How can I stop feeling regretful?

[Anonymous]

I constantly think about the mistakes I made in the past and I feel very bad, I even have anxiety thoughts that bad things might happen to me.

[Anonymous]

The fact that you think about things means you’re a good person still. Look, we have all done things that are wrong. But what matters is when you realize what you have done. Do you double down? Or do you feel sorry and repent of it.

I think you should pray to God and tell him you’re sorry for whatever it is you did. Ask him for mercy in both this life and the next. Dedicate your life to him and learn from your mistakes/bad choices. Don’t repeat them like some people do because they are their own worst enemy.

Pray until the feelings are gone. If it takes days. Weeks. Of fasting and praying that’s fine. Have a space you can go for a couple of hours. Cry. Pray whatveer. If you need mental health support I don’t discourage you from getting this as well. Seeking professional help. But prayer is very important.

Pray and talk to God about what you did, how you feel, what you’re worried is gonna happen, what you should do to make things right, and the list goes on. Pray for people you may have hurt.

[DJB72]

Don't keep thinking about your past or you'll miss your future. Forgive yourself.

Even if you're at the top of the range in your question (16-24) you're still very young to waste time living in the past. Whatever you did is gone. Even if you killed someone. Your regret can't give back any time you took so find a way to forgive yourself and move forwards.

[Asker]

I'm afraid that people will judge me, I grew up in a Muslim environment and I flirted with a few people on the internet, I know it's normal for you, I think it should be normal too, but here people see you as a whore..

[Asker]

And thanks for your nice comment 😊

[Asker]

I am not Muslim anymore, but living with them, so that's why I am scared

[DJB72]

Honestly the best thing under those circumstances would be to move away. I had a couple of friends at college (I was a very mature student - older than all but one of my lecturers) who were around 21-22 by graduation that were ex-muslims. They'd been given a really hard time by family and friends and ended up leaving home at 16-17 to get away from it.

We used to chat about it over bacon sandwiches twice a week 🤦 - their choice, not my suggestion - and they had had a decidedly negative experience as former muslims.

I don't understand how simply talking to someone online makes you a whore...

[Asker]

Yes I also want to leave my home country, especially because of this religion topic,
But I can't say lie, in the past, I was like them also, like fanatic Muslim, but then I changed, now
Now I see the truth,..

You are right when you say, but according to such Muslims, men can do anything, but the fact that I flirted with a few men while I was underage is a whore, unfortunately they are like this and can spread my name to everyone as a whore, what a shame..

[DJB72]

One of a million reasons I rejected Islam when I was looking for answers as a teenager

[elaphe]

I would understand that you can't change the past, only work on the future. As a Catholic, I have a priest absolve my sins. It is a great sense of relief having God's forgiveness. If you are not a believer and can't cope by yourself, try psychotherapy.

[Asker]

I am not a Christian but thanks , actually I went to therapy but did not work so much, maybe being believer is better

[JacobJordan]

You accept that they happened and you learn from them. The only reason to dwell on the past is because one has not learned something from it. Failure to learn from the past leads to repeating it in the future. Accept it, learn from it, move on.

[DrPepper12]

Right on!! ❤️

[SugarSugarplum]

Mistakes are a valuable way to learn new things. Just resolve to learn from your mistakes and not repeat them. Then get out of your own head and live your life. Be kind, show compassion. Help others.

There is not one person who has made no mistakes (other than Jesus Christ, reportedly).

[HighValue]

It depends. What kind of mistakes did you make?

Some mistakes are much easier to resolve than others.

[Asker]

Over sharing...

[HighValue]

Over sharing what? Stuff about yourself, or stuff about friends that they wanted kept private?

[Asker]

Over sharing about my family problems, and flirted with a few people online.. I regret because of these are

[HighValue]

Do you mean that you flirted with people online while you were in a relationship, or while you were single?

[Asker]

No, of course I was single.

[Asker]

I mean, how can I say,
I grew up in a Muslim environment and the men I dated were also Muslims, The problem is, according to them, a girl's flirting is considered whoring, and I live with Muslims and I'm afraid they will judge me.

[ProbablyClueless]

The best way I've found is to get out into the world and live more life.

The interesting thing about getting into ruts in life is that you usually get passed them by simply choosing to not let them stop you

[DrPepper12]

Excellent advice!!

[exitseven]

okay- everyone has things in their lives that they wish they did differently. You are not alone in that. Life is really just one long rehearsal. You are always going into unchartered waters.

Work on making yourself the best version that you can be, treat people fairly and love somebody unconditionally.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/XKU0S5K5aYE

[DrPepper12]

Therapy and medication. Stoicism and philosophy. Anxiety is living in the future, depression is living in the past. Let it all go and live in the present!!

[OtterMan68]

have you tried counseling?
Also just keep reminding yourself you can't change the past and your mistakes were learning experiences and that now that you know they are mistakes, you're a better person for having the knowledge not to repat them

[jshm2]

You don't.

But you instead document yourself and do better day by day. That way the past means less and less.

[Staximus]

You need to learn how to be present, live in the present, and not live inside your head. There's a book that talks about this concept called "The Power Of Now"

[Iron_Man]

Overcome adjust and adapt set new goals, accomplish something make yourself feel proud maybe talk to a professional counselor as well try not to take medication unless you absolutely need it

[BCRanger10]

What kinds of mistakes and what's got you so preoccupied with them?

[MrDaveAPSI]

You have a lot of time on your hands, don't you?

[Asker]

i did not understand

[Kingofkings1992]

Try some alcohol or weed

[DrPepper12]

Good advice! Escapism has it's time and place!!

[laly520]

therapy would help

[Asker]

I used to oversharing a lot and I'm afraid that something will happen to me because of the mistakes I made, like the fear of someone killing me. and
and I went to therapy..

[laly520]

it gets better with time, u will heal n u will feel much better, trust me
just dont give up

[In_Trance]

Therapy