Why do some women want the good guy after being knocked up by the "bad guy"?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

It’s not that she wanted a bad guy even from the start. Women don’t want horrible men, especially not as father of their kids. They thought the bad guy was a good guy until he showed his true self and by that point it was too late. Yes, believe it or not, some men will hide who they really are until the woman is stuck with him and he feels safe she can’t leave, or sometimes he just can’t keep up the show anymore. Some men will play good guy even for several years, until married or until she’s pregnant. Some men will little by little gaslight and manipulate his partner into thinking she’s the problem and he’s the only one he loves her. Often she’llnstart thinking if she changes or is a good woman to him then he’ll change back to how he used to be in the beggining (but that was just an act) so she’ll stick around waiting for him to turn back to what she truly believes is himself. She’ll be broken down psychologically and trauma bonds can be incredibly strong. All women want men who’re good to them, not only after having children, before as well. Sometimes the man she’s been with turns out to be not what she thought though.

[Asker]

Okay

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

yeah, no. Sorry after working in nursing for 30 years and either overhearing or being involved in hundreds if not thousands of conversations about the subject of bad decision dates and witnessing who they CHOSE to date, I CALL BS.

The overall majority knew they made horrible choices and fully admitted it and in nearly ever case it was a choice for " drum roll inserted here" THEY CHOSE THE BAD BOY BECAUSE HE WAS EDGY EXCITING and THEY KNEW they would be different, get married and live happily ever after.

There was a traveler that everyone lusted after and hooked up more often in 3 months with nurses, even married nurses, more often than they slept with their own husbands in a year.

I am not talking about camouflaged predators here. I am talking about men they KNEW had reputations of sleeping around and only doing the hookup thing and they all got pissed when they "shock and awe" found out those guys were dating multiple nurses etc etc.

Your scenario can happen no doubt but by far the majority know they made dumb dating decisions and fully admit it once they wake up from the relationship fog.

You can troll any reddit, dating or relationship forum and see this exact scenario played put over and over with women claiming to be victims then 2 sentences later admitting "I knew he had a reputation but"

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

They are drawn in by the excitement of the bad boy then faced with the reality of a huge bad decision when they realize life is about to drop a house on them.

Most lie to themselves thinking they are so special that bad boy will certainly commit to them only to find out they were a penis sleeve toy and now a single parent.

[Anonymous]

Excuse a lot of men don’t want to date a single mother. Many of them realize it’s harder meeting a man who wants an actual relationship w them. They tend to mistake men interested in them as him wanting something long term when in reality he just wants to put cream on that pie. They realize after a while that bad boy is t going to change, as exciting as he was or dangerous living on the edge, it’ll never change. As she matures more she relishes this isn’t the type of man to be w if I want something stable, a family, a house, etc. A lot of times too it’s for financial reasons. She wants a man to step in to help pay the bills, maybe even pay all the bills. Used snatch for new snatch prices.