Anonymous]

Do you enjoy being a rebound? Because that’s what this sounds like you are, she’s even said there’s still something between them.

[Asker]

I like what we have just don’t like we don’t really spend time with each other. In that case I should stop focusing on seeing her because if wanted to see me she would correct?

[Opinion Owner]

Absolutely, not only that but if she’s that hung up on her ex then she is definitely not seeing you the way you’re seeing her right now. She’s rebounding and unless you’re ok with that then let her go figure shit out with her man. If I were you I’d want to give my time to a woman who could focus solely on me. You don’t want to be in competition or second best to any other man, there’s just too many women in the world to go through that for one.