If women can't tell suttle red flags then why do they still date and get in relationships?

[Filthy_Immigrant]

normally when we humans get hurt constantly we stop doing whatever it is that is causing that harm, but for some reason this does not seem the case with women. women never seem to learn how to avoid toxic dudes and the fact that you always hear them complaining about how "all men are the same" to them speaks for itself.

but I asked myself, if you can't learn from your mistakes then why repeat them? especially when you know that mistake will harm you?

PS: I dont date or get into relationships myself because I can't tell good and bad women apart do to my ASD. not like its an easy thing nowadays.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

They know, they have to. A woman will notice a man's eye twitch and then when she turns around a moment later, jump to conclusions because she can figure out what window he was looking through.

They'll sneak through your phone and jump to conclusions by going through everything you bookmark or like or follow.

They (definitely not all) like being in that position. there's many different flavors of people in this category but the overall idea is that they're drawn in by the tension of the relationship. They're addicted to drama.

Drama is best defined as when the axis of anticipation and uncertainty intersect.

This causes a roller coaster of emotions which have the effect of a infinite dopamine loop. Some people are fully aware, some are not even close to being conscious of what they're doing.

[b_lova]

Women and men have attractions that make them blind to the negatives of certain personality traits. That coupled with the hormones and excitement when a person first gets into a relationship can make them blind to or overlook the red flags. Which is why I encourage people to hang out with their close friends who are also in a relationship and let them provide feedback on a love interest before the relationship gets to far along. That doesn't always work, but sometimes they can catch things you miss.

The other thing I tell people is to not suffer in silence. Love yourself enough to identify your boundaries and speak up when they get crossed.

[pinconon]

I think abusive men are very good at being manipulative and hiding their true selves. Internet comments can be very distasteful but not always abusive.

[Filthy_Immigrant]

the first part sounds a little irrational to me because somehow I know both abusive males and females when I see one.

in fact I often see women do the polar opposite. they meet the nicest fool ever that treats them like normal human beings and they end up scorning them for either being too nice or having ulterior motives, just to fall into the arms of the real abusive jerkoffs later on. and to make matters worst they always have a tough time leaving the abusive jerk

[Dongie]

Hey F_I, I'm the last person in the history of mankind to ask and define how a woman can let herself be treated with violence. I've been told many times that it's because she loves him.
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[Filthy_Immigrant]

I guess they love what hurts them after all

[Dongie]

I know one did.

[Drewtate]

Young Women love danger and drama.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Relationships and intimacy is a natural human function and people aren't going to stop because it's not normal to be single and sexless for the exception of a few.