Is it true that women just want you to listen to them when they complain about something but don't give them solutions about that thing?

[Emmytexrex]

Is it that we should listen and give open ended questions because if we bring our opinions it look as if we are forcing bour opinions bon you guys

[Anonymous]

Most of the time yes. We just want someone to vent to, someone to actually hear us out and validate our feelings, someone who can be our emotional support. When I’m talking about someone that pissed me off for example I expect my boyfriend to go “yeah I’d be pissed too if I were you” rather than having him trying to find an explanation for their action like “maybe they did that bcs they’re (fill in the blank)”.

Usually I would have to make it clear to my boyfriend that I just want to rant and am not looking for a solution, but at the end of my rant I’d open up the floor for solutions and suggestions from him. What I never want is for my boyfriend to give me a lecture and tell me I’m wrong, at least wait until I’ve finished my rant please lol.

[Emmytexrex]

Okay I see

[IslaTheWitch]

you always should listen first, not important if you talk with a woman or a man... it's disrespectful to not listen if someone talks to you

so women and men don't really differ here... both want to be respected and heard out

but some people (in both genders, women just speak about it openly) need a bit more, kind of active listening, showing emotional reaction, ask questions, etc...

I'm like that sometimes, especially if the situation upset me I need to be heard out in an active way... I need a shoulder to cry my frustration out :D

but I don't need a solution... I can find it by myself :D

[Emmytexrex]

Okay yh all genders wants to be heard and listen to

[DrPepper12]

I've learned a few things from marriage and therapy. The most important one was this: ask her at the beginning of any potentially heated discussion or disagreement, " Do you want me to listen or do you want me to solve?". It focuses her mind on the issue and gives pause to what she wants out of the conversation. Its THE BEST interpersonal trick i know. Its POWERFUL! IT WORKS!

[HighValue]

The majority of them just like to complain, but don't actually want solutions. That is also why many like to play victim in situations, but do nothing to improve their circumstances.

[Emmytexrex]

Okay that's your opinion

[HighValue]

An opinion based on real life observations, experiences, conversations, etc. So YES, it is true for many people.

[Anonymous]

Yes, sometimes just complaining something sucks is all we need. The obvious solutions are not needed. We can generally think the obvious on our own. Just getting it out is usually an improvement and it wouldn't hurt if you agreed the other person was being stupid or that the situation sucked without tell me I'm being unreasonable, even if I am.

[Emmytexrex]

Yes I understand that's one I have learned in my life I just listen and tell you how I feel about the situation and you find the solution

[HelpfulWoman]

sometimes.
i try to let my partner know in advance if thats the case "hey i just want to bitch, listen to me but don't give solutions okay"

[Emmytexrex]

Hmm ok that's nice

[Jessikaah91]

Yes, we like being able to vent about any problems, have someone to listen and validate our feelings with no judgement even if no one can help, sometimes having someone there to just listen can be enough!

[Emmytexrex]

Ok noted

[sirderpsalot123]

I've found this to be true

[Emmytexrex]

How is it in your relationship?

[sirderpsalot123]

She usually just wants me to listen

[Emmytexrex]

Okay