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There is a woman I like, a two days ago I invited her to hang out, she said she couldn't and she didn't set any date, this is the second time she does this.
Understanding that she doesn't like me I got away from her but she keeps texting me and last night she reminded me of a mathematical technique I have for her to have success in her studies and that she also wants to take that opportunity to give me a cake made by her (she is a pastry chef).
And a few weeks ago she couldn't sleep so I taught her a technique I developed to be able to sleep when for some reason you can't.
So, the mathematical technique plus the sleeping technique and the fact that she keeps texting me when I decide to stop talking to her because of her apparent lack of interest tell me that she only wants to use me to benefit from my techniques.
Although she also suggested for us to meet a college for the mathematical technique and the cake. I told her that our schedules are not compatible so there won't be a chance to meet, she said that we can work it out and meet.
Sorry for writing too much.
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Dude, this girl is definitely keeping you on the hook for what you can offer, but has no real interest in you. A few red flags:
- She flakes twice when you ask to hang out, but makes sure to text you about "techniques" she wants.
- She's using you as a source of free help and info, not seeing you as potential dating partner.
- Her excuse of busy schedules is BS if she can't spare even one night to meet, but finds time to talk your ear off.
- Bribing you with a cake is just a lame ploy to get more out of you without giving anything back.
I'd cut her off, bro. Stop responding when she hits you up just for tips and tricks. Only a fool would keep giving to someone who has shown zero reciprocation.
You deserve a girl who actually WANTS to go out with you, not one so obviously using you as a personal tutor/therapist. Don't let her play you, man! Your time is valuable. Find someone who gives a sh*t about YOU.
While I agree with you, when we text we talk about a lot of things, not only my techniques, she tells me stuff about her life and her work and asks me about my life and my work.
Which makes this whole thing ever weirder.
Ahh okay, gotcha. That does make it weirder then if you guys actually talk about normal stuff too and not just the techniques. I guess she must at least like talking to you if she's sharing personal stuff and asking about your life too. But then the flaking on hanging out plans is still kinda sketch. Man, girls are so confusing sometimes! On one hand, it seems like you guys get along well over text. But on the other, her bailing when you try to meet up in person makes it seem like she's not that into you after all. I dunno what to think at this point. Maybe give it one more shot and ask her out, but explicitly say it's a date so there's no confusion. See how she actually responds this time instead of flaking again. If she agrees, great, you have a real shot. But if she bails a third time or makes up another excuse, then I'd take that as your sign she's just using you for attention when she's bored but isn't really interested. Tread lightly for now, my dude. Girls like this can totally mess with your head until you figure out what's what.
@Delvalle1994
For goodness sake wake up and smell the coffee... All she's doing is cleverly using you as and when it simply benefits her.
If I found myself in a similar situation, I certainly know what I would be doing, or would have done by now,
Sounds like she is using you. At the same time it could be one of those things where a girl doesn’t like the dude but she likes the attention. So when you stop texting her she text you to hook you again on her fishing reel. But she will never give you what you want. She’s just using that to feed her ego. If that is what it is. But either way both are bad. Move on. Stop talking to her. She’ll hit you up again I’m sure. But you need to move on.
She keeps asking for ways to help her like I described in the detail of my question.
She should be ashamed of herself since she is way smarter than me.
Ok. So now it’s time to movemon