Why am I obsessed over trying to figure out if this man is gay or not?

[Anonymous]

I’m a very busy person… with work etc but I constantly think about it and my chest starts to hurt and I feel sad… not that I don’t want someone to be who they truly are.. This man and I talked and went on a date… he’s “masculine “…. I felt hurt when it didn’t work out

But it’s not like I’m saying “oh he rejected me he must be gay”…. It’s not that type of feeling… I just still have feelings and can’t understand why if I suspect that he’s gay due to other reasons

[Anonymous]

If it didn't work out and you still have feelings for him, then I assume he was the one who ended it / rejected you.

Look. Even if he was gay, it's not your business. He isn't in a relationship with you. He does not want you all up in his business. If he wanted people to know he's gay, he would make it known himself.

So either you're trying to reveal a secret he is not ready to share, or you're trying to scrounge enough evidence to make a false accusation of his sexuality. Repeat: NOT YOUR BUSINESS. LEAVE HIM ALONE.

[Asker]

No I would never do that to someone especially someone I have feelings for. It’s not my business anymore because it didn’t work out … true. I’m not the type of person to blast someone

[Opinion Owner]

Okay good. It's fine to be curious, but you cross a line when you start looking for "evidence." If you want to keep tabs on him by still following him on social media or something, then if he does ever come out as gay (or clarify he's straight) you'll know. But if he doesn't ever say you'll have to be okay with that too.

[Asker]

He doesn’t want me in his life so there’s no point for anything

[DrPepper12]

How is your gaydar normally? If it didn't work out let it go.

[Asker]

I never really do gaydar… I usually can tell but he didn’t ding with me that easily bc I don’t know him well… but when he said he used to live in Atlanta… I don't know and he follows a trans woman’s page that post explicit post/ videos

[DrPepper12]

That's pretty complex. I don't know. Maybe bi or curious?

[Staximus]

Who cares, you went on one date. No big loss

[Staximus]

Move on with your life already

[Asker]

I wouldn’t ask if it were that easy…idk why I can’t

[In_Trance]

What other reasons?

[Asker]

The only thing I saw was him actively following a Transsexual woman who posts explicit vids/photos …

He’s 37… his dating profiles sexual preference is empty and he has he/him on his page… and a fake name