Is it fun to have a hypothetical girlfriend?

[paledreams]

• I don't mean like literally having an imaginary friend. That's crazy or even see a shrink (a qualified psych) recommended lol. No I'm just talking about daydreaming of a hypothetical girlfriend.

Sure it is

No that's lame

Hmm maybe 🤔😋

I'm a chick, so hypothetical boyfriend

Im gay/bi, so hypothetical partner

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[Anonymous]

Bad idea. I used to think that my understanding what I wanted in a woman by thinking out what I wanted and didn't want in terms of the girl, really just screwed me up for relationships in general. Bascially, what I ended up doing is deciding in my head on an impossible girl that could never really exist, being all the traits I valued in women in general.

Practically, its best to keep your mind free from ideas of what you want in a partner and experience people as they come and one day you'll realise someone you spend more time with than everyone else IS your perfect person and the best part if, everything about them will be perfect because you never foolishly pre-thought anything different.

[Anonymous]

Borderline speaking here, so perhaps I have a distorted view compared to the average, but... No. Daydreaming of a hypothetical partner is fun at first, but it becomes absolute torture after being alone for a little too long, or after having suffered through unsuccessful relationships. It starts to feel like a pipe dream, something unachievable, and then dating as a whole starts to feel utterly hopeless once you start to feel like either no real person will ever live up to the one you daydream about, or that even if you did meet this perfect person somehow, they would not love you the way you would love them.

Maybe, even probably, others can engage with that daydream in a healthy way. Not me. That is a road to insanity for me.