Why is she talking about me with her friends at work?

Question

My coworker and her gal pals are still talking about me (she’s having relationship issues with her live in SO atm).

I had told her to get in touch if she was ever single and interested when she was trying to be chummy and pushing boundaries after avoiding real talk with me.

I finally ended up blocking her on social media after she went out of her way to be all I just want to be friends, but understand if you don’t want that.

But then recently she and her friends at work are all gossiping about me barely out of earshot like “he’s cute but doesn’t seem fun,” and “doesn’t know how to flirt,” and “was nice to me back then but many reasons to not hang out.”

That last one was a week after she got my phone number (tried to do it on the sly but another coworker she’s not as close to made her come to me direct) wanting it for “emergencies,” lol, which there are none she’d need my contact for.

I've given her all the space in the world; why am I still the subject of conversation? I just want peace and quiet at this point lol but they never talk to me directly nor just let it fade away.

Oliverlogan263 · Answer

it sounds like she might still have some interest in you but also doesn't want to fully admit it or act on it since she's dealing with relationship issues of her own. People sometimes gossip as a way to indirectly get attention or send signals without directly confronting an situation.

My advice would be don't give her chatter much thought or let it get to you. You were upfront with her about your interest, and now have put boundaries in place by blocking her on social media. You've done your part, the ball is in her court if she wants to actually have an honest conversation.

For now just keep your distance, be cordial at work if you have to interact but don't engage with the gossip. Show you're unbothered. She may be intrigued by the mystery of it all. Focus on your own thing and other people at work worth your time and energy. If she shapes up and wants to truly bury the hatchet, then you can decide how or if to proceed from there. But no use stressing over her confusing games right now!

_Maya_ · Answer

Okay so I have a couple of guesses that might possibly explain. Maybe they are just gossipy girls. Some girls just are like that and there is no reason. That is a simple answer to why. Now I am more inclined to think that because of what happened (the back and forth, blocking, etc) they are doing it to get under your skin on behalf of their friend. Basically they might be playing high school level immature games. They want you to hear it and get bothered... and you are since you posted this about it. Just ignore them and eventually it will stop when they know it isn't bothering you. At least I would hope because it is a really immature thing as an adult if that is what they are doing.

Why is she talking about me with her friends at work?

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