Am I a dick (m31), or is my girlfriend (32) being unfair?

[Anonymous]

We are 2 and a half months into our relationship, we have had a few minor arguments so far but 2 weeks ago we had a larger one. We had a video call as we live apart, she was on her period and feeling unwell, she was telling me how much it hurt and I told her that I understood and hope the pain eases soon, and asked if there was anything I could do. She was telling me how she wished I was there and I said that I would come asap but I did have work to finish for the following week and thar I was busy on the Sunday playing boardgames with friends (later cancelled) so couldn't promise that I would be able to. So we had a whatsapp exchange ( below) and I just feel she had been a tad unfair. Although I certainly could have been a bit more. empathetic on the call she had been quite demanding insinuating that I should call in sick on the Friday to look after her Anyway was she unfair, or was I?

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Any other viewpoints?

[Anonymous]

You’re handling this really well, you seem very patient and understanding. Your girl on the other hand… as a girl who also goes through a menstrual cycle every month, I can tell that she’s just hormonal and being clingy, she’s throwing an unnecessary tantrum. I bet she’ll start a similar argument again next month 😬

I think you handled yourself really well here though, it’s best to not take the bait (of her calling you a robot, etc etc) and don’t try to explain yourself, rather just do go along with it (like what you’re doing) - she’s looking to start an argument so by not reacting or defending yourself, you’re doing the both of you a favor. Look at how she switched up in the end when you started acting lovey dovey (while ignoring her accusations). She just needed to act out her frustrations and was just looking for a reason to be pissed bcs she’s uncomfortable and is in pain.

I do think you shouldn’t be enabling this behavior though, being on her period doesn’t excuse her from using you as a punching bag. Later down the line, I do think you’d need to have a chat with her about this.

[Dongie]

Like your presence would work like a pain pill
There is always that underlying spirit that says you men should share enthusiasm shit. Fuck. Think about that big babies. Very few women refrain from pushing that shit on ùs. I'm not explaining nothing.

[DrPepper12]

Needy and aggressive. I don't know about this woman...