What does it mean to be confident with women?

[Anonymous]

[Lliam]

Not meek, shy or intimidated.
Comfortable with yourself.
Chill.
Not groveling.
Not desperate.
Able smile, look her in the eye, and have a conversation just like you would with a male friend. Treat her like a person.

Don't try to act cocky or put on false bravado.
Don't slouch or look at the ground.
Treat her like an equal.
If you think you are unworthy, she will be able to tell. So believe that you are her equal (don't just act like it). But it's okay if she can tell that you admire her and are even a bit in awe. After all, why would you talk to her in the first place? She'll be flattered.

The thing is, even beautiful women may have insecurities. You never know. And some of them are sick of smooth players who just want to get in women's pants. So you never know if a woman will be interested in getting to know you. And if she's not, no biggie. There are other women.

Different people have different tastes. If one woman isn't interested, it's not a reflection on you. And part of being confident is being able to take her or leave her.

[DrPepper12]

Shoot your shot!! Don't psyche yourself out cuz she's gorgeous and with 4 of her hot friends. Fortune favors the brave. Introduce yourself. REMEMBER HER NAME when she does the same with eye contact and a smile. Be engaging for the setting; she's already heard every scrub lameass timid small talk nonsense and can see right through your bullshit. LISTEN to her. Can't stress that enough. Ask questions. Be interested! Find the commonality. Read the fucking room! You should know in 30 seconds whether to continue or back off POLITELY. If it's mixed signals LEARN TO READ SIGNALS BETTER!! If you're not sure back off and try again later and while separate try for eye contact. If one of her friends is not with her go back to fifth grade and tell her friend that you think she's cute. Again, READ THE ROOM! She'll either relay it or not but you can be sure they talked about you when you backed off. Keep trying with others if for no other reason than practice. DO NOT BE AFRAID TO GO SOLO AND LEAVE THE GUYS! She will judge you - HARD - by that group of gorillas you call friends. Bring them in later when things are going well. You'll get there but just don't be afraid of rejection. You have to accept that you are putting yourself in a vulnerable position and all that comes with it. Good luck!

[DishLady]

Not sure if the term "swag" is still popular with your age group, but swag/charisma in approaching people and situations easily is highly attractive and draws the attention of others towards that person. The ability to approach and engage others is generally seen as a sign of confidence. So "being confident with women" just means that you're able to approach, engage and attract a gal.

[Asker]

All the guys with swag that I know get dumped by their girlfriend because they have a baby and the man doesn't change a diaper or top playing video games long enough to help her around the house.

Every man with swag I know has kids with multiple women and all those women dumped him.

I see absolutely zero value in "swag." If that's how I have to be to get women I just give up.

[DishLady]

Way to put a negative spin on a simple term... I think possibly the people you know who happen to have "swag" also happen to be irresponsible players (or PUA). I'm not suggesting that this is the way for you to behave... it's just a category of confidence.

Being confident obviously doesn't mean you have to make babies with every woman in your path...

[Asker]

Its a meaningless term. Just like confidence is meaningless. It doesn't tell you exactly how to act in any given situation.

[DishLady]

Ok, grumpy... then don't ask the question...

[Kingofkings1992]

Please don’t use the word swag

[Shy_Steve]

Dishlady He is not being Grumpy he is just explaining how he feels about the term which is like a lot of other terms.

Confidence is a Noun not a Verb.

[handsomelad70]

I'm 70, nobody my age used the word "swag," though some of us older boys spoke of "game."

[Anonymous]

Confidence

noun

A belief or conviction that an outcome will be favorable."I have every confidence that we can find a solution."
Belief in the certainty of something."The engineers determined with confidence that the ship could withstand heavy seas."
Belief in the effectiveness of one's own abilities or in one's favorable acceptance by others; self-confidence.

[Asker]

So when I talk to a woman I should pretty much pretend that I believe that she will like me and will want me?

[DrPepper12]

You have to understand that you are in marketing now. Advertising. You need to sell yourself.

[Jersey2]

Women like what they like but they know shit about real confidence. So many losers can fake it by being bold, funny and suave which will attract women but it can be faked and it isn’t really confidence, its more of a con game.

Just be yourself regardless and the right woman will click with you. But you have to have the balls to talk to them so just force yourself to approach them even if that is not what you want to do.

[dustybiker2]

Be yourself with your own strengths. Comfortable in your own skin without being cocky in an unattractive way.

[Finchie40]

Grow a pair of balls , don’t sell yourself short , talk to her like you want her talking to you , with respect and honesty. Most girls’ love a confident guy

[handsomelad70]

Confident, but not cocky or arrogant.(Really, I don't know why a man would be cocky around a women, since they can reject him and deflate his ego.)

[Finchie40]

Yea not cocky , cockiness will pretty much get you nowhere with someone. Unless they are cocky to lol Most girls’ love confident guys’ that can look her in the eyes and strike up a casual conversation with her , without coming on to her to strong , it’s ok if he flirts with her a little just to let her know he is interested in her but he is best to keep it casual to make her feel comfortable as well. Make her laugh and smile , once she feels comfortable with you , that’s when you ask her out and get her number.

[LiamJHayden]

To me it's just a matter of understanding that women are individuals. Some will like you, some might be intrigued and give you an opportunity, some won't give you the time of day. Just go with it.

[OtterMan68]

you don't come off as desperate. You are eloquent and articulate when you speak and not a lot of "uhs," ums," and "like." You make eye contact. You speak with them as if it does not matter if they shoot you down.

[northerngal]

You are yourself. If a woman does not like the real you then to hell with her... however a confident man is still respectful. Of himself and others.

[mandyfire98]

Be 100 percent you and what you like without fear and without trying to be someone else. Just pure pride in who you are.

[kellytheman]

To not worry what other think when your together, not be nervous, relaxed and chill person, is all about how you carry yourself and mood.

[itsclearlynicholas]

I never bought into that hogwash anyhow and learnt it's hogwash attracting the type I wouldn't like in a woman anyhow lol ✌🏻☮️✌🏻☮️🤭

[John_Cobretti]

To spank her ass while maintaining eye contact

[Asker]

Well that's the funny thing, I can do that. I have maximum confidence inside of a relationship or with a one night stand. I can do all of the things I can lead the way I can take us from a kiss to the bedroom to freaky shit and back.

The problem is there is a big barrier between meeting someone and fucking them. I have zero confidence until I know she likes me and wants me.

If I don't know if she likes me I have zero confidence at all and I don't know what to do at all.

I don't want to project my sexuality onto a woman who doesn't want it. I feel like that holds me back a lot.

[John_Cobretti]

No woman is going to NOT like you if you give her a good choke while looking into her soul
If you have a woman you like and if she's showing signs of interest, just take her to an elevator and enact the elevator kiss scene from 50 shades, she's instantly YOURS

[Asker]

Thank you I watched the clip. I have done this kind of thing before. But only to girls I never said a word to, who were basically "accidentally on purpose" touching me.

Ya know? For example I got dragged to a party and there was a cute girl there. I ignored her completely of course because I am not good at flirting and such.

Over the course of the night there were many instances where the girl would pass me a beer or maybe the bottle opener. Our fingers would touch.

Then she got so close to me she was literally leaning against me her arm against my side. She was facing away while ither guys popped up at the party and came to flirt with her. She curbed them all away.

At some point we end up facing eachother and looking at eachother, never said a word yet.

I reached out, took her arm and pulled her into me and we started kissing.

Ok so that's fine. She made is very clear to me that she liked me. She was too close. Pretending not to notice she was touching me. I could FEEL her desire for me and I had confidence because of that.

But most of the time women don't do that. They don't make it so obvious. And most of the time you're not touching and such like that.

Maybe I should try to touch them more I don't know. I'm very much afraid to touch a girl who doesn't want it.

[John_Cobretti]

That's sexy , you should've also have pinned her arm to the wall like Mr. Grey did haha
Anyways, some women make it easy for us by being so obvious, but most women don't be so physically obvious but they do drop some obvious hints that they like you
99% women drop little clues and want the man to lead , once they are interested in you they secretly want to submit to whatever you do to them
So if you see a woman showing signs of interest , you should start touching her slowly, like random touching to the hand or her shoulders and slowly break the touch barrier
And then in the end you will be pinning her to the wall with a long kiss

[Asker]

Thank you. I do understand what you're saying. There was a time where I didn't.

I guess I have to practice touching them more.

It's hard for me because I have this underlying fear of projecting sexuality onto women. That most men are creeps and if I engage in that kind of behavior I will be yet another creep harassing women sexually.

I feel like it's a fine line but you have to play the game.

[John_Cobretti]

Ok yeah , don't out of the blue pin her wrists to the wall and kiss her , most women love that secretly and wish men own them but there's a risk of you getting arrested for abuse if she doesn't like it
As I said , start with gentle decent touches and watch her reaction. From my experience, as I said, if you don't make a move the woman is just gonna keep hoping you to make a move and you both will end up losing each other

[Asker]

How do you go about touching them in a way that shows you're interested but also doesn't get you in trouble or make the girl think you're doing something creepy?

Typically I go for the "accidental on purpose" touch but I think it needs to be a bit more forward than that obviously lol.

[John_Cobretti]

Yeah the accidental touch works, or just a hand or pat on shoulder and see her reaction
Plus you don't have to lead the way only with touches , as she shows signs of interest ask her for a date and as you get closer and closer to her you will eventually find yourself breaking the touch barrier with her

[ProbablyClueless]

The biggest thing is to know how to have a legit conversation.

[perpetualsadnessss]

Being yourself. No need to show off or try to impress them.

[handsomelad70]

Be able to relate to women without repelling them.

[VV3ZZY123]

It means you dont care if she doesn't like you. You like you. And you dont need her approval.

[Anonymous]

Converse with them confidently, ask them out confidently. I can do the first one easily. The better the woman looks the bigger her ego is

[RedInnocent69]

Not afraid to talk to them is a start.