Is putting a woman on a pedestal a bad thing?

[Anonymous]

All these male dating coaches says it is. They say if you put a woman on a pedestal by saying things like she’s the most beautiful woman you’ve ever seen, you can’t live without her, and basically anything that makes it seem like she’s too good for you, will make her unconsciously perceive you as lower value.

If a tell a woman she’s the first 10 I’ve ever met, is that a bad thing?

What do women think about this male advice?

[HelpfulWoman]

I would kind of agree with it because... realistically.. NO person will be a "10".
I get it can just be "romantic" for some, but I guess in my more pessimistic view, it just feels over the top to me.

[Anonymous]

I stop reading at dating coaches.

No wonder you sound so immature and confused.

[Asker]

Thanks for nothing snowflake

[Nxtawm]

Yes but also not quite by your description of it. First all, I wouldn’t take the advice of male dating coaches too seriously, especially those that try to come off as “alpha”. You can watch them but like 90% of the advice they give is exaggerated or simply not gonna work much in my opinion.

Second, I just have to say, it’s not only women that you shouldn’t put on a pedestal, the same goes for the reverse too. Women or men shouldn’t put the opposite gender on a pedestal in general when dating because you start to fall for some fantasied version of them in your head rather than seeing who they really are. I think you also start to devalue yourself, I can’t explain myself well but I just think it gets toxic when one person is put on a pedestal in a relationship. Also with what you said about making them “unconsciously perceive you as lower value” I don’t rlly think that’s a thing, the closest thing to that is that if you constantly put someone on a pedestal there’s a chance they might start to take it for granted rather than being appreciative of your love back.

Lastly, why I say that’s not quite it either by your given description of pedestal js that there’s nothing wrong with complimenting a woman you find attractive. I don’t think you’re putting them on a pedestal by simply telling them you find them beautiful or a 10/10. How else are you supposed to express your interest? I think putting someone on a pedestal is more extreme stuff like thinking they can do no wrong, making excuses for them when they’re not treating you right, or thinking that there’s no better person than them.

so yeah it’s okay to compliment someone you find attractive. Ofc just don’t go saying you can’t live without them on the first meeting lol stuff like that is only okay to say in deep relationships, you’re coming off too strong.